TheDoozer
@TheDoozer@lemmy.world
- Comment on We live wasted lives 5 days ago:
So funny enough, as an American, I have the majority of that while being in the military. We even currently have three months of maternity and paternity leave, which can be used as the member sees fit through the first year after birth.
All except the privacy laws and employee protection laws, though it can often be exceptionally difficult to fire people for reasons that don’t involve the politics of the people in charge. And even then, lawsuits usually get those people backpay.
I’d be advocating for the US Coast Guard with this right now, but the current administration is shifting our focus from being a life-saving/preserving service to another border control agency, so… not a great time to be joining if it’s for moral reasons. sigh
- Comment on I'm very Jesus-like 1 week ago:
What is this supposed to mean? Is the implication that for the past ten thousand years, everyone should have lived in constant misery, thinking of nothing but the suffering of innocents, without a moment to spare for joy or silliness?
Or are you trying to twist their words to suggest that the suffering of innocents now isn’t important because it’s been happening for 10k years? Because that was clearly not the message being made. The closest I could imagine is they may be pointing out that some treat pointing out innocents suffering as a fad, where people all of a sudden care and can’t believe that anyone else can do or care about anything else (and will burn out and stop caring once the fad is done, whether the issue has been resolved or not).
Either way, if you spend your whole time doomscrolling and never leave yourself a space for moth memes (or whatever), you will be no help to anyone and live in impotent misery.
Basically, moth memes are self care.
- Comment on That's exactly it 1 week ago:
You don’t conjure cockroaches into existence by shining the light on them.
- Comment on It's my cake day. 2 years of my life spent here. Unrelated pic 1 week ago:
I bet kids couldn’t pass a cognitive test designed for cephalopods.
- Comment on Sorry, groceries. 1 week ago:
Yeah, so you set your standards higher because you’re not on your own anymore, and you realize living in filth is unacceptable.
(My brother is like that. A mess by himself, but remarkably clean and responsible whenever he’s in a relationship)
- Comment on Shhhhh 2 weeks ago:
Our combination microwave/air fryer/oven has this cool function where after the timer hits 0 but before it beeps, it keeps turning until it is back in the original position (so if you have, for example, a coffee cup in there, the handle will face the same direction as it did when put in. That buffer to pull it out without beeping was kind of amazing.
- Comment on Why does Dairy Queen sell food? 2 weeks ago:
There is a whole section to each DQ for Regional Menu. Some places will have Steak Fries, or… I can’t remember what else. In the North West (US) we had Ultimates and Deluxe burgers, which were the smaller patties (want to say 1/6lb), american cheese, and thousand island dressing (Ultimates were doubles and had bacon as well).
When I was at DQ School in Minneapolis, i got to meet store managers and owners from all over, and it was really interesting to learn all the regional fare (and apparently South American DQs, at least then, were purely Treat Centers, which is what I imagine OP was assuming they’d all be).
- Comment on Why does Dairy Queen sell food? 2 weeks ago:
That is entirely different store to store. The one I managed and our sister store (owned by the same family) used a conveyer belt style flame broiler (automatic broiler). Far more consistent and less labor intensive.
- Comment on Why does Dairy Queen sell food? 2 weeks ago:
They’re certainly not ice cream/soft serve stores, but here we are.
- Comment on Why does Dairy Queen sell food? 2 weeks ago:
Funny enough, the milk they use (at least the supplier to the store I managed) is nonfat milk. So the first listed ingedient is nonfat milk, and the second is milk fat, lol.
- Comment on Interesting news 3 weeks ago:
immediately posts to !yepowertrippinbastards@lemmy.dbzer0.com
- Comment on What is something you like to tell people? 4 weeks ago:
I have never thought dropping a cast iron held concern for the skillet, but whatever inevitably stopped its fall.
- Comment on My mom tells me I should cut dad off for cheating on her, am I a bad person for not wanting to do so? 4 weeks ago:
One side it trying to force them to choose a side. It is up to adults to say “this is between us, and our relationship doesn’t change your relationships.”
OP could be very supportive of their mother and still not want to move out of the home they already lived in. But it doesn’t sound like the mom wants to let OP do that.
Also, from their other comments, their father has been more supportive through their life while their mom has been cold and judgemental. Trying to force her child into a position whete they are expected to mete out judgement as well just emphasizes that they aren’t terribly concerned with the well-being of their child.
And anyway, if you want support, you should give support. And OPs mom missed that boat, so it makes sense for OP to stay with the parent who supported them.
- Comment on Startup Hack! 4 weeks ago:
We do what we must
Because… we can.
- Comment on So close! 4 weeks ago:
It’s not soup if they discard the water after cooking, leaving only the vegetables.
So… boiled vegetables. That’s still already a thing. Not a particularly good thing (to my tastes), but been a thing for a long time.
- Comment on Don't Look Up 4 weeks ago:
That’s fish.
- Comment on I feel attacked 5 weeks ago:
I don’t know, running for a lot of us is just having our bodies start breaking down and want to avert that.
- Comment on buddy of mine is in a horrible mood 5 weeks ago:
“I need to improve myself” or “I’m just not his/her type I’ll find someone.”
Hm… the only thing I can remember thinking after having been rejected was “phew, that didn’t work out, but glad I tried!” and moved on with my life. That… might be more to do with the general dissociation that I’m starting to realize has been a major theme in my life.
- Comment on IT’S THE FEDS! 5 weeks ago:
sllllurrrrrrrrrrrrrrpppp
exaggerated: Aaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
- Comment on Anon discovers cigarettes 5 weeks ago:
Cigarettes and coffee, man. The diner I used to go to (20+ years ago) had a single “non-smoking” table in the middle of the restaurant, the tar turned the walls yellowish (it was a 24 hour diner and closed once a year for a few days to deep clean the place), and there was always a haze. I didn’t smoke personally, but I spent a lot of time there.
When the smoking ban hit, it hit that place hard. A few weeks after it went into effect, I went there and thought they had changed the coffee they used because it wasn’t nearly as good. I asked the waitress, and she said it was the same, you just didn’t have all the cigarette smoke to go with it anymore. Turns out they used the exact same coffee as every other diner in town, they just had a constant nicotine-laced aromatics to go with it.
- Comment on Anon discovers cigarettes 5 weeks ago:
I (also military) used to grab a cup of coffee and bring it out whenever the smokers went out (though I had to start doing half a cup, because the smokers took a lot of breaks).
Then one chief established there would be no more “smoke breaks” for the smokers, but everyone would get regular breaks (and the smokers could take theirs outside). People (including the smokers who had been taking breaks all along) started making jokes about taking their “union mandated” breaks. And the smokers just went out twice as often.
- Comment on I'd choose 4 tbh 5 weeks ago:
2 (as long as that means I can’t go past my current weight, not that every time I poop, sweat, or pee I lose weight I can never regain) 5… and I guess 9. I’m doing okay, and I’ve never had a strong need for “a lot of money.”
5 isn’t even because I want to have super strength, it’s more to be able to compensate for my jacked up joints and being overweight.
I would trade any of the three of these for “cure my sleep apnea” though.
1 sounds tempting, as long as it’s just the insulation, you know? I don’t know a whole lot about biology, but I feel like if you immediately removed all fats from your body, your cells would just die (all the lipids disappearing). But if you could remove all the fat listed in the “body fat percentage” and made it so I could still get some fats quickly (for a healthy amount), I’d take that over 2. Once it’s there, it makes it so hard to get rid of, but I feel like if it was gone in one go, I could keep it off.
Wow, my decisions for “magic pills” would be kind of depressing to 20-year-old me. At least with the exception of my health I’m reasonably content.
- Comment on I'd choose 4 tbh 5 weeks ago:
It says you can’t gain weight. I’m already overweight, and about max for what I can be to keep my job (military) and not totally break down. So if “can’t gain weight” means this is my max weight and no matter what I do I can’t go past it, that makes a comfortable hard stop for future efforts toward dieting.
- Comment on 'The Last of Us' Season 2 Finale Viewership Down 55% From Season 1 5 weeks ago:
I was a bit disappointed when I saw Abby in the show version. I was hoping for some serious Cherlize Theron level body change in the show between flashback Abby and current Abby. I figured that’d be the hardest casting in the series, and instead they just… didn’t. It was supposed to be this swole vs. survivor battle between Ellie and Abby, and instead… i think Bella could take her, honestly.
- Comment on 'The Last of Us' Season 2 Finale Viewership Down 55% From Season 1 5 weeks ago:
Seriously, that switch over in the game was such a trip. I think they really missed out having that.
- Comment on So which one? 5 weeks ago:
C, I call it the Jethro Tull.
- Comment on Don't ask for more pixels 1 month ago:
I mean, yeah, I can very competently clean out a shithouse as well as I can competently fix a helicopter. I probably won’t be exceptional at either one (though I absolutely kill it on written tests, I guess).
- Comment on Don't ask for more pixels 1 month ago:
It’s similar with the ASVAB (multisection test for determing qualification for military service). I scored the highest score available, a 99, because it seemed in each section they moved on once they established competence.
The few people who saw my score (I don’t go around telling people) have asked if I was super smart or something (the recruiter called me “professor” and asked if I had a Masters), and I said no, I am just competent at anything I could do in the military. I’m honestly not excellent at any particular thing, and in any given task I’m unlikely to be the best one there for it. But I’m capable of doing any task adequately. As my old trombone instructor used to say, I’m a “jack of all trades, master of none.”
But the test doesn’t care if you’re amazing at anything. It just wants to see if you’re capable of doing anything.
- Comment on i broke 1 month ago:
I had to self-teach myself that once I hit adulthood. Things like “if left to pay a bill at some specified time (not immediately), I will fail. So all bills go on autopay.” It’s burned me a few times, but not nearly as often as constantly being burned with late fees and such.
Also, when my wife met me, she met someone who led a Spartan existence, with all my no-furniture belongings fitting in a piece of luggage. She thought it was preference, and completely blew off me constantly complaining about clutter and mess in the house. Once I explained (ten years in) that I can’t have many things without it becoming a huge unmitigated mess (like having “pathways” through the clutter), so having a whole lot of stuff is shitting on my coping mechanisms and stressing me out, making me constantly uncomfortable in my own home. She understood, and stopped giving me shit for it… not that it changed the clutter, but at least when i complain I don’t get hand-waved, I get an apology. Which is something, I guess (until I snap and the dumpster and donation center get a ton of bags).
- Comment on doctors 1 month ago:
I’ve had almost exclusively military doctors for nearly two decades, and I can tell you they aren’t trying to respect your feelings (not that they’re dicks). If your tests come back with high cholesterol, they aren’t jumping to Lipitor or some shit, they’ll refer you to a nutritionist and tell you to exercise more. They have no problems telling you that your health troubles come from that weight crushing your organs and joints.
And that’s as a person in the military, who has to maintain a certain level if fitness to keep my job.