Comment on Has this ever happened to you?
qarbone@lemmy.world 3 weeks agoIt might seem like a game to you but that’s someone’s life.
Do you have an alternative for how they should determine if a potential partner is a danger? Besides hiring a private detective or rolling the dice by finding out after they’re invested?
zaphod@sopuli.xyz 3 weeks ago
If you can’t trust a stranger even a little bit then don’t date complete strangers. Limit your dating pool to your circle of friends, friends of friends, people you already know or that your friends vouch for.
qarbone@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
That is so utterly devoid of empathy that I have nothing left to say to you.
zaphod@sopuli.xyz 3 weeks ago
Yeah, lack of empathy on her side, I know. If you think your date is a potential rapist/murderer/… then why are you trying to date them?
qarbone@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Potential partners don’t have to be rapists or murderers to be worth avoiding. They could have anti-social tendencies, explosive tempers, or violent reactions. Or, just be generally unpleasant. Like you.
I wouldn’t have discovered I’m not much a fan of you, if I hadn’t made an innocuous comment about not holding it against women if they do a single smoke test for bad actors. We might have otherwise been buddy-buddy, with years of casual friendship, before something else triggered this, or a similar, conversation. And then, months or years down the road, I’d have to grapple with whether the friendship is salvageable. Because I don’t think shrugging at women who have to play russian roulette for love is very cool.
But, as I said, I’m lucky. I can say we’re done here, right now.