I get that Lemmy skews young and male and not on 2010s social media (like old Twitter) but it’s almost like they weren’t around for the discussions that the “NotAllMen” hashtag generated, or the coining of the term sea lioning.
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2ugly2live@lemmy.world 15 hours ago
Random woman: I like late night walks, but I’m scared for my safety.
This thread for some reason: YOU DON’T THINK MEN GET SCARED? MURDERED!?
Like, chill. Yes, men can absolutely be murdered/hurt walking alone. But are we really going to sit here and act like women are making up their concerns/grievances out of spite? For some reason, if anyone mentions a general concern/issue related to women’s experiences with men, some people trip over themselves to say how it’s actually not an issue and how it’s actually so much worse for men. If I’m listening to a male DV victim and I go, “well, actually, women are more likely to be victims of DV. You know, it’s actually not even an issue for you. Here, look at these numbers that prove that women are the victims. Do you not mention it because you hate women? Why are you trying to ruin our spotless reputation as delicate flowers that can do no wrong with your lies”, you would think I was nuts, and for good reason.
booly@sh.itjust.works 7 hours ago
stevedice@sh.itjust.works 13 hours ago
Also men in this thread: THIS US LITERALLY EXACTLY LIKE RACISM
Ebber@lemmings.world 13 hours ago
[deleted]JackbyDev@programming.dev 13 hours ago
I’m surprised it evokes this level of defensiveness. Isn’t man-on-man crime a problem too? Nothing about the post says men can’t be victims too.
eugenevdebs@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 hours ago
Men really are the most emotional of the sexes, we should ensure that they don’t have control over anything important like a nation.
KomfortablesKissen@discuss.tchncs.de 9 hours ago
Read the text again, there is no mention of fear. It doesn’t even mention anyone being scared. It says something else.
Also: women do in fact make shit up. For many reasons, including spite.
meliaesc@lemmy.world 4 hours ago
Hey look, it’s the man we are afraid of!
starelfsc2@sh.itjust.works 2 hours ago
I mean these comments are pretty insane but cmon you know what you said is not equivalent, this meme uses othering language and people got mad at it because it groups them with people they likely despise. Why can’t we just be on the same team? If I say “being outgoing is a vibe too bad women love emotionally abusing people” I sincerely hope you wouldn’t defend that.
2ugly2live@lemmy.world 1 hour ago
I wouldn’t defend it because I wouldn’t even think it was talking about me in the first place. Some women are emotionally abusive, but I wouldn’t assume they literally meant every single woman on earth is an asshole and feel the urge to swoop in with, “Hey, not all women. Some of us are nice! Here, look at these studies that show that women are more likely to be in the other end of the abuse!”
Honestly, I’m more concerned if you think the threat of murder at night is a comparable threat to emotional abuse from any gender.