shawn1122
@shawn1122@sh.itjust.works
- Comment on International travel 1 day ago:
Sounds like an expectation of special treatment that many Americans don’t even afford people from other countries lol.
- Comment on How did easy access to Porn while growing up impacted Gen-Z ? 2 days ago:
We really need to distinguish between porn that displays harmful attitudes towards women and everything else. There are libraries of porn available on nline that display harmful attitudes towards women either through coercive acts or people in positions of power taking advantage of others. Not ALL porn is like that but the question is what are adolescents watching and how would we expect that to impact their perception of a healthy sexual relationship?
- Comment on Oh Jesus he is cooked 3 days ago:
Most Christians believe they live under the New Covenant and not Old Testament law.
You are right that it is widelt accepted as the word of God though.
- Comment on Oh Jesus he is cooked 3 days ago:
If only. In the year 2025, it apparently captures hearts and minds. I know because Boomers send this heavily edited shit constantly.
- Comment on Anon asks out a friend 6 days ago:
I agree they both seem like very superficial people, especially with his body count comment. Its unfortunately common when we’re young, hopefully they can learn to see deeper as they get wiser with time.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
≥ Sounds like you believe you can take whatever you want based on your race
This was a widely held view through most of American history see: Manifest Destiny.
- Comment on Anon asks out a friend 1 week ago:
Can’t say that sex and love ie romantic love must go together but I’m a dude and I personally don’t enjoy the idea of commodified, quantity over quality sex that’s often peddled by American/Western culture.
To me (and to each their own) sex is pointless without a deeper connection.
Many women go from unable to climax during sex to easily doing so when a deeper connection and understanding is sought by their partner.
That isn’t to say that “meaningless” sex is bad. If both parties are down for it by all means have fun.
But I feel that sex is meant to be a spiritual experience. If I desire someone and they also yearn to share a deeper physical connection with me, they should feel my desire within their very essence of self, through my words and my eyes, before we even touch. Even when we do touch, intercourse would have to wait patiently in favor of foreplay so that my desire, my meaning, could first be communicated with my mind, body and everything else.
I was raised in a Western Christian nation where I felt two dichotomous attitudes towards sex. One was religious shame and guilt towards any type of sexual pleasure. The other was sexual liberation, which was an improvement, but it commodifies sex and treats it as if its purpose can only be seen through a lens of hedonism.
Ultimately it took reading on Indigineous thought on spirituality and intimacy, writings by Sufi poet Rumi on love and ancient Dharmic (South Asian) thoughts on physical intimacy (which centers heterosexual sex on women’s pleasure, autonomy, and rights in sexual relationships) for me to understand what sex was for me.
- Comment on Anon asks out a friend 1 week ago:
He brings up number of sexual partners but I’m not sure that’s the real issue here.
The bigger issue is that he’s made to feel like the last or backup choice.
She should have realized how that would come across and its completely reasonable for him to say no based on vibes here.
We are only getting one side of the story though.
- Comment on Posting for the "Now guys he was MURDERED! Don't celebrate!" Crowd 1 week ago:
I beleive all life is sacred and there is always opportunity for reform.
But at the end of the day we are all just meatbags with ideas and actions that back them.
If our ideas and actions undermine the greater good then its hard to argue that much is lost when the person that brings their ideology to life is themselves lost.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
Yeah wtf don’t send us this guy.
- Comment on Anon is a fact checker 3 weeks ago:
Sure but I’d argue if both parties are going in openly with that intention that is a type of connection on its own.
- Comment on Anon is a fact checker 3 weeks ago:
Strongly disagree. I’ve met far too many young men that see sex as a means to an often self serving end. Sex is a means of expressing love towards another person, it’s not meant for self gratification. Seeing it that way is a recipe to have a lot of meaningless sex only to be left wondering why you feel so empty.
Theres a reason women generally don’t climax from being jackhammered or even from clitoral stimualtion if they’re in any way uncomfortable. They’re coded for that emotional connection as a prerequisite for good sex. We are coded that way too but modern culture has painted that type of vulnerability as “unmanly”.
In my view, a good emotional connection creates the necessary conditions for good sex. But you don’t need good sex to have a strong emotional connection.
- Comment on Anon is a fact checker 3 weeks ago:
With modern contraceptive technology we can have sex thats completely meaningless, where both parties are trying to achieve a deeper connection (to something, not even necessarily to each other) and misguidedly hope it can be achieved through a simple release.
- Comment on Anon is a fact checker 3 weeks ago:
Exactly what I interpreted from this too. Posting a bunch of stats on sex and marriage as if they’re a remedy for loneliness ignores the fact that people absolutely can feel lonely while having both.
Men do absolutely need to be better with each other but women do perpetuate this also.
The modern concept of masculinity is completely broken. Long ago it used to be about being a protector, now it’s about anger, dominance, power, emotional dysregulation, resource hoarding (most of which provide little benefit to society at large).
- Comment on They'd just appear out of nowhere 4 weeks ago:
There are no bacteria in your eye. These perceptual disturbances are retinal in origin.
- Comment on [deleted] 5 weeks ago:
She means died for this country in the Nazi imperialist Christian way, not as a * filthy colored victims in one of those shithole countries.
- Comment on "ok, imagine a gun." 1 month ago:
Sure but in this case there are numerous gun related phrases that have persisted in American culture because of this particular affinity.
- Comment on "ok, imagine a gun." 1 month ago:
Yes, thats part of the why but it’s still odd culturally from the perspective of the rest of the world especially since what you’re describing occurred 100+ years ago and the terminology has likely only persusted because of the US’ gun obsession.
- Comment on Anon saves up 1 month ago:
'Murica
- Comment on Stanford Professor: The idea that Stanford University owes its graduate students a "living wage" is preposterous 1 month ago:
So a fascist. Not suprising.
- Comment on My condolences. 1 month ago:
Its a good yoke but coming at a South Asian person for the anglicized spelling of a South Asian word is the sugar syrup on the Gulab Jamun.
- Comment on How come nobody does anything about North Korea? 2 months ago:
So… Nukes.
- Comment on Anon describes apple's practices 2 months ago:
You can’t even whisper criticism of capitalism / the free market or you will be labeled a filthy commie.
Try saying that the Western world has set humanity on a path towards extinction by industrializing without a meaningful thought towards sustainability and youll b) get a response of BUT CHINA CHINA CHINA CHINA (maybe a little India) BUT CHINA by people who are considered well educated and well regarded there. Its the NYT, Washington Post aka American mainstream media brainrot, it’s quite rampant.