My mom would just walk away as if she didn’t even have a kid with her. The panic and fear of losing my mom and having to find her again in a huge ass grocery store is what eventually kept me close from some point on
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SARGE@startrek.website 5 days ago
I’ve always felt weird about parents who have those backpack leashes for their kids, but now that I’ve been living next to my in-laws for a year, who have 8 children, I understand some of them.
I refuse to take some their kids anywhere unless one of them is with my wife and I.
One would absolutely go sprinting full speed away and hide from us just because he thinks it’s hilarious.
Two would wander off because they saw something shiny and their brains are like an etch-a-sketches where every time a new thought enters, the old one has to get wiped away.
One would do the exact opposite of anything we say just because he figures he can.
And three others would absolutely just wander off, not because they want to but just because kids aren’t always the best at spatial awareness and simply get too far away. And would be terrified if they noticed their adults were nowhere in sight.
CoolMatt@lemmy.ca 4 days ago
JargonWagon@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Nowadays that mom would get arrested for neglect or some bullshit.
ayyy@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
Having that many children is child abuse. There’s no way they all get the parental attention they need.
SARGE@startrek.website 4 days ago
Oh completely 100% agreed, and neglect isn’t the only form of child abuse going on but CPS has visited them plenty of times and interviewed all the kids and neighbors (before we moved in) over custody battles with some adopted ones. (they’re all related, long story with too many identifying details but some parents died and all the children are cousins and siblings) so they at least aren’t doing anything that CPS cares about.
But holy shit I have never wanted to curb stomp my sister in law a-la American History X more than when I went over one day and I could hear screaming halfway down the 1/4mi driveway, and when I walked in she was in the 6 year Olds face screaming at the top of her lungs about how she’s tired of telling the 6 year old to put her shoes away, four of the kids were slowly doing chores in the living room and kitchen with tears running down their faces, and I could hear the 13 year old sobbing upstairs. Their mother screamed so hard and long that she burst a blood vessel in her eye and detached the retina. As usual though the moment she saw me she stopped and pretended like she wasn’t doing anything.
Since then I’ve had my phone on record in my pocket whenever I’m coming over unannounced just in case I can catch it. Bare minimum it will be something to show the courts when one of the kids becomes a serial killer.
Their dad is no help, he’s an enabler and honestly a broken shell of a person when it comes to his wife.
Grandparents are worse than parents.
My wife watches them whenever she can, and takes them on surprise day trips to get away from their parents and some of the siblings when possible but holy shit they do not make it easy to take them anywhere.
I don’t regret marrying my wife but I can honestly say my in-laws are insane and anyone could understand why I hate them.
Uhhhhhhh what was the topic again? Sorry for the vent.
ayyy@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
Thank you for sharing your story. The child abusers downvoting us need to see the gritty reality.
Biskii@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 days ago
You lost a kid. That’s only 7
SARGE@startrek.website 5 days ago
In fairness, that’s why I feel like getting a leash.
Plus the oldest is 13 and at least she’s responsible enough for us to look away for a few minutes and she will still be there.
anomnom@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
I feel like this could be an attention problem. 8 is too many kids not to have serious help keeping a family running.
Also it sounds a bit like idiocracy if they can’t learn to fucking stay near an adult.
My son was shy, but he hid from us a coupon times. But he was taught from as soon as he could understand that wandering from mom and dad (or uncles or grandparents) was a bad idea. But he’s also an only child and has said some pretty weirdly mature things. He scolds me for putting marker caps in my mouth and makes sure I have all relevant PPE when we’re working in the shop for instance, and he’s been doing it since he was 4-5.
danekrae@lemmy.world 5 days ago
The last one wouldn’t look both ways before crossing a street…
KoboldCoterie@pawb.social 5 days ago
Your kid won’t look both ways before crossing a street? That’s a paddlin’.