Comment on Anon dates a 19 y/o
shalafi@lemmy.world 6 hours agoI’m 54 and most of the people I know are in their early 20s. We get along great and have plenty to talk about.
Sure, but there’s a difference between hanging out with some 20 year olds, and being romantically involved with them.
The latter requires a hell of a lot of maturity and being in a similar place in life to deal with things life throws at you. The former just requires laughing at some meme together you both find funny.
Lol I got downvoted for saying the same shit. Glad I’m not the only one who can see this.
Friends and dating are not the same.
What if you like having sex with your friends?
Nothing wrong with that, but they’re friends. I get a long with coworkers, clients, etc, but inside a romantic relationship is completely different.
Then that is really fucking hot.
You don’t date though. A lot of people I know are young. Who else tf you going to meet nowadays.
Though I’d date 25+, screw 22+, not younger.
mic_check_one_two@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 hours ago
Yeah, I’m in my mid 30’s and my best friend is nearing 50. Believe it or not, people can have common interests that aren’t entirely reliant on their age.
Though I will say that age becomes less relevant as you get older… A 29 year old dating a 19 year old is pretty universally creepy, but few people would say the same about a 49 year old dating a 39 year old. Same age gap, but it’s assumed that the 39 year old has enough life experience to actually make their own decisions. Even in my mid-20’s, I was looking at 19 year olds as if they were literal children. There’s a lot of maturing that happens in the late teens and early 20’s.
MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip 3 hours ago
You mean in the late 20’s and early 30’s. Not a lot of maturing until 25.
rumschlumpel@feddit.org 2 hours ago
That depends on a lot of factors, e.g. whether they go to college or start working or doing trades directly after highschool.
mineralfellow@lemmy.world 5 hours ago
Half your age + 7 is a reasonable formula for determining creep factor.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2 hours ago
No, a 19 year old dating a 16 year old is still creepy.
Fizz@lemmy.nz 8 minutes ago
The age it lands on is always the grey area age. If youre 19 dating someone 16.5 thats weird but 17.5 most wouldn’t bat an eye at.