Just entertaining the thought here -getting kicked in the nuts might be even more evolutionarily disadvantageous, which could help explain the absolutely ridiculous sensitivity. Then again, I’m not a biologist
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witchybitchy@lemm.ee 1 day ago
women’s brains literally give them amnesia regarding the pain of childbirth, so they want another because they aren’t traumatized and don’t really remember the negative side because it’d be evolutionarily disadvantagous to be averse to procreating
getting kicked in the nuts has so such evolutionary pressure, so male brains don’t help out when it happens lol
Hadriscus@jlai.lu 1 day ago
Lv_InSaNe_vL@lemmy.world 1 day ago
So wouldn’t that mean that child birth is less painful? Because pain receptors and memory are also evolutionary traits?
witchybitchy@lemm.ee 1 day ago
only if you care about the average over time. otherwise no, it’s still just as painful. whether the pain is remembered is irrelevant to the feelings in the moment
Kuma@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Isn’t that the same with any pain? I mean I can’t remember how much it hurt when I broke bones or got hit but I remember it hurt a lot. You do get something out of the birth that is worth the pain (big assumptions everyone feels that way) you do not get anything out of being kicked in the nuts or anywhere else (unless it is a kink).
steeznson@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Yeah people get played by their biological urges and evolutionary psychology throughout the entire process. Even newborn babies are programmed to scream intermittently so that the parents are never well rested, and this is theorized to be to prevent the parents from producing another baby in quick succession who takes attention from baby #1.
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 1 day ago
As someone who has taken care of three newborns, that’s not a requirement. If you put the infant on a regular two/three-hour feeding/changing cycle, they don’t reflexively cry unless they’re in some kind of physical distress.
The trick is to execute that schedule, which is itself extremely exhausting, especially if you’re exclusively breast feeding. When you’ve got two or more people handling feedings (with formula) then the baby is chill and parents get more sleep and everyone is much happier.
Also, ffs, this is why both Mom and Dad need maternity leave. The job is 10x when one parent is working solo.
pahlimur@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I agree with everything you said and I used to think all kids could be fixed by schedules. But our second child was the antithesis to any of these methods. She screamed for almost 2 years regardless of anything we did. I constantly changed our approach to her to try to find a solution and nothing worked for more than a week. She is only recently getting better now that she can understand us.
We are now the parents that discuss our shopping list while she screams on the floor in the grocery store. Some kids are kinda asseholes. Fortunately she’s extremely cute while being an asshole.
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I guess maybe we got lucky, then.
I do know some kids have real legit physical issues (colic being a big one). And if you don’t figure out how to mitigate their distress quickly, they simply learn to scream when they want to communicate.
But when I hear “some kids are just assholes”, I tend to see some underlying problem (possibly something you just can’t do anything about at this stage, but it exists) that they’re responding to. It’s not standard baby behavior to make parents miserable.
samus12345@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
So if the baby is screaming intermittently, it probably means the caregivers wouldn’t be able to handle taking care of a another one soon.
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I never understood how something with a six week old managed to find time to boink. But I guess some folks are just very horny.