Comment on handling strays
Deceptichum@quokk.au 19 hours agoThat’s been my experience too. Men are very standoffish or happy to be alone, women see another woman alone and want to adopt them like a stray kitten.
Comment on handling strays
Deceptichum@quokk.au 19 hours agoThat’s been my experience too. Men are very standoffish or happy to be alone, women see another woman alone and want to adopt them like a stray kitten.
Postmortal_Pop@lemmy.world 19 hours ago
You guys need a dog catcher in your group. This is one of those archetypes that gets over looked because it feels like something that’s part of several other archetypes, but it really makes a difference to have it stand alone.
It’s in the name, he catches strays. This is the guy that pulls groups together from separate circles, introduces new guys to the group, or occasionally plays match maker. He’s probably running your Discord server or keeps putting you in group chats, he’s the one that does the logistics planning when it comes to more complicated outings Lee week long trips and bachelor parties. In public outings he probably makes friends with staff or other queue waiters. He’s probably the guy that stages interventions but out of genuine care.
There are others that can fill the role, golden retriever boys are good at the finding people but too dumb to coordinate. Fearless leaders can attract crowds but normally don’t have the personal touch to keep anyone new long term. Sheep dogs are great at keeping new boys in the group but they don’t invite new people. More often than not, the dog catcher will be playing another role in the group because their current services aren’t being utilized so he’s either not invested in it or your group is one of his secondary groups. If you’re scrolling through your contacts trying to figure out who I’m taking about, if you’re the forever DM, or if your boys keep saying “whatever happened to X” and you’re the guy that reminds them, you’re probably the dog catcher.
flamingo_pinyata@sopuli.xyz 18 hours ago
I’ve never heard these words used to describe social dynamics, but it all makes perfect sense. And TIL I’m a golden retriever.
slothrop@lemmy.ca 18 hours ago
Who’s a good boi…?
Postmortal_Pop@lemmy.world 17 hours ago
Just remember that your high energy and positive vibe are likely the delight of everyone around you. You don’t need to be a master planner to keep the spirits high.
tomiant@piefed.social 16 hours ago
In some forms of social psychology they’re labeled “bridgers”, as far as I recollect. They are not archetypes at all and have nothing to do with Jungian psychology. It’s also fairly pseudo-scientific.