TheDoozer

@TheDoozer@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨i broke⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I had to self-teach myself that once I hit adulthood. Things like “if left to pay a bill at some specified time (not immediately), I will fail. So all bills go on autopay.” It’s burned me a few times, but not nearly as often as constantly being burned with late fees and such.

  Also, when my wife met me, she met someone who led a Spartan existence, with all my no-furniture belongings fitting in a piece of luggage. She thought it was preference, and completely blew off me constantly complaining about clutter and mess in the house. Once I explained (ten years in) that I can’t have many things without it becoming a huge unmitigated mess (like having “pathways” through the clutter), so having a whole lot of stuff is shitting on my coping mechanisms and stressing me out, making me constantly uncomfortable in my own home. She understood, and stopped giving me shit for it… not that it changed the clutter, but at least when i complain I don’t get hand-waved, I get an apology. Which is something, I guess (until I snap and the dumpster and donation center get a ton of bags).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨doctors⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve had almost exclusively military doctors for nearly two decades, and I can tell you they aren’t trying to respect your feelings (not that they’re dicks). If your tests come back with high cholesterol, they aren’t jumping to Lipitor or some shit, they’ll refer you to a nutritionist and tell you to exercise more. They have no problems telling you that your health troubles come from that weight crushing your organs and joints.

  And that’s as a person in the military, who has to maintain a certain level if fitness to keep my job.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do children address a non-binary parent?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Show some respect.

  It’s a convenience store/deli/sometimes gas station, and it has the best Thanksgiving sandwich you can order, pay for, and pick up without a single word to a human (and usually in less than 5 minutes).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Better have done his homework⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Seriously, a really popular show out now is Bob’s Burgers, about a family who owns a burger restaurant and he absolutely loves making great burgers. And they’re white.

  The idea is if it’s a small, family run restaurant, there’s a good chance those recipes are family recipes. So it’s gonna be good.

  Also, I understood the homework thing to be about his age , not about his race. I might be wrong, though.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Polar bears⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Ahead of their time.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Polar bears⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh, I had understood that to mean lay down facedown (with your back to it) since people usually have backpacks while hiking/hunting, and it provides some measure of protection.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anting⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  It’d be sweeter if I had a house and could arrange a spot to do it reliably.

  My wife and I are buying a house, and one of the main things she’s planning is The Unkindness Sanctuary, since there are a ton of ravens in our area.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What are some good examples of "Where the fuck do you go" kind of games?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  This is an extremely specific situation in a game, but…

  In World of Warcraft, back in the day, there was a dungeon in Outland, I believe it was Helfire Citadel. It wasn’t particularly hard, but if you died, you were screwed. The way dungeon deaths worked was your spirit would spawn in a graveyard out in the regular world, and you would have to run your spirit ass back to the dungeon entrance to respawn. But finding the entrance to Helfire Citadel was so difficult I told the group if they don’t rez me, they’d have to just kick me, because I’d never make it back in. It was awful.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If I snapped you back in time 650 years right this very second, how would you use your current knowledge to succeed?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Well, I’m in America, so…

  I guess I’d prep the natives to help put up a proper fight. Find a way to teach them that white people (like myself) carry diseases and to stay away and keep them away. If they land on your shores, drive them back. Never let them get a foothold. I’d try to convince them that I was a demon that got away from the other demons to warn of our coming.

  I’d do my best to make it so nobody remembered the name Christopher Columbus except as the idiot that died because he thought the world was much smaller than it is and never returned from his voyage.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm so vegan I could eat a burger and still be a vegan⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I am convinced that vegans today will be like we look at abolitionists like Alexander Hamilton back during the 18th century. People will be horrified that we treated animals so abysmally for convenience, and some will say it was a normal and accepted practice, and people didn’t realize how horrible it was, and others will point to the vegans of today.

  Thoughts like those make me a little more understanding of people like George Washington. He recognized it was bad, tried to mitigate it, but still perpetuated the practice. Just like I switched to Impossible Beef and chicken, do my best to buy local family eggs, but buy cheese and milk and ice cream from big name companies like Tillamook and Ben & Jerry’s.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon has regrets⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Her kegels could probably crack walnuts. You’re lucky you walked away with your dick still attached.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon is a statistic⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  So… I’m curious why you think gang shootings shouldn’t count or is a bit disingenuous to include.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is there steam coming out of the streets in New York⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  90s Dominos was trash. Even Dominos recognized old Dominos was trash.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon makes life choices⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I basically fell into my life choices and they’ve worked out remarkably well for me. I intended, upon leaving high school, to get a music education degree and become a high school band teacher. Then due to budget reasons (and an unwillingness to take out $50-80k in loans) and having to work full time to support myself, I ended up taking a break from school (after taking 5 years to get my Associates Degree). I moved to the opposite side of the country on a whim, and after a year and a half at a truly miserable call center job, my friend suggested the Coast Guard. So I talked to a recruiter and got a report date.

  Around the same time, I met a woman in my area (back before online dating was the tragic mess it currently is) while just looking for people to do things with, since I moved across the country knowing nobody. We got along, but nothing kicked off until I told her I was joining the military (leaving), we both expressed how interested we were in each other, and became a couple.

  I’ll spare you the longer story, but ended up proposing during “off-base liberty” in boot camp (generally speaking DO NOT RECOMMEND) because I was moving halfway across the country, and, per my proposal, “neither of us have anything, you just lost your job, and the way we both are, even if it’s bad we’ll stick it out for a year. And if you ever want to go back, we’ll buy you a plane ticket, split what we have, and you’re no worse off than you are now.” We ended up getting along amazingly.

  And I was worried about joining the military (which I was doing for the GI Bill so I could finish school then become a band teacher), but the job I’ve been doing is WAY better than being a band teacher, and I’m currently buying a house (for the second time) and getting set to retire somewhere amazing. At 46.

  My life is considerably better than anything I might have planned, because I went along with the opportunities that came up. I think OP failed task successfully.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are most people here left-wing?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Thank you for this. It seems more in keeping with the original idea of the US, a federation of states.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are most people here left-wing?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Can you give some examples of how that works? Like, who pays for roads, who handles environmental regulations (or are there any), who establishes education standards (or are there any), etc. I’m not trying to argue, it just seems like on the internet people referring to “state authoritarianism” and “central government tyranny” ranges from “adults can’t be transgender” to “I have to pay taxes and the government won’t let me own slaves.”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨SPIRIT WEAPON⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  So, like… a cheesecake recipe?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon is worried about men⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I was with you (to a degree)until:

  they’re supposed to miraculously become an expert in navigating a potentially life-destroying minefield, where the only two outcomes is magically getting it right, or risking a non-trivial probability of incarceration and a criminal record when they (invariably) get it wrong?

  This is some nonsense. The worst the man will get (barring some VERY unacceptable behavior on his part) is yelled at by an angry (and probably shitty, if all the man did was politely approach at even a remotely reasonable time) woman. Which, turns out, is something women deal with from shitty men fairly regularly. It turns out, when you are interacting with strangers out in public, there is a small chance you are going to interact with an asshole. That doesn’t mean you should be a hermit, that means you met an asshole. And if everyone you meet is an asshole… you’re probably the asshole.

  But nobody is going to jail or having life-shattering consequences for saying hello to a woman they don’t know.

  THAT BEING SAID, if we, as men, are regularly told that approaching a woman in public is uncomfortable, unpleasant, or downright scary for women, decent men won’t want to approach women in order to avoid making them uncomfortable.

  My personal experience has been to the contrary, and have struck up conversations with a number of women I didn’t know in public, and never had a particularly bad experience. Maybe I am generally non-threatening, or maybe I have better social skills than some, but if all a person who rarely interacts with women hears is that initiating any sort of contact is unpleasant to the woman they talk to, I can’t imagine they’d be inclined to strike up a conversation. And if they do make women uncomfortable (due to poor social skills from… not regularly interacting with women), it only reinforces that belief.

  What’s the answer? I don’t know. But it feels like making men who care about the feelings of women uncomfortable with approaching them does nothing but leave the ones who don’t care. I think the message needs to change.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨frenly warnin⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  This reminds me of an anecdote talking about language differences between the US armed services:

  If you told a Marine to secure a building, they would kick the door in and take control of the building.

  If you told a soldier in the Army to secure a building, they would set up a fence around it and establish a sentry.

  If you told a Navy sailor to secure a building, they’d turn off all the lights and close and lock the door on their way out.

  If you told an Airforce airman to secure a building, they would write up a purchasing contract.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is 33 cents a small amount of money?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  When you are talking large income to larger income, that makes total sense, but are there limits for access to things like child tax credits where if you go over you are no longer eligible, causing significant increase (I just looked, and it’s at $200k single of $400k jointly, so unless you have A LOT of children, I suppose there wouldn’t be a huge effect)? Similar to people on government assistance who go from getting full assistance to getting nothing at a certain income level?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Almost done⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Man, I do enjoy taking the wind out of the sails of presumptuous people knee-jerking a response without knowing any specifics.

  I spent most of my career flying in relatively dangerous conditions in helicopters (or on small boats, before I went into aviation) in order to save people from drowning in the ocean or freezing in the woods. I’ve had two coworkers who’ve crashed (in separate incidences), one of which was at the door sending a dewatering pump to a sinking boat. I specifically joined the service I did because, as I told the recruiter, I can choose to join, but I can’t choose where I’m sent after, and I’m still responsible for my actions because I chose to join in the first place. There’s nothing morally ambiguous about saving somebody whose boat is sinking.

  Now, don’t get me wrong, having more and more of our people being sent to “defend the border” definitely falls in the realm of “not what I signed up for,” but I haven’t personally been forced into that, and am extremely unlikely to.

  So I may have dealt with some brown kids whose lives were threatened, but certainly haven’t found any that were a threat themselves (except to themselves… boaters tend to be their own worst enemies).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Almost done⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I remember that time well. Mine are 5 and 10, so I’m moving out of the more intensive child-rearing time. When I retire, they should both be at or near the “too busy for Dad” time, so other than giving rides, my days should be free and clear. I’m really looking forward to it.

  Good luck with the little ones!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Almost done⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I retire (military) in 4 years, and my countdown feels like this, but more specific. I just had to re-enlist, and I was asking if I had to do full years, or if I could do 4.3 to line up with the anniversary of my enlistment (to retire THE DAY I am technically able to).

  Not that I don’t enjoy my job, because I do, but I’m excited to be able to do whatever I want with my time and let my wife be the primary support for us for awhile.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It's why they tried to get rid of it⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  And Pluto knows that it’s Hot Shit.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I think he’s saying seeing a therapist that doesn’t specialize in gender dysphoria (kind of the “to a hammer, everything is a nail” thought). So going in and talking about all their mental health issues, and seeing if gender dysphoria comes out with it.

  I don’t think it’s a terrible read, if it seems like gender dysphoria is coming out of nowhere. Very different if OP was showing signs of it most of their life, and their dad had just refused to acknowledge it. Tough to tell just from what’s written, but I think the dad is remarkably reasonable.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are mood problems a “turn off” for people even when they’re hard to manage?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Even more, it’s the justifying it with the “I’m just trying to help them” and “tough love” bullshit. That’s not a mood problem, or anything like that. That is being an asshole (not that they are mutually exclusive).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨brain blowing orgasms⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Holy shit what a way to go.

  Get horny > have sex > orgasm > keep orgasming > die of too much orgasm

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Looks legit, but can it actually be a real thing?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Do you wish to see them, PetaQ?!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Speedometer, or Siegometer?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  It goes from 0 to Seig-sty in 7.6 seconds.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why was Hitler so mean and hateful toward one group or another? I find it hard to believe he woke up one day and said you and you suck but these people over here are good. Taking it so far as killing?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Not exactly (from my reading). The Jewish communities tended to be fairly insular, and focused a lot of their business inward. They still dealt with outsiders, but money flow tended to move mostly in one direction, so it seemed like the Jewish people were much better off and “taking” from the rest, when the rest of the country struggled. It was really more that a marginalized community took care of their own. Shocking, right?

  Plenty of other communities do the same. It’s still a bunch of scapegoating.