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JayDee@lemmy.sdf.org 4 days agoA relationship is not special because you fuck. It is special because you’re with a person you mesh well with. No amount of fucking will save a relationship that is not built on mutual compatibility.
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
Right, and someone with >100 partners kinda outs themselves as rubber either incapable of or uninterested in a stable relationship.
RBWells@lemmy.world 17 hours ago
I mean, it depends on how old you are, right? I did a 22 year monogamous stretch, but before that and between that and my husband now (10 years so far monogamous) got around some & had fun, my # would doubtless be shocking to many if I could even figure it out but it doesn’t mean I can’t be in a stable relationship, I was before and am now too. Husband similar story.
Some of us can enjoy recreational sex and also enjoy committed relationships.
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 15 hours ago
Oh sure. I’m just saying that most people with a ton of partners probably aren’t interested in settling into a commited relationship. There are always exceptions.
JayDee@lemmy.sdf.org 4 days ago
Nah. Knowing that someone has fucked 100 people, what this 4chan user is talking about, just tells you that that person does not view sex and relationships as a single thing.
You only get a body count that high by doing one-offs, where you are just looking for sex and aren’t trying to turn it into a relationship. That tells you nothing about how good a partner they will be once they actually enter one.
This assumption that sex should only happen between partners in a relationship is exactly why people jump into self-destructing relationships instead of waiting for a person they actually vibe with.
AI_toothbrush@lemmy.zip 4 days ago
Yeah thats what im saying. A relationship is both physical and emotional(for me at least). Theres a reason why most couples move in together, sleep together, etc. Youre not just fucking the person but their soul as well(literally what my english teacher said💀, but i agree).
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
Right. You can have all of one without the other, or you can have a mix of both. Someone with >100 partners is communicating that they’re probably more interested in a physical relationship than a deep emotional one.
SmoothOperator@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Or maybe they’re perfectly capable of a stable relationship, they just also enjoy casual sex. Maybe even at the same time in a non-monogamous context.