TheDoozer

@TheDoozer@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It's why they tried to get rid of it⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  And Pluto knows that it’s Hot Shit.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I think he’s saying seeing a therapist that doesn’t specialize in gender dysphoria (kind of the “to a hammer, everything is a nail” thought). So going in and talking about all their mental health issues, and seeing if gender dysphoria comes out with it.

  I don’t think it’s a terrible read, if it seems like gender dysphoria is coming out of nowhere. Very different if OP was showing signs of it most of their life, and their dad had just refused to acknowledge it. Tough to tell just from what’s written, but I think the dad is remarkably reasonable.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are mood problems a “turn off” for people even when they’re hard to manage?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Even more, it’s the justifying it with the “I’m just trying to help them” and “tough love” bullshit. That’s not a mood problem, or anything like that. That is being an asshole (not that they are mutually exclusive).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨brain blowing orgasms⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Holy shit what a way to go.

  Get horny > have sex > orgasm > keep orgasming > die of too much orgasm

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Looks legit, but can it actually be a real thing?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Do you wish to see them, PetaQ?!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Speedometer, or Siegometer?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  It goes from 0 to Seig-sty in 7.6 seconds.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why was Hitler so mean and hateful toward one group or another? I find it hard to believe he woke up one day and said you and you suck but these people over here are good. Taking it so far as killing?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Not exactly (from my reading). The Jewish communities tended to be fairly insular, and focused a lot of their business inward. They still dealt with outsiders, but money flow tended to move mostly in one direction, so it seemed like the Jewish people were much better off and “taking” from the rest, when the rest of the country struggled. It was really more that a marginalized community took care of their own. Shocking, right?

  Plenty of other communities do the same. It’s still a bunch of scapegoating.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If you're falling apart at only 27 you're in real trouble⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Then at 40:

  “Oof… my hip is killing me…”

  “What’d you do?”

  “Got out of bed? My fault for laying down in the first place I guess.”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Uncanny sandwich⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  But I like burgers.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I liked Star Trek before it got woke. /s⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I remember that being a little more “coercive and rapey” than bribing, since the nurse was the one who demanded “fuck me and I’ll set you free, or you can wait for whatever they are going to do to you.”

  I get Riker is full of fucks to give, but he didn’t seem terribly pleased with not having a choice.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I like the determinism of Murphy’s Razor⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I had understood it to mean, the more simple a theory is, the more likely it is to be true.

  E.g. “organisms change through time to become the creatures that exist today” vs. “organisms change through time to become the creatures that exist today through the intelligent design of a creator.”

  The former, having fewer conditions to be true, is more likely to be true.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Simple Sabotage Field Manual⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I felt my blood pressure rise as i read through that.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I don't think they understand. We're interviewing them too.⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Some of them maybe, but asking the working hours, the health insurance, and whether the company will wait or buy out the two months might be complete deal-breakers, and saves both sides time by asking up front (and for the first two, should have been offered up front prior to the interview, to prevent wasted time).

  It’s like being offended if, on a first date, one person asks if the other ever wants to have kids. If you know the long term potential is dependent on something, getting that question out there up front saves both parties, and anybody getting upset over it is scamming (getting them invested before being willing to discuss it). Same as not taking about general (not specific) payscale for the position, medical coverage, hours, or whatever until the second or third interview.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨USA Air Force issues new guide regarding acceptable phrases to be used when on duty⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  My favorite part is “Eat shit and die” is addressed to the enlisted (“excuse me” being the replacement) and “Eat shit and die, motherfucker” is addressed to officers (“excuse me, Sir”), because you wouldn’t be saying “sir” to enlisted members.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anons make the worst game ever⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Lol, I just said that to my wife! She’s just finished Heavensward, and it took a lot of “seriously it gets better! But also I played through the first hour of the new expansion and fought one mob. Of three low-level trash creatures. So… but it’s good! Really!”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Great tee shirt with words of wisdom that I bet you never realized⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Gonna has to go piece by piece through this:

  obviously everyman has had a dick in his hand for obvious reasons.

  This line is trans-exclusive, which would probably be given a pass by all but the most ardent trans-inclusive commenters, but still not great.

  And all females

  Dude. There are some times when an argument is made that saying “females” is not inherently objectifying, especially in a scientific, military, or other setting where people are categorized that way, with the significant difference being consistency (e.g. man/woman, male/female, etc). Using one then the other strips all that away and makes it seem like referring to women as “females” is just your normal tendency, which strongly suggests the objectifying behavior.

  And all females old enough for sexual interactions have had one in their hand.

  This is just obviously wrong, as plenty of lesbians, asexual people, or those with lack of access to sexual connections with others have not had a dick in their hands, and that is not an insignificant percentage of women, I’d imagine.

  The next time I shake the hand of a woman I am going to wonder how many dicks she has had in that hand.

  As if to underline the “females” comment, it’s pretty telling that you feel it worth mentioning that you’re going to wonder how many dicks were in the hands of women, but not men (especially funny since any man you meet has most likely had a dick in his hand more recently than a woman).

  Sometimes it is difficult to notice your own biases, so I hope this makes you think about what leads you toward thinking like this, and just general self-reflection.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Great tee shirt with words of wisdom that I bet you never realized⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Kind of irrelevant, because there’s lots of lesbians who have never touched a dick.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Bumper sticker⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  “Part of my religion is forced evangelism. The government getting in the way of me forcing my religion on others violates my Freedom of Religion.”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What are your favourite trailers?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  The Battlefield 1 trailer.

  I had never played a Battlefield game, and that trailer got me pumped enough to buy it at launch. Also, WWI was such an interesting (and horrifying) war.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Drift!!⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, one of the most infuriating things, that we have to find ways for the people who caused the problem to profit from fixing it to get anything accomplished.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Am I the only one who feels uncomfortable about people making such big deal out of whether they're "black" or "white"?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  The reality is because of the lived experiences of people based on the color of their skin, people are different based on skin color. You’re right that it’s a stupid reason to think differently of people, but if people had been mistreated for many generations based on the color of their hair, and there was still a good chunk of people that something so arbitrary was somehow important, then you would want to approach a person with that hair color with understanding of that history and current struggle.

  So why does it matter? Because 100 years ago, their great-great-grandparents had any wealth they managed to build up taken from them, 70 years ago their great-grandparents were kept boxed into separate, substandard areas, and 50 years ago their grandparents were kept from being able to buy homes outside low-income, substandard housing areas, and 30 years ago their parents were told it was their fault for growing up in crime-filled, poor areas with under-funded schools. And the whole time police have continuously treated them as that same substandard, poor, likely-criminal, so they have disproportionately been put in jail or grown up with one parent in jail. This obviously doesn’t apply to everyone, but it’s enough to lead people to treat them differently, either because they presume (until otherwise established) that they are poor, poorly educated, and likely criminal (by basically racist assholes) or with a certain amount of respect for their presumed struggles.

  Taking it to an extreme, if a person comes across a very old person with a number tattooed in block letters on their forearm, they will respond one of two ways: with respect and concern for their presumed struggles and trauma, or with irrational hatred (by neo-nazis). Judging or “separating” a person for a barely noticeable tattoo that they didn’t even put on themselves may seem arbitrary, but only if you ignore the entire history that makes them different.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Pterosaurs⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  My dog’s name is Die Fledermaus. He’s a black-and-tan dachshund.

  We call him Maus for short. But he does look like a little bat dog.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Pterosaurs⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  How is it that we discover bones of a large flying creature, and first thought is “it looks mammalian, like a flying possum!” And then “nah, that’s ridiculous. It was a flying reptile! Like a DRAGON!”

  Large flying creature, and nobody thinks giant bird? Really?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨When you die, what do you want to be done with you?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Gotta launch the arrows at the climax, too, for maximum effect.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How are Americans supposed to survive the next 30 years?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  My question was less about how doable it is, and more… if you can’t afford to buy a house, how can you afford to pay rent (and thus someone else’s mortgage plus a little extra)?

  The last place I lived, I could afford my mortgage but I wouldn’t have been able to afford to rent an equivalent house. Hence my confusion.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How are Americans supposed to survive the next 30 years?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I know this wasn’t your point, but I’ve been confused on a particular point for awhile:

  buying a house is simply out of reach unless you have dual income and it better be nearly six figure dual income…

  Just the general idea of it being impossible to afford to buy a house. And don’t get me wrong, the prices on houses have gotten ridiculous! At the same time, we talk about landlords buying houses and charging exorbitant rent (suggesting at the very least more than what they pay).

  So if rent is more than the mortgage, insurance, etc, then how is it impossible to buy a house if it is possible to rent (an equivalent home)? Is it the down payment (if any)? Costs involved in purchasing? Because it seems like month to month it would be cheaper.

  I say this as someone who has rented and owned, and owning felt significantly cheaper.

  (Full disclosure, I’m in the military, so I had access to a VA loan… though not really sure what that did for me except maybe allow 0% down… if other people are absolutely required to put up a percentage then I can definitely understand it).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨No phones, no emails, just living in the moment⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Isn’t this a large part of the premise of the newer Disney Princess and the Frog movie?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon tries to understand his coworker⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ll never understand how difficult people make things by not being forthright and making things awkward:

  “Is it okay if I bring my boyfriend?”

  “…I think there’s been a misunderstanding. I had asked you on a hike as a fun first date, I didn’t realize you had a boyfriend. I’m going to bow out of this, but I can give you the hike info if you want to take him.” And then you laugh about the misunderstanding the next work day, and keep things at work from then on. No reason for it to get bad. Flirting is still fun! Just leave it at that without expecting anything more.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon falls through the cracks⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Because nobody ever accepts more work or responsibility for higher pay to afford more or better things. Most people work just enough to pay for rent and groceries and are perfectly happy with that.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨In the US, what is stopping people from bribing members of the electoral college?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  A president who wants what is best for his people, seeks out the smartest man on the planet, and puts him in charge of the most challenging problem facing the country?

  Yes. I want president Dwayne Elizondo Mountain Dew Herbert Camacho as president.