Comment on Anon changes his strategy
FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world 12 hours ago
People who recommend negging are evil.
People who recommend looksmaxxing are quite morally questionable because they’re trying to turn dating into a socially darwinistic battle royale, which i guess is in response to the proliferation of dating apps, which they perceive as a socially darwinistic battle royale, in roughly their own words. They also outright lie - no, not everyone likes hunter eyes or sunken cheekbones, tallness, even skinniness, or bulky muscles. This feels like a war against human diversity. And in many cases they pretend these looksmaxxed features just naturally appear when you lead the perfect masculine routine of icebaths, red meat meals and frequent workouts. Which is a lie. (I think stuff like this is why there are articles saying ‘exercise culture is fascist’)
But back to negging: not only is this encouraged by a plurality of random young people online, but it’s weirdly also pushed hard by hollywood & american television - anyone else noticed that?
And negging is ALSO endorsed by, that’s right, none other than Jeffrey Epstein. He had a bunch pf emails going “wow, dude, your negging advice totally works! She wants me more than ever!” So yes, it’s safe to say it’s actually evil. Part and parcel of training people to objectify their partners (so is looksmaxxing, because to objectify yourself usually causes you to objectify your partner)
Rant over.
Shit, probably the best dating perspective on this greentext community in a long time.
A LOT of guys here would pretty much say “Yea, it’s bad, but that’s just how human brains work, we are wired a certain way, heard mentality, blah blah blah.” and that shit does not sound right. Glad you are combating that
Also yea, fuck negging
A LOT of guys here would pretty much say “Yea, it’s bad, but that’s just how human brains work, we are wired a certain way, heard mentality, blah blah blah.” and that shit does not sound right. Glad you are combating that
What I never get about this is…does not your very existence refute this argument? If you’re a 20-something male and convinced that your genetics just doom you forever to celibacy…how exactly do you explain your own existence? Unless you are the result of a rape, you, by definition, have the genes necessary to attract a partner. After all, everyone in your family line prior to you managed to do it. If your genes were so incredibly bad that literally no one would want you as a partner, then your parents would have never gotten together, and you wouldn’t exist.
No one springs forth fully formed from the brow of Zeus. The very existence of an incel disproves incel theology.
That doesn’t necessarily hold up though. A ceasar salad is delicious. So is pistachio ice creme. The result of mixing the two however…
Sure, but the features incels obsess over are almost always features their own father possesses.
An incel could make the point that the internet changes the calculus, or that “ugly” people can be born to “beautiful” parents, or any other number of counterpoints.
You can’t use logic and reason to argue someone out of a conclusion they have arrived at for emotional reasons. Lots of men and boys have been socialized in a really bad way, which makes them unappealing partners. Realizing, accepting, and working to change that, is extremely hard. Instead, with “bad” genetics, then the failures aren’t actually your fault, and you don’t need to change.
but it’s weirdly also pushed hard by hollywood & american television - anyone else noticed that?
Yes! A lot of american humor is based on tearing someone down. I cringe thinking back into my childhood when I participated in this type of behavior but thankfully i’ve stopped a long time ago. Still saddens me that a lot o people just don’t mature out of it and keep behaving like this.
Also fuck negging and all the garbage that comes out of the manosphere. Bunch of insecure man babies
bearboiblake@pawb.social 12 hours ago
Probably plays a part of it, but the main reason why is because fascism has always been obsessed with aesthetics, individualism, and the concept of übermenschen. Much of our modern health & wellness industry is focused more on aesthetics than actual health outcomes.