TheDoozer
@TheDoozer@lemmy.world
- Comment on Anon tries to understand his coworker 1 day ago:
I’ll never understand how difficult people make things by not being forthright and making things awkward:
“Is it okay if I bring my boyfriend?”
“…I think there’s been a misunderstanding. I had asked you on a hike as a fun first date, I didn’t realize you had a boyfriend. I’m going to bow out of this, but I can give you the hike info if you want to take him.” And then you laugh about the misunderstanding the next work day, and keep things at work from then on. No reason for it to get bad. Flirting is still fun! Just leave it at that without expecting anything more.
- Comment on Anon falls through the cracks 3 days ago:
Because nobody ever accepts more work or responsibility for higher pay to afford more or better things. Most people work just enough to pay for rent and groceries and are perfectly happy with that.
- Comment on In the US, what is stopping people from bribing members of the electoral college? 3 days ago:
A president who wants what is best for his people, seeks out the smartest man on the planet, and puts him in charge of the most challenging problem facing the country?
Yes. I want president Dwayne Elizondo Mountain Dew Herbert Camacho as president.
- Comment on Anon meets up with a girl 4 days ago:
I got a puppy when I was first starting an Airman (prior to becoming an aviator in my branch of the military), and one of my daily responsibilities was getting fuel samples and fueling aircraft, so every day when I came home I smelled like jet fuel (which smells like it’s generating constant low level damage as long as you’re smelling it… because it is…). Now my dog loves the smell of jet fuel and loves it when I smell like jet fuel.
So I guess what I’m trying to say is, if Stockholm Syndrome is an option, that aeroshell 64 smell could work for you.
(This is entirely a joke, I’m not advocating any situation outside of pets that would result in Stockholm Syndrome)
- Comment on Anon meets up with a girl 4 days ago:
Holy shit, just looked that up, and it has layers to it. Based on the rest of their comments in the thread, I’m sure it wasn’t intentional, they probably had no idea of the origins and meanings (I certainly didn’t), but man is that one problematic.
- Comment on House Centipedes 4 weeks ago:
but it also made me extremely nervous when I hadn’t been moments before.
I imagine that’s the point of the hiss…
- Comment on What's the term for someone that likes Jesus of Nazareth, but doesn't identify with church, religious dogma, or whatever? 4 weeks ago:
Do you need to be an -ian? Like, if you like the teachings of Ghandi, or Socrates, or Marcus Aurelius, you don’t have to call yourself a Ghandian, or a Socratian, or an Aurelian. You just agree with their teachings.
I feel like you’re just making a dig on Christians, and it’s not like a lot of them don’t deserve it, but what you’re talking about isn’t a religion. You don’t need an -ian to like a philosophy.
- Comment on Anon plays Splatoon 5 weeks ago:
When life gives you oranges, don’t make orange juice. Make life take the oranges back! Get mad! I don’t want your damn oranges, what the hell am I supposed to do with these? Demand to see life’s manager! Make life rue the day it thought it could give Anon oranges! Do you know who I am? I’m the man who’s gonna burn your house down! With the oranges! I’m gonna get my engineers to invent a combustible orange that burns your house down!
- Comment on Anon shares his dating preferences 1 month ago:
I don’t consider it a defense, exactly. It’s more clarification. Just saying “no kids” might suggest he doesn’t want kids ever, which would reduce the potential partners unnecessarily (and if he does want kids eventually, being paired with someone specifically because they don’t want kids would just create problems later). Saying “no kids yet” sets them up with someone who doesn’t have kids but might in the future.
- Comment on Anon shares his dating preferences 1 month ago:
There are more appropriate ways to say this:
“Nobody with kids. I might want kids some day, but I’m not ready yet, and it feels like there would be too much pressure to either be involved with her kids or be cut out of a major portion of her life until we’re really serious. And again, not ready.
And somebody athletic, since I’m into biking and hiking and other activities that require a certain level of fitness.
And… well, somebody who isn’t into the whole casual sex thing, honestly. I think sex is special and, for me, requires a strong emotional connection. I want someone who has similar views on sex.”
See, I feel like it changes it when you’re not focusing on the other person, but yourself. I’m not ready for kids, I’m into fitness, I’m a demisexual. It sets up the same thing without disparaging people who aren’t what you’re looking for.
- Comment on What Undecided Voters Look Like To Everyone Else 1 month ago:
There’s another part to this, and the renowned surgeon makes it a bad metaphor.
It’s more like: “You have a choice for your surgery. On one hand, we have a trained surgeon, on the other hand is a circus clown.”
“What are the surgeon’s credentials and record?”
“Well… they have a reasonably good record in other kinds of surgery, but and they’ve shadowed a surgeon who has done your surgery before. I won’t lie to you and say their record is perfect, though, and some of the practices and techniques they use draw serious criticism from various world health organizations.”
“And the clown?”
“They have more experience with these surgeries, but the vast majority of the people who underwent these surgeries have died. In fact, he shows flagrant disregard for even the most basic and accepted sanitary standards in the medical community.”
“But some people did live, right? So he can’t be all bad.”
“Occasionally he was part of a surgical team, and in those cases the rest of the team managed to keep the patient alive. And again, your other option is a trained surgeon.”
“But a shitty surgeon with no experience.”
“A questionable surgeon with limited experience. Or a clown who kills those he commits surgery on more often than not.”
“I can’t believe these are my only two options. When you said I had a choice, I thought it was a real choice, but it sounds like you’re just trying to force your surgeon on me. I think I’ll wait until another round of surgeons is available.”
“You will probably die before the next round of surgeons is available.”
“Honestly, I don’t trust your judgement over what’s best for me. I’m sitting this one out.”
Undecided doesn’t always mean who you vote for, sometimes it means whether you vote.
Still dumb not to vote, though.
- Comment on it's just that simple. Don't forget to exercise out of depression... 2 months ago:
Also, telling a depressed person their answer is to exercise is like telling a homeless person that they just need to get a job. The not having a home prevents the getting a job. If they had the ability to find a job, they wouldn’t be homeless (except obviously the people who don’t make enough from their job to support themselves, but that’s a whole different issue that shouldn’t exist).
So even if someone does have the time, getting the depression under control may be necessary before the exercise seems like a reasonable possibility.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
Look, I completely agree with the general sentiment, but if you conflate the current illegal theft of agreed-upon and earned wages with what workers deserve to be paid, it doesn’t help the latter argument, it just confuses the former.
This type of thing is “defund the police” all over again, where the intention is to transfer funds from the police to social services specialized in situations the police shouldn’t be handling in the first place, and then got conflated with the idea of abolishing police. And while the former would have, it seemed, broad support (even among a lot of police who felt ill-equipped and trained to deal with every kind of emergency), the latter immediately turned off a significant portion of people, and conflating the two hurt the entire movement.
I’m not saying we shouldn’t have a serious focus on wages increasing with profitability, I’m saying don’t use the terminology of a separate problem that needs to be fixed and could have broad support right now.
- Comment on Paid Leave Olympics 3 months ago:
I suppose. I’m far more likely to die in a helicopter crash. Never been shot at, nor have just about anybody I’ve worked with. The only people who have gone to a war zone in the past couple decades were people who specifically requested it.
Though I have worked with a few who survived helicopter crashes (five, between two crashes), so definitely not without its dangers. That’s the specific job I chose, though. Plenty of jobs in the Coast Guard with paper cuts or oven-related burns as the most danger they’ll experience.
- Comment on Paid Leave Olympics 3 months ago:
So… I’m not shilling for the military, but…
Coast guard gets 30 days of leave, 3 months of paternity leave, and unlimited sick days.
Just saying.
- Comment on I drew the Mexico states by memory 3 months ago:
Seriously. I was like “okay, Brazil is in the right general area, but obviously the wrong shape. Argentina is definitely not there. Chile is along the coast, so I’ll allow it. I honestly couldn’t say what all the northern countries are, and… wait, what the hell is the north connecting to, that looks like the middle east.
Jesus Christ, that’s Africa.”
- Comment on ‘Star Trek’ Stage Musical Being Explored – Comic-Con 3 months ago:
I’ll be honest, with the exception of “Keep Us Connected” I absolutely hated the musical episode… except the first time they mentioned that it had affected a Klingon vessel. And then I powered through in the hopes of seeing Klingon musical time, and when it happened, it redeemed the whole thing for me. Better than I could have hoped.
- Comment on Gen Z job seekers should be willing to work for free, long hours, ‘willing to do anything,’ says Squarespace CMO 3 months ago:
I imagine it’s something along the lines of calling people at companies who her family knows. I just assume when rich people say nonsense like that, it’s just networking or nepotism that normal people don’t have access to.
- Comment on What is the actual point of a bra? 3 months ago:
I’m a man, and that’s how I feel about boxers and being nude. I don’t like that dangle feel of uncontrolled swaying on a sensitive part.
- Comment on every company right now 4 months ago:
“It has a smooth finish, virtually indestructible, and it writes upside-down.” [None of these will be true] “Also, with our Ink Anytime subscription service, you’ll never run out of ink! It’s free…” [for the first six months] “for our lowest tier…” [three lines of text per day] “with an option to upgrade to a higher tier anytime.” [Puts pen in pocket] “We’re offering pre-orders with a $5 non-refundable deposit, with delivery expected sometime in the next six months depending on how soon you get on the waitlist.” [Two years until you give up and just let us keep your deposit] “So sign up now!”
- Comment on Make it stop. 4 months ago:
The amount of people with no kids that have strong opinions about how children should be raised is like the people with no uteruses that have strong feelings about abortion and pregnancy, or white college kids who have strong opinions about what words and phrases should be offensive to minorities. There’s nothing wrong with having an opinion, but the arrogance to think they have something to contribute to that conversation is exhausting.
- Comment on Make it stop. 4 months ago:
Like… tables?
- Comment on Make it stop. 4 months ago:
Yes to all except jiggy. I feel like that was just Will Smith trying to make Fetch happen.
- Comment on Anon is a test subject 4 months ago:
I can’t find the scene, but Supernaturalhad a scene like that. Sam had recently gotten back from Hell, and he got hurt pretty bad (forgot how, but something like a broken rib or gunshot wound), and a doctor asked him what his pain level was, with 1 being barely noticeable to 10 being the worst pain he ever experienced. He stares off into the distance and says something like “3.”
- Comment on Anon goes to the gym for the first time 4 months ago:
My experience with people who are really into working out is that they want everyone to be into working out, and want to help you get there. They’re nerds for lifting. They’re excited to get you excited.
Anyone who shit-talks you for not already being great at it is a fucking poser and you should tell them that.
- Comment on 'Quit Or Accept Minimum Wage': Chinese Company's Ultimatum To 1000 Autoworkers As EV Sales Drop 5 months ago:
That sounds crazy low, but I also wonder what the spending power is there? I mean, if you take $7/hr in the US and put that in San Francisco, you’re gonna have a rough time, but lots of places that’s uncomfortable but not starving, you know?
Just from context and reports about conditions of poor Chinese people, I imagine it’s worse than our $7 in a rural area, but I don’t feel like I can get a clear idea of what that means to a person living there beyond “that’s really poor.”
- Comment on Make the responsible financial decision 5 months ago:
And you’ll be paying student loans for the rest of your life, so…
- Comment on Tacos. 5 months ago:
Please don’t misunderstand. I was not saying that that was the be-all-end-all of religion. I wasn’t speaking against religion in general, just in regards to the irony of suggesting that religion makes people more good. At all.
- Comment on Tacos. 5 months ago:
Religion doesn’t stop a bad person from being evil. It can convince a bad person they’re still good (better!) when they do evil.
And good people don’t need religion to do good. But it can make them overlook the evil of other religious people and protect them, making them bad.
The best-case scenario is that religion can have no effect on how good or bad someone is. Good people stay good despite religion, not because of it.
- Comment on What is the longest discontinuous marriage? 6 months ago:
This is the type of thing that could be answered if people followed banal statistical data the way sports people follow sports data.
“This is the first time since 2017 they’ve scored over 30 points in the third quarter in a home game during the pre-season.”