spankinspinach

@spankinspinach@sh.itjust.works

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I don't have a purpose in life and feel like a robot. This cannot be good for my mental health, but I don't know how or what to change. How do I change?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ll piggy back on your comment, I was gonna say something similar.

  With only the information you provided, it sounds like you’re potentially navigating some high functioning depression, maybe some meaninglessness. They can go hand in hand, and much of the joy of life is lost when/if you’re depressed with no personally meaningful direction.

  Therapy is a good starting point, or even just some gentle self analysis of what may have led you to these feelings (as opposed to the symptoms of it, which it looks to me like what you described).

  It’s a process, and it can take a very long time to learn how to be gentle enough to listen to yourself without judgement. So in addition to therapy, I’d add meditation to allow yourself space and journaling with personally directed questions (e.g., what do I feel, what may have led me to feel this way) that might grant you insights. Dig for what means something to you, and find a way to make it your reality.

  One final thought - do try getting out there and connecting. It’s hard, irritating, and exhausting. But sometimes we spend so much time in our own space/heads that we ruminate ourselves into a quagmire. Ppl and activities corner that rumination to fewer hours of the day, and gives us a break from our own thoughts.

  As poster above said, you’re not even 40 - lots of years of beauty, hope and meaning to be found and loved, though it can take time to really get there :)

  All the best, OP

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Writing tip: just start brain dumping⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  A good intro captivates the reader, drawing them in and leaving them wanting more. This is functionally a masterclass in good writing.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨how do you workout when you don't have much time?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yup, second on this one. Exact same change made, and the gf and I love it. We even walk when it’s minus 20 (though after that we’ll drive). Many days afterwards we’re both too beat for much more of a hard workout, so I’ll hammer out some pushups to failure or smtg

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨why is my whisky evaporating?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  So it’s safe for my takeaway from this to be that I CAN get a modern crystal decanter? This conversation had me leaning away hard until your comment 😂

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why isn't Putin receiving the same level of hate than people like Trump and Elon are?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I think this is the most accurate answer. Trump and Musk have a direct impact on ppls’ day to day, and has the impact of the countries politics to be considered. Putin is just the big bad guy that’s always been there for Americans, so maybe a bit of a novelty affect for the other two too.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Tiger Predators⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I didn’t know this was something I needed. Stolen!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Nahh⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Must be fun winning evolution off the hop

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Rules⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  This sounds like a rule 🤔

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Rules⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  If anything, it makes us legal scholars - if it’s not a written rule, it’s a loophole in the making

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Never Thought⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Whoa. My mind only serves up “Elf”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Rose Finch⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  No no no no no. These guys don’t get a glow-up, they’re already too damn pretty

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Biodiversity⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Turtles: The Pinnacle of Evolution.

  Waiting on the inevitable “wait til you hear about crabs” response 😁

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Biodiversity⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Unlike humans, who are notoriously limited in their housing choices by an evolutionary disadvantage known generally as, “the market.”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨MSc Mansplaining⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Or beat him to within an inch of his life, as the case may be

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Behavioural Science⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Duuuude the animorphs. Absolutely freaking wild story lol I completely forgot it existed. When transformers go human with some wild consequences haha

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How the fuck do you meet new people?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I read a few and didn’t see this. I’m from a smallish town and ended up adopting the community gym. Best decision of my life, saved me from a really rough time. Gymrats are far friendly than their rep gets, most of them are just guys that just wanna bullshit and push shit. A community rec center is also a great option, or a beer league. Just stuff that forces you outside, even when you pull the “but I don’t wannaaaaaa”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Crystals⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I think this is the perfect response haha. Ppl find comfort where they can in the world, even if it looks a little whacky. So long as it’s not hurting anyone, let them have their whacky

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨what would happen if a rogue, earth-size planet ran straight into the sun? anything interesting?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Okay so I forgot how big the sun is and had that absentminded mental picture moment of “oh it would make a big bang as something 3/4s the size of the sun would hit it”…

  This picture was a very helpful reminder of just how out to lunch that thought was. Don’t trust your absent thoughts, folks 😅

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨banana slugs⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  This falls in the list of things I didn’t know I didn’t want to know, but now know, and know I don’t want to know. Oh no

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Hogs⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  The Hoggening

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are cars with AWD worth it compared to FWD.⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  IMO, AWD is overhyped. I’ve driven in snowy, hilly terrain in Canada for 16+ years, and the number of times I’ve been truly, call for help stuck is 2. Always FWD and manual.

  AWD is more expensive to purchase and maintain, burns more gas and tires, and doesn’t convey that many benefits. The ppl who really need AWD are generally the ones who actually need 4x4, and if you actually need 4x4 it’s for a good reason. Knowing how to drive your car well is more valuable.

  Case in point: I once drove up a rocky mountain ski hill on an icy day. There was a rise where everyone was getting stuck, including AWD and FWD drivers. Ppl were helping each other by pushing the cars to get them up/started. I was there for 40 mins, not a single AWD car outdid a FWD car. Trucks with low gear 4x4 made it, with effort.

  TLDR: IMO, AWD is more marketing hype than value that benefits the dealership more than the buyer. Save yourself the coin and get good winter tires instead. Stick with the Versa.

  Love,

  A fellow Versa driver

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Company makes a dollar I get a dime, that's why I shit on company time.⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh yeah the gap in surplus value is ridiculous, and continues to get worse. Sorry my comment was meant as a lazy “and you too can have $28B” joke 🤣

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Company makes a dollar I get a dime, that's why I shit on company time.⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m listening

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Heiroglyphs⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  In addition, there’s a psychological phenomenon where our brains only need the first and last letter of a word in the right place, and all the right letters in between in any order, to suss out a word. Our familiarity with a lngaauge will put it together, so presumably the same is true for healthcare providers’ common words

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Heart Size⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Perfect delivery. No notes

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Absolutely it is.

  See: Millenials post 200…4?

  Source: is Millenial.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨New unit of measurement⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Or, is it drink can doing the pelting of Texas? Also an interesting option

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨there is always one⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  No one ever thinks about the minority 😢

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The American People⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s not just Americans. As a Canadian we’re deeply affected by American situations (plus our own politics). Sometimes the only way to put up with the complex world we live in is a little Squidwardism

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do you get into wild camping, it seems so overwhelming and a lot of information to try and gather?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Ppl are offering great advice about where to start, and it’s what I’d suggest too - start with car camping to get a feel for it. If you overcommit too soon, you could ruin the experience for yourself. I know many ppl who will never camp again because they treated it like a hotel stay, got rained out, and decided it wasn’t for them lol.

  A couple of resource suggestions - you mention an interest in self sufficiency. Read the SAS Survival Guide by one of your own, John Wiseman. It’s my go to for general survival tips and skills, including the ones I hope to never need. But lots of good info just to be aware of too.

  Some other great resources can be books on flora and fauna. One I have sitting on my desk is the Canadian Outdoor Survival Guide. Obviously it’s for Canada, but it teaches you edible plants and behaviour around some bigger beasties (I don’t think that’s an issue in the UK).

  And a final thought - an old Parks Canada marketing slogan is a really good nature-respecting thing to keep in mind: Take only pictures, leave only footprints.

  Nature is in our backyard, but it’s home for the animals that live there.

  Happy camping! ☺️