ThePyroPython
@ThePyroPython@lemmy.world
- Comment on Do you truly believe that this is a human being? 1 day ago:
You misspelt his middle name.
It’s Charlie “human fountain” Kirk.
- Comment on How often do guys have a haircut? 2 days ago:
Once a month.
It’s actually become a bit of a self-care routine because I go to a Turkish barbers who’ll also do ear hair burning off (nowhere near as intense as you’re imagining), noise hair waxing, and a hot towel cut-throat shave.
I actually like the sensations from them all and I walk out feeling clean and fresh, gives me a monthly little boost of confidence.
- Comment on All while the skeletal, crumbling, dusty bones of an econ major pulls business backwards into hell. 3 weeks ago:
The world is powered by a collective STEAM engine:
Science, Technology, Engineering, Arts, Mathematics.
Arts is such a fundamental component for communicating advancements and inspiring the creativity that fuels further discoveries.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 3 weeks ago:
As a cis het man, the “male loneliness epidemic” is more a collection of symptoms of multiple problems without one source.
Those who claim a single source usually point to women because they’re a misogynist grifter looking chasing clout or to sell a scam course / supplement.
So without further ado, here’s my non-academic (and probably ill-informed) reckon based on conversations from online and IRL, lived experiences, and perceived societal norms. Have your large pinch of salt on standby.
- Both men and women have been socialised that the only emotions men show is anger or laughter. Men have been socialised that the only emotion they can express in front of other men is anger and laughter. This means the amount of emotional support men can use from their support network is limited, they’re not practiced on how to deal with them, and either have to figure it out by themselves, be lucky enough to have a friend or partner whom they feel emotionally safe to express these feelings, can afford to seek professional help, laugh the problem off with self-depricating humour to repress the emotion, or turn it into anger usually as a result of succumbing to one of the aforementioned grifters.
Understandably, women have been socialised that if a man is showing emotion then that could turn into frustration and anger and so then they either have to risk taking on unpaid emotional labour or remove themselves from the situation. So sometimes you get this scenario where women want men to be more emotionally open but then recoil when they do because subconscious alarm bells start ringing that “you’re in danger” because there’s a decent chance that they could be.
Thankfully this is changing with younger generations, but it will take a generation or two.
- Male support socialisation is centred around problem solving, not listening. Even if a guy has friends he can lean on emotionally, the conversations are usually focused around fixing the problem rather than providing a listening space and reassurance that those emotions are valid.
This is the main reason I pass off an “I’m fine” to friends and family because they’d try and suggest solutions to the problem rather than just listen.
Again, this is changing in society but these kinds of changes are slow.
- Loss of third spaces. This affects everyone, not just men. But these third spaces where people can socialise without being forced to spend money are key for building communities. When people had disposable income or access to lines of credit it didn’t matter that there was an expectation that you had to pay for parking, food, drink, ticket(s) for the activity. Now, that’s less of an option for many people.
This hasn’t improved and will likely only get worse as late stage capitalism squeezes out anything that is unable or refuses to make more and more profit per quarter.
- The lack of third spaces has moved friendships, courtship, and dating online. Whilst this has meant many people have made connections (platonic and romantic) that would have gone missed, the big tech companies have realised that anger and loneliness are good for business.
The social networks get far more engagement from posts that make people angry and therefore their advertising revenues increase.
Similarly, the dating monopoly Match Group, has realised that having more men than women on the platform means these men will spend money on these platforms for a chance at matches. So they purposely profile men who are likely to pay for things like “super likes” etc. and do nothing to make the experience more pleasant for women.
This isn’t anything new by the way, it’s the same reason some clubs make guys pay on the door and women get in for free, and it’s the same reason why there’s more female sex workers than male sex workers.
Men are willing to pay many and women don’t have to, but women have to put up with a lot of entitlement from the men who have paid for matches / to get into the club and be constantly fending off attention from men they don’t wish to reciprocate the attention to.
Without third spaces for general socialising, the only place to interact with potential partners is paid and will therefore skew financially in favour of women at the cost of their peace-of-mind.
- This is more of a personal sentiment but others might empathise: I don’t want to feel like I’m harassing women.
I’m not cold approaching anyone when I go out because I don’t want to interrupt their precious free time they get in between the grind of life. I don’t want to interrupt them socialising with their friends or be creepy on the dancefloor by getting in their personal space, or even glancing over too much.
So I stay at arms length, avoid eye contact, and only approach or get close if I’m getting multiple very strong signals large enough to land an Airbus A380.
- This is definitely just applies to me, but I have exceedingly low self-confidence, self-esteem, and low opinion of myself from a deep rooted depression. That’s a straight-up non-starter for trying to be with anyone else because nobody, man or woman, likes an emotional anchor dragging their mood down. I’m working on it but without paying a lot of money for therapy (the NHS waiting list is a joke), I’m stuck trying to work it out myself (see points 1 & 2).
So until I’m fit for socialising in that way, I’m purposely isolating myself in that regard.
Oh and for added flavour, I don’t want to be around watching society collapse as the world continues to burn not can I distract myself (or be ignorant enough) to not pay attention to it.
To be honest, right now my mind is telling just to wait for my mother to pass away then withdraw all my money, disappeare abroad, burn through it in pure hedonism then off myself once the cash has run out. At least this way I can enjoy a shorter life rather than suffer a longer one.
- Comment on anons brother has some strong opinions 3 weeks ago:
OP should send his brother to Stevenage with a hammer, he’d have the place leveled to the ground before the town council could say thank you.
- Comment on Anon thinks there is a bicurious double standard 4 weeks ago:
Bread makes you fat?!
- Comment on Getting a little nature 5 weeks ago:
Yeah people forget that nature isn’t all smol fluffy and cute.
- Comment on Anon crunches some numbers 1 month ago:
Anon forgets that progression isn’t linear.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
Oh ffs, I thought that rule only applied to posts and comments going “as a man…”. God damn it, I was just trying to make sure my perspective isn’t echo-chambered and my one or two comments there were appropriate and being supportive to the women who participate there.
Mia culpa I guess, mods of that sub feel free to go and delete my comments in that sub if they violated the rule because I’ll leave it up to your judgement to decide.
- Comment on Dirty slut for water 1 month ago:
Yeah it’s called being parched and the water in that moment will taste like nectar from the gods.
- Comment on Who's got the morbs? 1 month ago:
Chronic Morbs for me.
- Comment on Can you guys do better? 1 month ago:
I’m feeling like an Alright Crested Greb.
- Comment on The good old days 2 months ago:
Oi! I’m 29 and definitely don’t have a mortgage.
- Comment on Two men behind ‘senseless’ felling of Sycamore Gap tree jailed for more than four years 2 months ago:
Cool, now do the same for Water Company executives that shit all over our nature as well.
- Comment on My mouth suffers for the noms 2 months ago:
Then what kink would Prawn Cocktail flavour be?
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
I’m just going to disregard the whole “is it weird” because other commenters have already answered that and say this:
Thank you for being supportive of your son like that, not making them feel ashamed or uncomfortable for asking, and actually showing them since you know how to do it.
My dad wouldn’t even show me how to properly shave my face even when I asked, gave me a one sentence explanation, and just went back to whatever he was doing. I had to learn from YouTube and trial+error.
- Comment on Sincerely, your literally poorest europoor. 2 months ago:
IP over Carrier Pigeon.
- Comment on MrBeast scraps AI YouTube thumbnail generator days after announcing it: 'If creators don't want the tools, no worries' 2 months ago:
May I present, The Smiler Image
- Comment on Shut up Jimmy 2 months ago:
Or philosophers and philosophy.
Damn philosophers, they ruined philosophy!
- Comment on Hertz, showing the difference between science and engineering 2 months ago:
“Hello, is that DarkHorse comics?
Boy, do I have an epic 5-phase graphic novel for you!”
- Comment on Hertz, showing the difference between science and engineering 2 months ago:
Then ascended to become pure EM spectrum as his final Gigahertz form.
- Comment on Caption this. 3 months ago:
Title of the paper:
Proposal for B-rated Motion Picture to Stimulate Growth in Cinema Ticket Sales by Utilising Highly Contagious Memetics in the Screenplay Writing Process
Caption: Fig 1. The Plot MacGuffin of Smart Cocaine Megladon 2
- Comment on Downing Street ‘exploring plan for digital ID cards’ 3 months ago:
Which will be met with the response “but I’m not an ‘immigrant’ why should I have to carry this ID card?!”
‘I’m not an immigrant’ is their code for “I’m white”.
As much as xenophobic cunts fantasise the idea of stricter border controls and US-ICE style raids, they’re also the same cunts that complain about long queues at airport security and HATE it when an authority figure questions them or forces them to do something.
- Comment on Downing Street ‘exploring plan for digital ID cards’ 3 months ago:
They keep trying this every few years.
This ain’t going to work unless it’s sold to the public like Estonia’s X-Road:
Complete digitisation of government, using the NHS, passport application, driving, taxes, etc. to reduce cost overheads and speed up government services. It needs to be a properly implemented super app with best industry security practices. I’d even go so far as to make it open source and have UK developers who log contributions to the project get a tax rebate according to hours/lines contributed as a sort of payment.
Plus it would help sell UK digital services abroad by developing and advertising a local talent pool.
Getting the UK public to be on board with just a digital ID isn’t going to fly. Why when your driving licence/learners license or passport is already being used as an ID that people carry around, and then you have your NHS number, your national insurance number, and even a gov.uk account.
What the point of adding another one?!
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
“I ain’t no bitch” that’s some strong whining that makes you look like a bitch.
Where’s your stoic attitude of “suck it up and deal with it” Mr Manly Man?
Christ, I’ve eaten peaches that didn’t bruise as easily as his ego.
- Comment on Don't Look Up 3 months ago:
Well she is from Doncaster so that explains a lot of her delusional thinking.
- Comment on Never Forget. Please dear god don't forget 3 months ago:
We all are Ralph, we all are… (Slaps knees) Aaanyway, just got to get on with life (stands up and walks off stage left)
- Comment on 100% people who drink water die 3 months ago:
- Comment on skynet would be better than these clowns 4 months ago:
Literally the plot of every sci-fi show with an “overseer”.
- Comment on The mods are asleep, post wide office chairs! 4 months ago:
I think Edward the 7th had one of these when the Throne started splintering under his enormous reign.
