TheDoozer
@TheDoozer@lemmy.world
- Comment on What is something you like to tell people? 2 days ago:
I have never thought dropping a cast iron held concern for the skillet, but whatever inevitably stopped its fall.
- Comment on My mom tells me I should cut dad off for cheating on her, am I a bad person for not wanting to do so? 2 days ago:
One side it trying to force them to choose a side. It is up to adults to say “this is between us, and our relationship doesn’t change your relationships.”
OP could be very supportive of their mother and still not want to move out of the home they already lived in. But it doesn’t sound like the mom wants to let OP do that.
Also, from their other comments, their father has been more supportive through their life while their mom has been cold and judgemental. Trying to force her child into a position whete they are expected to mete out judgement as well just emphasizes that they aren’t terribly concerned with the well-being of their child.
And anyway, if you want support, you should give support. And OPs mom missed that boat, so it makes sense for OP to stay with the parent who supported them.
- Comment on Startup Hack! 4 days ago:
We do what we must
Because… we can.
- Comment on So close! 4 days ago:
It’s not soup if they discard the water after cooking, leaving only the vegetables.
So… boiled vegetables. That’s still already a thing. Not a particularly good thing (to my tastes), but been a thing for a long time.
- Comment on Don't Look Up 4 days ago:
That’s fish.
- Comment on I feel attacked 5 days ago:
I don’t know, running for a lot of us is just having our bodies start breaking down and want to avert that.
- Comment on buddy of mine is in a horrible mood 6 days ago:
“I need to improve myself” or “I’m just not his/her type I’ll find someone.”
Hm… the only thing I can remember thinking after having been rejected was “phew, that didn’t work out, but glad I tried!” and moved on with my life. That… might be more to do with the general dissociation that I’m starting to realize has been a major theme in my life.
- Comment on IT’S THE FEDS! 1 week ago:
sllllurrrrrrrrrrrrrrpppp
exaggerated: Aaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
- Comment on Anon discovers cigarettes 1 week ago:
Cigarettes and coffee, man. The diner I used to go to (20+ years ago) had a single “non-smoking” table in the middle of the restaurant, the tar turned the walls yellowish (it was a 24 hour diner and closed once a year for a few days to deep clean the place), and there was always a haze. I didn’t smoke personally, but I spent a lot of time there.
When the smoking ban hit, it hit that place hard. A few weeks after it went into effect, I went there and thought they had changed the coffee they used because it wasn’t nearly as good. I asked the waitress, and she said it was the same, you just didn’t have all the cigarette smoke to go with it anymore. Turns out they used the exact same coffee as every other diner in town, they just had a constant nicotine-laced aromatics to go with it.
- Comment on Anon discovers cigarettes 1 week ago:
I (also military) used to grab a cup of coffee and bring it out whenever the smokers went out (though I had to start doing half a cup, because the smokers took a lot of breaks).
Then one chief established there would be no more “smoke breaks” for the smokers, but everyone would get regular breaks (and the smokers could take theirs outside). People (including the smokers who had been taking breaks all along) started making jokes about taking their “union mandated” breaks. And the smokers just went out twice as often.
- Comment on I'd choose 4 tbh 1 week ago:
2 (as long as that means I can’t go past my current weight, not that every time I poop, sweat, or pee I lose weight I can never regain) 5… and I guess 9. I’m doing okay, and I’ve never had a strong need for “a lot of money.”
5 isn’t even because I want to have super strength, it’s more to be able to compensate for my jacked up joints and being overweight.
I would trade any of the three of these for “cure my sleep apnea” though.
1 sounds tempting, as long as it’s just the insulation, you know? I don’t know a whole lot about biology, but I feel like if you immediately removed all fats from your body, your cells would just die (all the lipids disappearing). But if you could remove all the fat listed in the “body fat percentage” and made it so I could still get some fats quickly (for a healthy amount), I’d take that over 2. Once it’s there, it makes it so hard to get rid of, but I feel like if it was gone in one go, I could keep it off.
Wow, my decisions for “magic pills” would be kind of depressing to 20-year-old me. At least with the exception of my health I’m reasonably content.
- Comment on I'd choose 4 tbh 1 week ago:
It says you can’t gain weight. I’m already overweight, and about max for what I can be to keep my job (military) and not totally break down. So if “can’t gain weight” means this is my max weight and no matter what I do I can’t go past it, that makes a comfortable hard stop for future efforts toward dieting.
- Comment on 'The Last of Us' Season 2 Finale Viewership Down 55% From Season 1 1 week ago:
I was a bit disappointed when I saw Abby in the show version. I was hoping for some serious Cherlize Theron level body change in the show between flashback Abby and current Abby. I figured that’d be the hardest casting in the series, and instead they just… didn’t. It was supposed to be this swole vs. survivor battle between Ellie and Abby, and instead… i think Bella could take her, honestly.
- Comment on 'The Last of Us' Season 2 Finale Viewership Down 55% From Season 1 1 week ago:
Seriously, that switch over in the game was such a trip. I think they really missed out having that.
- Comment on So which one? 1 week ago:
C, I call it the Jethro Tull.
- Comment on Don't ask for more pixels 2 weeks ago:
I mean, yeah, I can very competently clean out a shithouse as well as I can competently fix a helicopter. I probably won’t be exceptional at either one (though I absolutely kill it on written tests, I guess).
- Comment on Don't ask for more pixels 2 weeks ago:
It’s similar with the ASVAB (multisection test for determing qualification for military service). I scored the highest score available, a 99, because it seemed in each section they moved on once they established competence.
The few people who saw my score (I don’t go around telling people) have asked if I was super smart or something (the recruiter called me “professor” and asked if I had a Masters), and I said no, I am just competent at anything I could do in the military. I’m honestly not excellent at any particular thing, and in any given task I’m unlikely to be the best one there for it. But I’m capable of doing any task adequately. As my old trombone instructor used to say, I’m a “jack of all trades, master of none.”
But the test doesn’t care if you’re amazing at anything. It just wants to see if you’re capable of doing anything.
- Comment on i broke 3 weeks ago:
I had to self-teach myself that once I hit adulthood. Things like “if left to pay a bill at some specified time (not immediately), I will fail. So all bills go on autopay.” It’s burned me a few times, but not nearly as often as constantly being burned with late fees and such.
Also, when my wife met me, she met someone who led a Spartan existence, with all my no-furniture belongings fitting in a piece of luggage. She thought it was preference, and completely blew off me constantly complaining about clutter and mess in the house. Once I explained (ten years in) that I can’t have many things without it becoming a huge unmitigated mess (like having “pathways” through the clutter), so having a whole lot of stuff is shitting on my coping mechanisms and stressing me out, making me constantly uncomfortable in my own home. She understood, and stopped giving me shit for it… not that it changed the clutter, but at least when i complain I don’t get hand-waved, I get an apology. Which is something, I guess (until I snap and the dumpster and donation center get a ton of bags).
- Comment on doctors 3 weeks ago:
I’ve had almost exclusively military doctors for nearly two decades, and I can tell you they aren’t trying to respect your feelings (not that they’re dicks). If your tests come back with high cholesterol, they aren’t jumping to Lipitor or some shit, they’ll refer you to a nutritionist and tell you to exercise more. They have no problems telling you that your health troubles come from that weight crushing your organs and joints.
And that’s as a person in the military, who has to maintain a certain level if fitness to keep my job.
- Comment on How do children address a non-binary parent? 3 weeks ago:
Show some respect.
It’s a convenience store/deli/sometimes gas station, and it has the best Thanksgiving sandwich you can order, pay for, and pick up without a single word to a human (and usually in less than 5 minutes).
- Comment on Better have done his homework 3 weeks ago:
Seriously, a really popular show out now is Bob’s Burgers, about a family who owns a burger restaurant and he absolutely loves making great burgers. And they’re white.
The idea is if it’s a small, family run restaurant, there’s a good chance those recipes are family recipes. So it’s gonna be good.
Also, I understood the homework thing to be about his age , not about his race. I might be wrong, though.
- Comment on Polar bears 3 weeks ago:
Ahead of their time.
- Comment on Polar bears 3 weeks ago:
Oh, I had understood that to mean lay down facedown (with your back to it) since people usually have backpacks while hiking/hunting, and it provides some measure of protection.
- Comment on Anting 4 weeks ago:
It’d be sweeter if I had a house and could arrange a spot to do it reliably.
My wife and I are buying a house, and one of the main things she’s planning is The Unkindness Sanctuary, since there are a ton of ravens in our area.
- Comment on What are some good examples of "Where the fuck do you go" kind of games? 4 weeks ago:
This is an extremely specific situation in a game, but…
In World of Warcraft, back in the day, there was a dungeon in Outland, I believe it was Helfire Citadel. It wasn’t particularly hard, but if you died, you were screwed. The way dungeon deaths worked was your spirit would spawn in a graveyard out in the regular world, and you would have to run your spirit ass back to the dungeon entrance to respawn. But finding the entrance to Helfire Citadel was so difficult I told the group if they don’t rez me, they’d have to just kick me, because I’d never make it back in. It was awful.
- Comment on If I snapped you back in time 650 years right this very second, how would you use your current knowledge to succeed? 5 weeks ago:
Well, I’m in America, so…
I guess I’d prep the natives to help put up a proper fight. Find a way to teach them that white people (like myself) carry diseases and to stay away and keep them away. If they land on your shores, drive them back. Never let them get a foothold. I’d try to convince them that I was a demon that got away from the other demons to warn of our coming.
I’d do my best to make it so nobody remembered the name Christopher Columbus except as the idiot that died because he thought the world was much smaller than it is and never returned from his voyage.
- Comment on I'm so vegan I could eat a burger and still be a vegan 1 month ago:
I am convinced that vegans today will be like we look at abolitionists like Alexander Hamilton back during the 18th century. People will be horrified that we treated animals so abysmally for convenience, and some will say it was a normal and accepted practice, and people didn’t realize how horrible it was, and others will point to the vegans of today.
Thoughts like those make me a little more understanding of people like George Washington. He recognized it was bad, tried to mitigate it, but still perpetuated the practice. Just like I switched to Impossible Beef and chicken, do my best to buy local family eggs, but buy cheese and milk and ice cream from big name companies like Tillamook and Ben & Jerry’s.
- Comment on Anon has regrets 1 month ago:
Her kegels could probably crack walnuts. You’re lucky you walked away with your dick still attached.
- Comment on Anon is a statistic 1 month ago:
So… I’m curious why you think gang shootings shouldn’t count or is a bit disingenuous to include.
- Comment on Why is there steam coming out of the streets in New York 1 month ago:
90s Dominos was trash. Even Dominos recognized old Dominos was trash.