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- Comment on how did you and your partner change after having a baby? 4 weeks ago:
This is going to be something that varies wildly from couple to couple, but I can at least speak to my own experience about half a year into our first child.
There is a period where you are supposed to refrain from sex while the mother recovers. The minimum is 6 weeks, but my wife took a bit longer to feel comfortable again. The baby also makes things more difficult logistically, but we definitely didn’t “suddenly stop having sex”. We have to be more deliberate about planning date nights and intimate time as the previous spontaneousness is rarely doable with the responsibilities of parenthood.
The only personality change I have seen in my wife is her fierce protectiveness of our son. She is the same person she was before him, the same person I fell in love with (I think she’d say something similar about me). I think this is also largely due to the intentionality with which we approached having a child together. Everything was planned and discussed at length between us and agreed to well before we even started trying.
Things aren’t all sunshine and rainbows, though. Sleep depravation sucks. There are definitely times when we can get frustrated and a bit short, but we both understand the exhaustion and easily apologize and forgive whenever that happens.
To answer your last question, there’s no way of knowing, but if you love each other and both are in agreement I think the odds of it working out are good.
- Comment on What's the worst spelling you've seen? 5 weeks ago:
I’ve seen that as La-ah. Somehow that is so much worse.
- Comment on what was the last game you played in 2024? 5 months ago:
Grim Dawn
- Comment on Thanks, Logan. 8 months ago:
Isn’t prime caffeinated? That’s dehydrating and not at all helpful to people who need water…
- Comment on It seems so simple 1 year ago:
I’d imagine you would get some pretty horrible distortion in the picture. That has to be why we haven’t done it yet.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 year ago:
Interestingly, Democrats have historically had an advantage in the lower income brackets over Republicans. There’s a tipping point for the ultra wealthy to swing back to Democrat. This article is a bit older, but it’s useful to predate Trump and a bit of the weirdness that has brought with party lines (although my brief search says it still tends to be this way). The wedge issue is much more likely the point of policies like this to get the single issue voters support.