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I had a girl cancel and reschedule our first date shortly before we were supposed to meet up. That date happened, and she confided in me that she’d done that on purpose to gauge my reaction and general demeanor before actually coming out to meet me. I respected that move, and I think I would have been okay with her bringing a friend instead, as long as it was just the once.

Anyway, that was eight years ago, we’re married now.

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WelcomeBear@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
Nice that it worked out but deception and playing games would be a huge red flag for me. Nothing about that instance in particular, it’s just that I’d always wonder “is this situation for real or another trick?”

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- OozingPositron@feddit.cl ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
  Or does he?
  
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MashedTech@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
Look at this dude… Being happy

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- Alaknar@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
  Quick! Scan his post and comment history to find something to bring him down!!
  
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  - Surp@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
    Weakness identified!
    
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  - banause@feddit.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
    I bet he misses a lot of MtG sessions. 😏
    
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Estebiu@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
Who do you think you are, flexing your relationship like that.

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markovs_gun@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
You’re a dumbass for playing along with such insane bullshit but I’m glad it worked out for you.

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- qarbone@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
  I don’t think “begrudging women a single test to see if someone is the type to explode over a single inconvenience” is the right hill to stick your flag on.
  
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  - zaphod@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
    Trying to start a relationship by playing games is very much a good place to find red flags.
    
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    qarbone@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
    It might seem like a game to you but that’s someone’s life.
    
    Do you have an alternative for how they should determine if a potential partner is a danger? Besides hiring a private detective or rolling the dice by finding out after they’re invested?
    
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  - Dnb@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
    Yeah, I’d say it’s a red flag except there are a ton of crazies that this quickly filters for them and keeps them safe from.
    
    So in an ideal world it would be bad, but it makes sense in the one we live in.
    
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banause@feddit.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
Mr. Fancy-look-at-me-i’m-married-pants

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