TheDoozer
@TheDoozer@lemmy.world
- Comment on Hardest battles 20 hours ago:
To your second point:
how often I send an email with a bulleted list of issues that need to be addressed and the response only addresses a fraction of them while the rest are ignores.
I typically will reply with just the bulleted points they didn’t address and then keep sending it with less and less bullets until either they answer all points or stop replying… after the third or fourth reminder email. I make sure the previous emails are in the string and never change the title.
- Comment on How often do guys have a haircut? 1 day ago:
I cut my own hair every weekend. I’m in the military, though (and no, I don’t just shave it). I found that I do it more to my liking (and consistently) than the barbers I’ve gone to, it only takes 20 minutes, I don’t have to pay $30, and I can shower immediately after. I use a 6 (3/4 inch) on top, a 3 (3/8 inch) around the curve transitioning to the sides, and then fade down from there, 2 to 1.5 to 1 and finally .5 (1/16 inch) around my ears, side-burns, and most of the back. Keeps everything clean, I always look good, and I spend about $40 every year or two.
- Comment on Void 3 days ago:
- Comment on Life of a therapist 6 days ago:
Oh, no, don’t. It wasn’t a serious thing, just pointing out the weird 5 to 1, 1 to 5 thing.
- Comment on Life of a therapist 1 week ago:
Makes sense. Just the:
1: 5 things 2: 4 things 3: 3 things 4: 2 things 5: 1 thing
Throws me off a bit.
- Comment on Life of a therapist 1 week ago:
It… kind of bothers me the order that is in. Is that on purpose?
- Comment on Should I feel bad that my abuser is suffering? 1 week ago:
Have empathy for the injustices others face. It helps you let go of hate
This is a big one, though I have a more nuanced view.
“That is a fucked up thing and shouldn’t happen to anyone. I couldn’t give two shits about that person in particular because they’re a piece of shit, but what is happening to them is unacceptable.”
That’s how I feel about bad shit happening to horrible people in prison. A serial rapist gets raped in prison? Unacceptable. It shouldn’t be allowed, and everyone responsible should be held to account. However, I lack the necessary empathy to feel for that serial rapist. I try, but there’s a lot of people out there suffering more who did nothing or less that I should care about, and I have a limited amount of care. Doesn’t mean I’m okay woth prison rape, though.
- Comment on Expensive South Florida real estate. Most expensive houses are right on the rim 1 week ago:
I heard muthafucka had, like… thirty goddamn dicks.
- Comment on Good news. :) 2 weeks ago:
Alaska was full of libertarian “I came out here so I can live as I please” types, but a lot of them have shifted over to the crazy.
I think with the right-wing media being severed (with regulations around honesty in news and a more publicly funded system, not particularly with censorship), those types would go back to their “just leave me alone” ways.
- Comment on Applies to many things. Not just religion 2 weeks ago:
I’ve always wondered about this, because not only are they not mutually exclusive, they don’t really fight unless someone really wants to create an issue.
“It turns out the Earth revolves around the Sun, which in turn rotates around a galactic center.”
“But we’ve been teaching that the Earth is the center of the universe. What will we tell people?”
“Well, we all thought it was the center, but it turns out it wasn’t. Does anything in your religion specifically say we’re the center?”
“No…”
“Then I guess we all found out together. Also, why are you even teaching stuff like that? The movement of celestial bodies seems a weird topic to be discussing in church.”
- Comment on Metal Genres (Accurate) 2 weeks ago:
True art.
- Comment on what does it mean being nice to your coworkers to you? 2 weeks ago:
Family, Occupation, Relentless existential crisis, Dreams.
- Comment on The devil made me do it 2 weeks ago:
That angry/relieved/happy mix would make for an interesting evening for me. I’d eat the lot and feel I deserved it for how they done me dirty, even if I secretly was relieved not to have to go to a big social event.
- Comment on Who is the enemy? 2 weeks ago:
I haven’t seen anything related to Biden, but I haven’t heard a single person, on any side if any aisle, defending Clinton. It’s always just seemed like a failed “gotcha” attempt on the right, because most everyone to the left of “I’ll vote for anything with an R next to their name” would have no issue throwing offenders from their own side in jail along with the others.
- Comment on Hello girl!! 2 weeks ago:
There’s a village in Final Fantasy XIV that has that belief. That if a warrior is great enough, they are reborn into the next child born, and that child is raised with the understanding that that is who they are and continue to be. Gender is fairly meaningless to them, too.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 weeks ago:
But that one makes me sad.
- Comment on Anon thinks there is a bicurious double standard 4 weeks ago:
It may be a byproduct of some dating issues from before her time dating that got passed down to her. Namely, that lots of gay men were in the closet, and ended up leaving their wife/girlfriend when they came out. And that could have carried through to women thinking it was that, because it’s easier to think the person leaving you doesn’t want women, not just doesn’t want you.
Hopefully that mentality just disappears on its own after awhile. I think it’s already on its way out.
- Comment on I fast-forward through the songs... 4 weeks ago:
I was mad the whole episode except when they mentioned it was affecting the Klingons, and basically finished the episode in the hopes that they would show that.
And it more than paid off. That scene was magical.
- Comment on Why people say they have a "boy cat" or a "girl cat" but when the cat grows up, they don't call is a "man cat" or "woman cat"? 4 weeks ago:
Same reason I refer to my 14-year-old dachshund as a puppy.
Because he’s my puppy.
- Comment on Handling malicious coworker advice 5 weeks ago:
Seriously. This all sounds exhausting. It was probably a good move to loop in the manager. If it were me, I probably would have just stepped back from them and kept my distance, as I have little energy for drama, but taking a more proactive approach was probably smart.
But yeah, you OP did the smart thing, now the next smart thing is just step away from all of it. Keep some distance and let the manager/director sort it out.
- Comment on Vibe check! 5 weeks ago:
I’m disappointed the baseball cap and beer isn’t A so that there is a clear “Dada” option.
- Comment on W.a.m.d.i.i. 1 month ago:
Like an elephant. Up the urethra, then squirted into the mouth.
- Comment on Who got that landlord money? 1 month ago:
An “in-law suite” is different from renting a room. It generally has its own entrance, and a devoted kitchen and bathroom. It’s an entire 1-bedroom apartment built into the house or property (often above a garage, for example).
And it’s not slang, it’s a term that’s been used since the early 1900s, and as the term suggests, it has historically been used to be able to care for elderly parents (so they can maintain their independence while still living with family). It’s not like you can sell an in-law suite separately, and selling one’s house while a parent doesn’t need that and expecting to not only buy another house and having one available with an in-law suite when a parent does need it is a pretty extreme expectation. So it really does come down to rent the room or leave it empty.
And plenty of people want that kind of temporary rental, if they don’t want to be tied to a particular spot for long or don’t want the responsibility of owning.
- Comment on Is it safe to assume the guy i went out on a date with, just wants to sleep with me? 1 month ago:
In college I had a guy friend (I’m a guy, both of us straight) who I’d regularly go to breakfast with, and he always paid because I was very poor, he made plenty, and he wanted company for breakfast. I regularly tried to pay and he waved me off. I think he knew that if we went back and forth, we’d go to breakfast a lot less because I wouldn’t be able to afford it.
Maybe that’s what’s going on here.
- Comment on pragnent 1 month ago:
In simple terms they understand.
If they’ve baked cookies with you, you tell them the daddy gives some of the ingredients, the mommy gives some of the ingredients, and then the mommy is like the oven, and makes a baby over 9 months in her belly.
There were no further questions for years, and my kids knew that they came from mommy and daddy, and that they grew in mommy’s belly. The older they get, the more specifics they get, and if they’re old enough to ask a specific question, they’re old enough to get a specific answer.
- Comment on You deserve better, honey bun. 1 month ago:
I assumed it was a smoker
- Comment on true friend 1 month ago:
I’ll be honest, it’s pretty hit and miss. You get someone just throwing diced avo on toast, and it’s pretty mid. But you go to a place that seasons it, includes grilled onion and peppers, uses high-quality sourdough bread, and covers it in bacon and a fried egg? One of the best things I’ve eaten. And one of the messier.
- Comment on :3 1 month ago:
Yeah, I’ve always thought trucks are dumb, but the bus and my bike can’t pull my boat, and I live on island, so…
- Comment on Deserved honestly 2 months ago:
Even if they were trying to flirt, being told repeatedly not to do something that they keep doing anyway is not flirting.
- Comment on egg 2 months ago:
Diaphragms are a form of birth control. They are making a joke by deliberating misinterpreting the specific meaning of the word used in an absurdist way, in the Mad Hatter style.