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Ghostalmedia@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

• abbadon420@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Haven’t had a problem with it. Life’s expensive, I couldn’t afford anything, but I still can’t and I don’t think I would’ve otherwise.

  I dropped out of collge at 23 and didn’t know what to do with my life. So took a job in a factory and we had a kid.

  Now I’m 35 and I’m older, wiser, better. And I’m now finishing my bachelor and starting my career as a software developer. All while many other software developers my age are dropping out because of burn out or bore out.

  I’d argue it’s much more fun to figure out parenthood while you’re young and relatively free with plenty of time and energy for your kid. than to figure out parenthood when you’re older, more tired and have to work a demanding career.

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  • Ghostalmedia@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Everyone is different, but a lot of studies show that late 20s / early 30s is a sweet spot for stability and not encountering big risks with conceiving.

    That said, having kids in your early 20’s, and early 30’s both sounds miserable to me.

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    • i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      I had mine in my early 20s. Sucked. Laying the groundwork for my own stability was a lot harder than it should have been, but I got it done anyway with a combination of a mountain of determination, an incredible amount of work, natural talent and smarts, and so much luck.

      But the child will be an adult by the time I am 40, so I got that going for me.

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  • baines@lemmy.cafe ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    you missed the best time to figure out parenthood

    but good on you for self improvement while working and raising a kid

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• krashmo@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Bright side is that they’re out of the house by 45. Still though, I’d rather be relatively free of responsibilities at 25 than 45.

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  • Ghostalmedia@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    There is a pretty good chance they ain’t leaving the nest after high school. Wage stagnation, increased housing prices, limited junior job roles. People stay at home forever these days.

    pewresearch.org/…/the-shares-of-young-adults-livi…

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    • kadaverin0@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      I was out of my own by 18 simply because I wanted to get the hell away from my family. However, I would have happily stayed longer until I got more financially secure if they’re weren’t all hateful dog shit people.

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• Kaput@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Grandparent at 50 is better than grandparents at 70

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• BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  For most of human history, it’s been routine.

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  • Ghostalmedia@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Most of human history also didn’t live to 80 and have to manage payments on a certified preowned Kia and a 3 / 2.5 in a good school district.

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    • BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Correct, they had to worry about the King’s soldiers coming to their village and taking all the men to be slaughtered in the King’s latest pissing match with HIS enemy, or Vikings or Romans or Sea People, etc. swooping in and murdering EVERYBODY.

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