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- Comment on Save me from going down a dark path 4 days ago:
Yeah, we have to draw from presuppositions somewhere no matter what. I presuppose that you are a separate agent from me, aware of your own existence and all that, but I can’t definitively prove it. Can you describe what the distinction is for you that makes us “more” than “just” animals?
- Comment on Save me from going down a dark path 4 days ago:
I mean. Again. We’re pattern seeking creatures that like having answers. We developed a method that updates based on new information, replication and peer review. I provided one hypothesis that I’m not even wedded to. I just think its an interesting idea. If you have alternative explanations or ideas I’m open to them, whether they can be tested or not. It’s just my preferred method since it’s more likely to provide meaningful results in my day to day life.
- Comment on Save me from going down a dark path 4 days ago:
Again though, science is a tool. I’m not sure where you’re getting this idea that “science would say [spirituality is] useless.”
Also yes, there are studies showing some respond positively. Not everyone. I turned to atheism after decades of screaming to a god that I’ve determined doesn’t exist to help me — so yeah, it’s useless and was even negative in effect for me. But there are hypotheses that holding affirmative beliefs on it has been an evolutionary trait passed down to help the species survive, because we like having answers and what happens after death can’t be answered. Which goes to your point about how we can’t necessarily find evidence for everything we might have questions on. If we can’t find answers we may make things up to quell the discomfort the lack of one can bring to maintain reason to keep living.
- Comment on Save me from going down a dark path 5 days ago:
Yoo I’ve been all up in this thread recommending them. Last I checked they use REBT, which is a kind of precursor to CBT. I didn’t find it the most effective, but I joined a DBT skills group and am making my way through a year long program for that and have found it very helpful. I’m trying to address a lot more than substance abuse, though. Its considered more gold standard treatment for chronic suicidality or people struggling with borderline personality.
- Comment on Save me from going down a dark path 5 days ago:
I’ve already mentioned this in another comment, but SMART Recovery is a secular alternative that does host virtual sessions if anyone’s looking and can’t find something local. They’re pretty well established in multiple countries now. They’ve also got the website and mobile app with evidence based skills. DBT also has skills targeting addiction. The main reason I think AA can be effective (though its less than a coin flip chance iirc) is due to the community aspect.
- Comment on Save me from going down a dark path 5 days ago:
I’m confused what you’re saying science would say is useless. Having meaning? Cuz that’s well supported in psychology. There are many ways to develop meaning in our lives. Science is just a method that helps us figure out what is effective. Spirituality can be effective in helping to form meaning, sure, but people need alternatives if or when it fails.
- Comment on Save me from going down a dark path 5 days ago:
I just did a short intensive outpatient trauma program where one woman just kept bringing up her faith in a way like “I listen to the top 40 christian hymns to regulate, you should too!” and I was losing my fucking mind. I don’t mind hearing about other people’s faith, but I do when its pushed on me as if I didn’t spend 25+ years screaming at their god begging for help with no answers. I am working toward the mindset you’ve described here, though. I’m saving your comment and pinning it in my journal — thank you
- Comment on Breaking: BAD 4 weeks ago:
Iiiit can be risky following those impulses, like retraumatizing rather than healing. So… kinda? I say while currently binging true crime lol
- Comment on Breaking: BAD 4 weeks ago:
Thats part of what made me keep watching. It’s almost masochistic. Walts character going further into the narcissistic abuse with each season is horrifying to me, but it’s also so well written through that psychological lens that it fascinates me.
The difference between that and BCS for me was mostly that there was a ton more back story to see how Jimmy’s psychology developed. I had a lot more sympathy for him.
Both are interesting to me in the sense of how TV shows were starting to pivot away from these more traditional perfect protagonists into complex mixtures of horrible people that I still wanted to root for. But again, masochistic for me, cuz I want to see the good in everyone — and that has come at the cost of understanding when I need to set boundaries and walk away irl. I like to tell myself its like exposure therapy when in reality I need professional therapy 💀
- Comment on Discord will restrict your account next month unless you scan ID or face 1 month ago:
Keep in mind the Charlottesville protest was organized in part on discord. Not saying that’s a good reason to give up privacy, but its not just good faith actors using it. Also telling parents to do better doesn’t exactly stop grooming and abuse of minors overnight.
- Comment on Are Street Racers "bad people"? 5 months ago:
Riding without gear is pretty reckless tbf
- Comment on Friday is a great F word 6 months ago:
Dooown here in the deep blue seaaa
- Comment on Age check 6 months ago:
She could not give full consent given the power imbalance. She does regret her role. Please consider looking into how she has reframed her experience since the #metoo movement.
- Comment on Age check 6 months ago:
A quick Google search is telling me she now considers it a gross abuse of power. The #metoo movement helped her reframe her understanding of consent.
- Comment on Metal genres 7 months ago:
I can’t do the pig squeal sounding screams, but a good heavy vocalist can add so much to the range of emotion. It was an acquired taste for me, though. I had friends trying to show me BTBAM thinking I’d appreciate the complexity, but it took ages for me to really hear everything through the wall of sound. Looking up lyrics helped massively, along with finding bands that blend the heavy and clean vocals so there were spots I could sing along with. I’d love to learn to scream properly so I could belt out some gutturals
- Comment on Evolution: 🖕 7 months ago:
My dreams of kick boxing like a kangaroo may finally come truee
- Comment on Happens EVERY time 7 months ago:
The safety precautions I’ve put in place to save my hair ties are what I’d expect if I had a toddler
- Comment on Guys on dating sites be like: 8 months ago:
I’M WORKING WITH SOME VERY UNSTABLE HERRRRBSSS
- Comment on :-) 9 months ago:
Oxytocin is a big one, but I’m struggling to remember the others. I remember that one cuz of a psych class where the professor brought it up as an event that mothers would associate as having some of the highest levels of it. Its considered the bonding hormone, so makes sense we’d bond with our babies so drastically to keep us motivated to care for them after they ripped our lower body apart lol
- Comment on Best selling toy 9 months ago:
Perhaps a duck wearing cat ears
- Comment on Make it stop 9 months ago:
I think thats somewhat demonstrated, but its possible the power corrupts and brings those traits out, too
- Comment on And sir cumference, the sphere 10 months ago:
Carrying a coconut?
- Comment on This is unfair! 11 months ago:
This. Is. Democracy. Manifest!
- Comment on nets 1 year ago:
I worked at a public disposal area for a little while and can attest that at least my flyover state/zipcode does separate and sanitize plastic. Cardboard was the only thing that couldn’t have touched oil (including pizza). We only accepted plastics #1 and #2, though, and part of my job included climbing into the dumpster and sorting through. I’d miss it if workers rights weren’t simultaneously such shot here
- Comment on The IT Crowd: Jen has been transported 1 year ago:
Theoretically, one could be speaking in Italy, but that’s only if Italy exists
… I’ll see myself out
- Comment on US Department of Labor to cease and desist all investigative and enforcement activity under rescinded Executive Order 11246 1 year ago:
I’m ok with discriminating against billionaires to the extent that they shouldn’t exist. I don’t believe there should be such disproportionate power. There is a general trend of white men having the most, but it’s not exclusive. I don’t therefore believe white men all disproportionately have more power and discriminate against them. Does that make sense?
If not, please do explain how anything I’ve said is racist. I’m hoping this was just a misunderstanding and you’re not implying that calling out systemic racism is racist in itself. That would put us in quite the pickle lol
- Comment on Are dating apps a fraud since the beginning? 1 year ago:
I met my last long term partner on a dating app, but these days it’s not a route I’d want to take. I met someone on discord more recently in a really wonderful community that allowed me to get to know him and make other friends with none of the same pressure
- Comment on US Department of Labor to cease and desist all investigative and enforcement activity under rescinded Executive Order 11246 1 year ago:
Not all people have the same opportunity. To say all people are the same is to deny systemic reality. Lemme know when everyone has similar wealth or power to Trump, Musk, Zuckerberg, etc.
- Comment on US Department of Labor to cease and desist all investigative and enforcement activity under rescinded Executive Order 11246 1 year ago:
The Nazi movement would not be competent at all without enough cogs in the machine
- Comment on Why do so many UK electrical sockets have an on/off switch next to them? 1 year ago:
Have you tried using your toes?