pennomi
@pennomi@lemmy.world
- Comment on Priority seating indeed. 7 hours ago:
Not sure how you can see the texture of anything under all that jpeg deep frying.
- Comment on Le Penguini 12 hours ago:
Surely this isn’t taking into consideration insect populations, right? I’m pretty damn sure I’ll be reincarnated as an ant.
- Comment on You have one job. 1 week ago:
Or something like Gnu Taler, which has many of the advantages of crypto with few of the problems.
- Comment on Three questions about superpowers, which is the best, and which is the worst? 1 week ago:
Mind control: Little Timmy never existed
- Comment on Three questions about superpowers, which is the best, and which is the worst? 1 week ago:
There are far worse things than not existing
- Comment on Does water necessarily seep in your butthole when fully immersed? 1 week ago:
What if you bathed in Taco Bell sauce?
- Comment on Can I put a cold oxygen plasma generator in my fridge? 1 week ago:
Science demands you perform an experiment! We are all awaiting your results with excitement.
- Comment on Why doesn't the US build a bridge here to connect Alaska to the mainland? Are they stupid? 1 week ago:
You could build this, but it would be a tunnel. Actually now I want to see that for real.
- Comment on The White House Rose Garden was replaced by pavement 1 week ago:
Because ants can live on grass but not pavement? Lawn is bad for biodiversity but concrete is much worse.
- Comment on The White House Rose Garden was replaced by pavement 1 week ago:
Surely solid pavement is still a downgrade from lawn grass, no?
- Comment on robot slurs 2 weeks ago:
Just the modem connecting sound would work.
- Comment on ultra high iq 2 weeks ago:
Exactly! Mensa is essentially the filter for people who think they’re smart but actually aren’t.
- Comment on Blue Whales 2 weeks ago:
It only gets old if they stop learning and sharing new facts. Otherwise it’s literally my ideal relationship.
- Comment on Isn't there somebody you forgot to ask? 2 weeks ago:
Why not GNU Taler?
- Comment on Dont umlaut me 3 weeks ago:
Because humor is the only thing many of us can turn to as a solace from the crushing realities of modern life.
- Comment on When someone asks for help/asks what something is on Reddit and the top comments are just stupid jokes that don't answer OP's question 3 weeks ago:
I don’t see why you couldn’t vote funny and helpful at the same time
- Comment on You'd need to calculate the compound interest 3 weeks ago:
After 5 million years, a pristine dollar bill will be a priceless historical artifact. I’ll take that.
- Comment on Pop it in your calendars 4 weeks ago:
Except ConcernedApe, apparently.
- Comment on Stardew Valley dethrones Valve classic as Steam’s top-rated game 4 weeks ago:
I’ve bought it at least 5 times; sent it to a lot of family members.
- Comment on Anon does some online shopping 4 weeks ago:
You missed scroll hijacking because reinventing how things move on the screen is important for some reason?
- Comment on Perpetual motion eludes us again. 5 weeks ago:
Did you try flipping the magnet over? If you put the two north ends together they’ll repel instead of attract.
- Comment on 413524 Gang, rise up! 5 weeks ago:
Yeah I start at the 5, clockwise.
- Comment on Chaotic hoarders beware, Minecraft is about to get an invasion of copper golem housekeepers 5 weeks ago:
I like the idea of having a little guy go out and sort my items for me. That’ll be a welcome addition to the game.
- Comment on Beaches 1 month ago:
If you wear a skirt, your gender disappears.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
What, you’ve never written markdown?
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
Forget monogamy, I just need a mathematical relationship!
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
Monogamy? In THIS economy?
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
So non-monogamy is generally looked down upon because a lot of people have bad outcomes from it.
In the vast majority of these situations, the couple has decided to see other people because they are trying to avoid or alleviate the problems they are currently dealing with. If you or your spouse are not mature enough to handle one relationship, there’s no way in hell that the exponential complexity of a polyamorous relationship will work.
That being said, it sounds like you ARE one of the few people who are considering non-monogamy for the right reasons. Some of the most important things you need to do to make this successful:
- Great communication. No games, no bottling up your feelings. You need to be able to clearly express what your hopes and fears are, and then listen to those from each other person.
- Handle jealousy and loneliness. If you’re a jealous-type person, best to stop now. You need to be comfortable with your partners spending a significant amount of time together, without you. And you need to use that time doing things you want to do, not feeling left out.
- Secure in your self. Don’t base your self-worth on what your partner thinks about you. Successful non-monogamous people are not dependent on their partners as their sole source of happiness.
- Flexibility. You need to be adaptable to new situations, because a lot of things will be changing rapidly. Successful polyamorous people embrace the ever-changing nature of life rather than try to stop it.
- Be able to handle loss. All relationships end at some point. With non-monogamy, that happens far more often than with just two people. Remember that a relationship ending doesn’t invalidate the goodness it brought to your life in the past. You need to be prepared to process events like this.
One great book on non-monogamy is More Than Two. I highly recommend everybody giving it a read before moving forward.
Having a polyamorous relationship can be very fulfilling! If you can navigate the complexity, it’s a wonderful way to maximize life.
- Comment on Jigsaw Trolley Problem 1 month ago:
Sorry fam, I don’t negotiate with game theorists.
- Comment on Anon turns on raytracing 1 month ago:
We’ve gotten so good at faking most lighting effects that honestly RTX isn’t a huge win except in certain types of scenes.