pahlimur
@pahlimur@lemmy.world
- Comment on :-) 1 day ago:
Good parenting my dude. I kept telling myself that repeating the same failing routines was insanity, so I ran experiments on her. Some kids are just soooo difficult.
- Comment on :-) 1 day ago:
This is the one thing my kids did well. First one slept through the night day one. Second took about a year to stay asleep once she was asleep.
And I’m gonna be a hypocrite here. Sleep is a learned behavior which needs to be constantly reinforced. I know parents with super easy kids who never set boundaries around sleep time which caused their kids to be difficult sleepers. Don’t ever allow them to get up after bed time and you’ll suffer a lot less. Our super difficult second kid learned we will only come into the room for short periods to meet her needs during bedtime. We started setting timers of a few minutes to let her learn that we aren’t coming in immediately when she started crying. Saved our sanity and slowly taught her to self sooth. I know it doesn’t work for all kids. But IMO a lot of parents will try to solve issues without the assumption their children can learn to tolerate mild inconvenience. It’s a huge cultural issue in the US.
- Comment on :-) 1 day ago:
I think it’s easy to dismiss the possibility of this kid existing. I am absolutely not a perfect parent but this kid is literally an asshole. Still love her though.
My wife and I think we are mild abuse victims from this kid. We confirmed it’s hereditary with my MIL. My wife as a child was the same monster this kid is. If you listen to her scream she just purposely eggs herself on. She broke our nanny and almost a dozen daycare people. I always say she has like 3 toddlers worth of personality that she is trying to figure out and only recently she is starting to sort it out.
We tried everything related to colic and nothing changed her. Gripe water with fenel seed sort of worked. Omg im just remembering, hiccups 100% of the time after feedings. She almost never ate more than a ounce of formula. My wife had mastitis which killed milk production. Kid was so noise sensitive that I couldn’t close a car door outside the house while she was napping. She needed a pacifier to sleep but would purposely spit it out. She whale tailed for almost a year. Naps were more stressfull than awake time because she needed to sleep 1.5 hours or she would screem constantly during awake time. We think she also had measles at one point, the hospital didn’t do anything about it even after confirming what it likely was.
Kid broke my brain to the point where I understand where PURPLE crying is needed. My memory and anxiety are only recently recovering.
- Comment on :-) 1 day ago:
I agree with everything you said and I used to think all kids could be fixed by schedules. But our second child was the antithesis to any of these methods. She screamed for almost 2 years regardless of anything we did. I constantly changed our approach to her to try to find a solution and nothing worked for more than a week. She is only recently getting better now that she can understand us.
We are now the parents that discuss our shopping list while she screams on the floor in the grocery store. Some kids are kinda asseholes. Fortunately she’s extremely cute while being an asshole.
- Comment on What grass starvation does to the perma-online 1 week ago:
The storyline is a fascism. Frank thought libertarianism would stop what he was writing about. He didn’t want fascism but wrote about it. The second book is mostly about Paul falling apart and dying. Even though he thought he could follow a perfect path to being a perfect leader.
I personally don’t care much about literary complexity. I find it interesting, and that’s all that matters to me. If you disagree, that’s fine too.
- Comment on What grass starvation does to the perma-online 1 week ago:
Yeah, but that isn’t why people like it. Like Harry potter and Wizarding world of the transphobe.
- Comment on What grass starvation does to the perma-online 1 week ago:
I’d not looked into Frank before now, but I’ve read 2.5 of the dune books. It’s weird to see he was a self described conservative and libertarian. The whole dune story seems to mock everything he stands for politically. It’s like he was completely unaware of the power structures he was writing about exist across all US (and non-US) political parties.
- Comment on What techniques do bad faith users use online to overwhelm other users in online discussion and arguments? 4 weeks ago:
This is everywhere on the internet. I think it’s people looking for an easy way out in arguing. Purposely include a few logic fallacies and watch as the vast majority of people latch onto them. Ignoring any previous points they were trying to make. I like ad hominem.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 months ago:
My dad is genX and uses it the same way. I have explained it to him multiple times that it’s like sighing at someone.
- Comment on Amazon Artificially Discounting Items $0.01 Below the Free Shipping Limit 4 months ago:
I don’t want to simp for Target too much, but the union DCs I’ve been in seem to treat their employees pretty good. No idea about the stores though, I’ve only seen their distribution centers.
- Comment on USA Question | How much is a dozen large eggs near you? 4 months ago:
Oregon valley is 4.25 for grade A from costco and winco was 4.50. Its up about 0.50 in the last few weeks.
Good thing the orange one will fix those prices soon by doing a something at some point…
- Comment on [deleted] 4 months ago:
It’s worse than I could’ve imagined. The dipshit literally gets giddy and throws the nazi salute twice. This is nowhere near a strangely timed photo.
- Comment on Contributing to the local economy 4 months ago:
Yep. Winter tires stay soft at lower temperatures increasing static and dynamic frictions in winter conditions.
- Comment on Contributing to the local economy 4 months ago:
Totally incorrect for both posts. A geo with winter tires is better in the snow than a truck on 40 inch mud tires. Winter tires feel like turning on the cheat codes when it’s slick. They have like 10 times the grip of good all seasons below freezing.
I drive on unmaintained roads a lot in the winter. The hakapelitas on my truck let me drive in 2wd until the snow is a foot deep.
- Comment on Par for the course 5 months ago:
The problem both of your opinions have is they ignore the baseline improved treatment straight white dudes like myself get. We get better treatment and preferential hiring just by existing. I’m not afraid to talk to anyone in the tiny sithole towns I go to for work. I’ve have so many people walk past my boss and talk to me because he wears a turban, or my other boss getting talked over because she is a women. These examples aren’t directly related to hiring, but you are blind if you don’t see the obvious advantages we have.
- Comment on If you are a young person you have no idea how bad everyone and everything smelled until at least the 1990s. 5 months ago:
Altria, formerly Philip Morris, still allows smoking in their building as of a few years ago. It’s trippy to book a non-smoking room in the 2020s.
- Comment on Magic Mineral 8 months ago:
Yeah it’s not as bad as asbestos. I think it will be similar to lead paint. Bad for you, but not downright dangerous.
- Comment on Magic Mineral 8 months ago:
My bet is Hardi board will be the next one. Concrete dust causes silicosis. In industrial construction allowable concrete dust is basically zero. Residential construction people are sawing and grinding this concrete siding all the time.
- Comment on This split sink 1 year ago:
It’s getting less common because it looks cleaner and functions better to have the divider flush with the sides. My sink is flat on top and it’s better because I can set what I’m washing out of the sink. It does get scratched up over time though.
Cheap sinks have the rim they are describing. Expensive sinks usually have a low or no divider. It’s the mid teir that is going flush on top for some reason. It’s a completely useless feature IMO that makes the sink less useful.
- Comment on My elderly parents' car broke down a couple hundred miles away. How can I get them and their car home (or fixed) with a minimum of cost and hassle? 1 year ago:
Don’t ever use leifs. Bloodsucking vampire of a company, high pressure sales tactics included.
- Comment on Elon Musk Allegedly Sent ‘Scorched-Earth Letter’ to Warner Bros. Demanding to Keep Amber Heard in ‘Aquaman 2’ 1 year ago:
Not a hard question to answer when you remember how ridiculously stupid he is. I’ve been calling him stupid for a decade and I’m finally cashing in. Dude has accidentally succeeded a couple times and thinks he’s tony stark. Of course he’s going to say the dumbest shit imaginable because he thinks he’s smart so how could his thoughts be dumb?