Ifera
@Ifera@lemmy.world
- Comment on so many guys, so many options😳 6 days ago:
Way to bark at the wrong tree, I’m gay, I don’t look for women but sure, go off and claim I’m a conservative, lol. It is perfectly normal, natural and healthy to have, expect and respect boundaries, and there are also non negotiables.
So, if you feel asking men to disregard their non negotiables is perfectly valid, Would you ask the same from women? And if so, that’s just fucked up and unhealthy, I recommend you read and meditate on that.
If my non negotiables include not dating people with kids, you don’t know my reasons. Blindly asking me to disregard them and get to know them first, it is setting me up for failure. I will not expand on my reasons for children being a non-starter, because it is traumatic and I don’t owe you an explanation.
- Comment on so many guys, so many options😳 6 days ago:
Because not wanting to be a parent automatically makes one a conservative, got it.
You do know that some people just don’t want kids at all, Right? And then there is the added danger, in case of a separation, even without marrying the woman, that the guy who according to the courts, acted as a father figure, gets hit with child support, and even alimony?
Lots of people act like it is conservative or incel behavior to try to protect oneself from systems designed to exploit and harm us.
- Comment on so many guys, so many options😳 6 days ago:
Honestly, I respect you and your approach. Speed dating is an option, it is somewhat organic, or at least it mimics the thing, but as a word of advice, avoid the free ones. There are events on my city that charge around $20, with $10 out of the fee being consumable at the cafe where they host them, and the difference in quality of people is massive. And worst case scenario, at least I can count it as an afternoon out, with a good piece of pie.
I feel for you dude, and sadly, I have seen your fear materialize. Made a comment a few min ago on this thread, I’m gay, and even I got posted on one of those internet forums, to the point someone took and posted pictures of me at work, without my permission or awareness. Sometimes, some people are so toxic that they will lash out, to no fault of your own and attempt to hurt you.
Keep your standards high, build a circle of friends, and honestly man, my heart hurts for you, straight people dating is beyond fucked now, and has been for a while.
- Comment on so many guys, so many options😳 6 days ago:
Honestly, that can happen to anybody. I am not even interested in women and I don’t date at work. Still got posted on AWDTS, with pictures of me taken without my knowledge, at work, and posted as “An aloof asshole, who I was told in confidence has a small, ugly dick anyway”.
Im gay and was happily married to a guy at the time, of course I can look aloof, I’m both gay and autistic, and that did a number on my self confidence, along with the replies that message got. My best friend’s sister found the post, found it funny and shared captures with me, without knowing how much that was going to fuck with my head.
- Comment on definitely not recording! 3 weeks ago:
Thank you for actually getting the point. It is just like that transphobic panic about bathrooms, people pretend to come from a place of love and care, a “Won’t someone think about the children” kind of stance, to justify battery, assault and harassment of anyone they suspect to be the target.
Honestly, mobs are beyond stupid and fail to even comprehend the fact that they can be wrong, but in their own echo chambers, where their own voices and support for their points gets amplified a lot, which leads to even further extremist thinking.
- Comment on definitely not recording! 3 weeks ago:
Yeah, people here are unhinged when it comes to Linux, AI, renting and a few other topics, and lose all reading comprehension.
And the dogpiling is extreme. Lots of people here gladly get baited by bad faith posts seeking engagement, which is extra pointless here, where Karma isn’t even a thing. But ultimately, not as shit as Reddit, so that’s at least something.
- Comment on definitely not recording! 3 weeks ago:
Personally, I don’t see any valid point being made by the other person, other than agreeing with me about trans people needing protection and conversion therapy being fucked up.
Someone who’s opening statement is promoting violence and acting like assaulting people on the street is an appropriate response to those glasses doesn’t get the benefit of the doubt from me, so I just bait them a bit to kill some time.
I don’t mind the down votes, anyone rational enough would see how escalating to assault is straight up insane. I already knew I wasn’t going to convince the other person, so might as well have some fun, No?
Also, whatch this comment get down voted by the herd mentality and the people angry enough to keep coming back to continue down voting me, as well as going into my history just to downvote random older comments.
- Comment on definitely not recording! 3 weeks ago:
Sure, Why do you believe so, why should I care, and what is the goal of your comment? Are you also pro assaulting people or something?
- Comment on definitely not recording! 3 weeks ago:
Darling, you are responding to a mob, those things don’t think and have the reading comprehension of a starfish. And as usual, they don’t make a single, logical point, only stupid comments trying to chase for upvotes, without thinking of the valid uses that a device like yours can have.
Don’t let the stupid wave wash you away.
- Comment on definitely not recording! 3 weeks ago:
Wow, with that level of reading comprehension, you’re gonna get far in life, kid. Have I defended the glasses at any point? Hell no.
But as I said before, go touch grass, clean the foam out of your mouth and perhaps, get your blood pressure taken.
All I have been saying is that committing straight up assault on people for wearing those abomination glasses is stupid. But if you stan for violence so much, it won’t be a surprise when you stop posting because you landed your ass in jail.
Rage forever, sweet cheeks.
- Comment on definitely not recording! 3 weeks ago:
So funny, rage more. Now go have a meltdown or block me or something.
- Comment on definitely not recording! 3 weeks ago:
The genie is out of the bottle, and there is no way to put it back in. Instead of useless violence, things should be legislated and regulated.
Do I think those glasses are stupid, infringe the right to privacy of anyone around them and are being used for nefarious purposes? 100%.
Do I believe that committing indiscriminate violence on people one believes to be wearing meta glasses will make them disappear? Absolutely not.
But there is no way to have a logical conversation with someone who is foaming at the mouth. Especially when it involves topics such as AI and surveillance, that are so massively polarizing.
- Comment on definitely not recording! 3 weeks ago:
How great. It is the “You can always tell” bias all over again. With the variety of VR glasses that are out there, good luck memorizing all of them, and feeling like you’re playing Pokémon.
Just like with AI and trans people, a loud minority of irrational people turn to violence, instead of asking for proper legislation. (For the record, I think the legislation on Trans people should be to protect them, making gender affirming care become law, and ban things like hate speech and conversion therapy).
- Comment on 1 month ago:
Because it is the same as renting or using AI. They are the triggers of
RedditLemmy dogpiling. - Comment on 1 month ago:
All that text and not an ounce of empathy, this place really is turning into Reddit 2.0. But no true Scotsman, Right?
“Look at any city that currently exists that has at least half decent public transit, or town where its reasonably safe to walk to common places you’d need to go.”. I live in one of those, and it is still prohibitive as fuck, so you will probably just say something like “Well, not there, I meant somewhere like Japan”, and buddy, been there too.
You’re like the people who sees someone with depression and just tells them “Just go to therapy, they’ll fix you”.
- Comment on Alpha AF 1 month ago:
Honestly, that is just overcomplicating something very basic for the sake of polarization, views and manufactured rage. People want esthetically pleasing things, and that doesn’t need to mean sexy.
Do I find some male videogame characters sexy? Yes, very. But most importantly, we just want our ape brains to go “Engagement and dopamine, yay”.
Do men need to devote days to unlock mirror mode in the latest Mario Kart? Nope, but in a world this depressive and bleak it is an achievement, and sexy doesn’t even factor there.
- Comment on spagett 5 months ago:
That’s horrifying, I love it
- Comment on Cant Decide 🤖 6 months ago:
Just like a lot of animal rescue videos. Horrible, heartbreaking animal abuse, staged to look like an act of heroism.
I used to watch those videos on YT a lot, until I suddenly pieced it together, that two cats had the very same markings, and figured out what their scam was, I felt so disgusted I ended up making a massive rant and telling every person I knew for months.
- Comment on Happy DB Cooper Day to those who celebrate! 8 months ago:
Would you kindly read the article you linked? It literally says the entry is for COJONES, not CAJONES.
- Comment on Happy DB Cooper Day to those who celebrate! 8 months ago:
I always had issues with that phrase. The first thing I would do is go to the hospital, since that is a sign of a massive hernia. Also, cajones means drawers or boxers, the word you’re looking for is drawers.
When using aphorisms, please try and Google them.
A pet peeve of mine is gratuitous and incorrect use of my native languages.
- Comment on Sounded really nice UNTIL you get the FULL story 8 months ago:
Damn, that is both unhelpful and pedantic as fuck. Still got no clue of what that makes a reference to. Congrats?
- Comment on grindr dump (in post body) 8 months ago:
Super easy to assume when you’re no actually betting. Or finding a 5,000 page dissertation. But of course, moving the goalposts, claiming it was a hyperbole, grandstanding and virtue signaling without actually checking yourself for biases is all what most people do, on any end of the sociopolitical spectrum.
And tagging anything you disagree with as neckbeard, incel and other derrogative, thought ending cliches, while defending blanket statements about entire groups of people, hard to believe the cognitive dissonance doesn’t make more people uncomfortable.
- Comment on grindr dump (in post body) 8 months ago:
And you sound like someone who polices choices, swallow the onion whole, feeds the trolls AND takes ragebait at face value.
I truly hope you get to see the world and yourself with kinder, more reality based eyes one day.
- Comment on grindr dump (in post body) 8 months ago:
I point out shitty behavior, no matter the source. Hence why I am pointing out your very shitty behavior, that you’re too biased to even comprehend.
- Comment on grindr dump (in post body) 8 months ago:
Open garbage can > Look in > Mostly garbage.
How very insightful of you, mate.
- Comment on grindr dump (in post body) 8 months ago:
Ugh, casual sexism. Look at the bottom of the barrel, and judge an entire gender by the way those behave.
A lot of guys, gay or otherwise, don’t think or behave like that. And by your own definition, you’re also the worst. Sucks to have that terrible self esteem, but don’t lump me up with your self-hating ass
- Comment on card game shop 8 months ago:
Thank you for being the voice of reason and your patience with some people. A lot of people succumb to The Toupee Fallacy (A form of selection bias in which a thing whose quality is measured in terms of being difficult to detect is wrongly judged to be of poor quality in general, caused by the fact that most people only notice poor quality instances of it.).
I stopped showering every day for medical reasons and under medical supervision when I was young, and that really helped with my smell(Turns out I had both a fungal infection, and a hormonal disorder), and the habit stayed. My hair and my skin do a lot better, and due to the nature of my job, I would certainly know if I smelled, since I am often meeting clients and other team leads.
Having a bidet, applying deodorant daily and changing my clothes daily as well, added to working in climate controlled spaces, away from the sun, crowds and smelly habits like smoking are all factors that some people seem incapable of even considering.
But of course, this is Lemmy, where nuance often just fucking dies.
- Comment on School pickup lines are wild 8 months ago:
Because Lemmy is a most of the time a kind, left leaning socialist utopia, unless it is about cars, and men. And if it is about both, boy oh boy. And if you added AI, you’d get a trifecta of negativity.
It is gross to me, seeing so many up voted comments body shaming, some stranger for the car they drive, but the in-group bias is massive.
I wonder if they would be this gross if it was a woman driving the car.
- Comment on What goes here? 10 months ago:
Armadillo!
- Comment on Use this science wisely. 10 months ago:
Info guide on how to lick a clit. Top is the clitoral hood, bottom is the clit itself
