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- Comment on Git good, son 1 week ago:
If the follow up to you saying you’re done is them demanding to keep going, that is coercive and fucked up. I wouldn’t suggest lying in response unless you never plan to see them again, though, or if you feel safe and plan to address it later. It’s just as fucked up to keep up with the lie afterwards as it is to be coercive, imo. Both play coercive, indirect ways of refusing respect, and the tit-for-tat dynamic risks setting up a breeding grounds of resentment for at least the person maintaining a lie. It also denies the coercive person the opportunity for growth.
- Comment on Drink it, I dare ya 4 weeks ago:
The carton stuff literally tasted like sweat the one time I tried
- Comment on No excuse 4 weeks ago:
Lmfao I had to start using the covers for litter boxes since one of mine does this. I feel bad, like I know it’s not great for them to feel confined but…I am not letting that continue
- Comment on Magic Mineral 5 weeks ago:
Such as increased rates of infertility iirc
- Comment on Why did Joker 2 lose so much money? And how on earth did it cost so much in the first place? 5 weeks ago:
I thought that was just me being ADHD lol. I watched from home and paused a few times to do other stuff. I didn’t think it was great, but not the worst. I also went in looking forward to the musical numbers that somehow people didn’t know about. Overall maybe 6.5/10? (This is probably the first time I’ve graded a film tbh)
- Comment on Clipped it blud 1 month ago:
More like asking “you think I’m charismatic?”
- Comment on Y tho 1 month ago:
Well now I want to know why though
- Comment on Lingering damage 1 month ago:
Ah, maybe try searching household hazardous waste recycling specifically. It’s possible the auto stores might accept all used oil products too, though. At least when I worked in the hazardous waste field for my county program, I mixed all the oil products, and they used it to heat the shops over the winter. We had a separate company that picked up stuff we couldn’t process, and my job was mostly sorting and combining what I could first. Afaik a lot of auto companies are doing the same hazardous waste bulk pick up.
- Comment on Lingering damage 1 month ago:
Rather than throwing it away, you may have free options for recycling nearby, too. My county has a pretty robust program for residents available with regular recycling and hazardous waste like oil or paint in certain locations. There’s sometimes restrictions and sorting required from customers, but it’s usually pretty straight forward if you look it up
- Comment on My Tool phase 1 month ago:
You can understand the reason!
- Comment on My Tool phase 1 month ago:
Or. They. Sound like. Words combined. Sometimes in German. It is awesome and creative. As a new stoner, I was obsessed from the get go. Now look at me walking it back. I ran out of space… Here’s the end
(I worked hard of this dammit, someone better catch it)
- Comment on Aldi announces wage increases up to $23 an hour; hiring thousands of employees 2 months ago:
We have some in the Midwest as well
- Comment on President on President Violence 2 months ago:
you my friend are officially based af, thank you! I’m officially invested and going on a deep dive for this weirdo
- Comment on President on President Violence 2 months ago:
Well thank you:) I’ve been thinking of this video through the exchanges: “if the truth is on your side, why lie?” youtu.be/CRtSZXS6wzQ?feature=shared
- Comment on President on President Violence 2 months ago:
I would appreciate if sources were provided rather than sending me on a wild goose chase or being told essentially “trust me bro”
Do you not also think there’s an issue when we start saying “you can find a couple”? If even one doesn’t have a source but it’s being pushed as fact, I will start thinking the claim maker unreliable.
I really mean no offense, I’ve been trying to search and can’t find anything. I’ve asked chatgpt, Google, YouTube. I am trying to give benefit of the doubt.
- Comment on President on President Violence 2 months ago:
That’s cool. I’ll just assume they’re satirical jabs. I certainly don’t know shit about him lol
- Comment on President on President Violence 2 months ago:
I tried searching for these quotes cuz I’m dumb and was close to sharing them with friends thinking it was real
Unless you have sources, in case anyone else is curious afaik these aren’t real quotes. Bout got me though, I was like holy shit lol
- Comment on PhD Grads 2 months ago:
Hm? I’m sure people are trying, and not to say AI won’t be incredibly useful, too. I just think there’s quite a few avenues to go down with it.
- Comment on PhD Grads 2 months ago:
This is why I’m comfortable looking into soft sciences like social work or mental health. Ain’t gon replace therapists with AI anytime soon.
- Comment on Watching ml and world argue in every thread be like. 2 months ago:
It depends for me. The labels aren’t really useful if I don’t know the person. One kid I interacted with over a few months said enough in line with fascism that I call him that. Someone just telling me they’re communist, anarchist, liberal isn’t enough to really get their actual beliefs, given how much overlap and misuse of the terms there is. I will generally vibe with a more left leaning person, of course, so if any of those labels are used I’m like, cool, we’ll probably have good conversations. Even conservatives I’m opening up to. Republicans? My God. I blame my mental illnesses on that brain rot.
- Comment on Thanks to science, men can now locate the clitoris with micrometer accuracy. 2 months ago:
Speaking as someone who’s Christian fundamentalist parents did not ensure a proper education about this, whose community enforced it, it takes time to figure out, even with the Internet. I was sexually active years before I ever orgasmed, and even after that, the shame for enjoying sex at all was still engrained. I was aware of my anatomy, but with limited, supervised access to the Internet until 18, it set me up to be metaphorically fucked in my ability to communicate about it. But hey, I’m in my 30s and survived.
- Comment on Is this normal for girls or just a extreme edge case? (Serious question) 2 months ago:
Hey, I’m sorry it’s taken me so long to respond but you had nothing to apologize for! I appreciated the conversation and had some confusion, but that’s why I originally commented to get clarification:) I enjoyed the chat, though, and hope you’re doing well!
- Comment on Is this normal for girls or just a extreme edge case? (Serious question) 3 months ago:
This thread has been a gold mine for me OP, thank you 😂❤️
- Comment on Is this normal for girls or just a extreme edge case? (Serious question) 3 months ago:
Oh gotcha, I totally agree it’s not a big part at all! Honestly, I didn’t experience an orgasm until well after I became sexually active, and very rarely with a partner since. It’s extremely important to me as I’m back “on the market” now and have really struggled in past relationships with it. I enjoy the whole aspect to it, exploring whole bodies, but I would very much like to find a relationship where my partner prioritizes helping me climax and has some patience with me on it.
By chance, did you talk with your gyno about vaginismus? Not sure if I’m spelling that right, but I’ve had a few friends mention that it’s painful, one friend saying she couldn’t wear tampons or anything. I could see why orgasming first would help the muscles to relax
- Comment on Is this normal for girls or just a extreme edge case? (Serious question) 3 months ago:
My understanding is 80% of people with a uterus don’t climax from penetration, not that we find it necessarily unenjoyable (which is true for me, too; I do need clitoral stimulation to climax). I’ve taken courses on women’s studies, feminist philosophy, etc. to overcome the problematic religious attitudes my parents had, too - and lots of therapy! I’ll see if my library has that book available, though. I’m always interested in learning more.
I’m really sorry you had that experience growing up, though, that’s awful. As normal as our experiences felt to us having privacy invaded and all the shame, that much shouldn’t be normalized! I’m glad you’ve found what works for you, and I wish you all the most pleasurable experiences around it throughout the rest of your life 💝
- Comment on Is this normal for girls or just a extreme edge case? (Serious question) 3 months ago:
Well, not that I think it has to be your experience by any means, that’s part of the beauty of life - we’re all a bit different and into different things. I do quite enjoy penetration without need for lube (I mean, I do need to have natural lube, obviously). I usually get myself there with just hands and might use a dildo when I’m worked up enough. Vibrators are great, no doubt. I don’t typically use toys, though, honestly. I did more in my teens when I was ignorant to how my body worked lol. Which is why I wrote the OG comment…I didn’t have appropriate toys, and it caused some shame on occasion. I knew it felt good but didn’t feel safe talking to my parents about it.
- Comment on Is this normal for girls or just a extreme edge case? (Serious question) 3 months ago:
Uhh. Hi, woman here…RIP my inbox but I think it’s important parents talk to teenagers of all genders about this and consider having them look for toys they can experiment with if they express interest. Just because we don’t orgasm from penetration doesn’t mean it feels bad lol. Better they have toys available so they’re less likely to use something inappropriate.
- Comment on please be nice to retail workers 3 months ago:
Maybe split up a bit, like a couple months a year over five to ten years
- Comment on meow_irl 3 months ago:
I guess so. Roosters are the ones that crow, but when they’re alone (seeing themselves in the mirror) I suppose they figure they don’t need to signal there’s danger. I’d have to look for the video and paper for more details on whether they tested whether this was true with other roosters or just chickens, but from my memory I think they did both
- Comment on meow_irl 3 months ago:
I heard a pet behaviorist explain the mirror test for roosters/chickens had to be designed with consideration for them being social animals. They found when putting a mirror without other chickens around, the roosters wouldn’t crow when a predator was flying overhead. Yet, with other chickens there, they did
Gotta know how to design the test, essentially