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⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:
You decided I’m mad, not me. You also didn’t answer the question. Obvious rage bait, shouldn’t have fed the troll.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:
Can you elaborate? What is “honest and open” about being rude to someone for no reason?
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:
Nothing irks me more than the “sharing your unasked for opinion at any time is just telling the truth” crowd. Come on. You must know the difference between honesty and integrity for the sake of good communication and being insensitive because it’s “the truth.” You’re not being honest, regardless of the truth of your beliefs, you’re being a dick if you tell someone they’re not attractive without being asked.

If someone asks, “Am I attractive,” not fishing for compliments but asking for an opinion, you wouldn’t be a dick for saying “I wouldn’t describe you as conventionally attractive,” or “you aren’t my type, so not to me.” You would still be a dick for saying either of those things to someone who didn’t ask, or delivering your answer in an inconsiderate manner. Truth doesn’t make your words right. You can be correct and still very wrong.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Rule 34 rule⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:
I would need to see multiple, peer reviewed sources. It’s a very sensitive topic, but regardless, I don’t believe that that material should be floating around. Access it through a psychiatrist, or therapist.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Rule 34 rule⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
It’s the same argument, that the character only looks like a child, but isn’t. I chose a hyperbolic example for emphasis, but it’s the same argument. It looks like a child. That’s the point.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Rule 34 rule⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
I have always felt the “actually she’s 1000 years old and just looks like a child” argument is both ridiculous and disingenuous. They’re interested because she looks like a child, not because of her character supposed age. Again, but rephrased, what’s the difference if someone makes a character that looks like a real child but is fictional and much older in their characterization? At what point is it morally acceptable? Do you need to use an ambiguous art style? Do you need to include inhuman character traits? I simply cannot take the argument seriously, because clearly the character looking like a child is important. What difference does the story you tell yourself about their age make? Why not just pretend real CSAM is just young looking aliens that are a million years old? If it looks like a child, I believe it’s unequivocally immoral, and there is no line you can draw that would convince me that a childlike drawing that falls on the “OK” side of the line isn’t immoral.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Inspired by a friends current vacation⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
But… that’s not what the discussion or post are about lmao
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Rule 34 rule⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
Legality and morality don’t necessarily align. I would find it very immoral, but as far as I know, not illegal, to get off to drawings of children. Additionally, what’s the difference between a photo of a child and a realistic drawing of a “fictional character” that looks like said child? I think getting off to children is wrong, regardless of criminality. If that’s something someone desires, they should seek help, not indulge in fantasy.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Helldivers 2 and Palworld devs wish players understood that 'easy' additions and updates are sometimes really hard: 'That's half a year's work. That takes six months'⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
Ignoring the part about the super credits and fomo stuff, the money confuses me. Is regional pricing so different that you’re paying an additional $10 AUD compared to US and EU pricing? Additionally, $25 AUD as a full day’s income? Even a low hour, part time job earns way more than that. I feel like your situation might not be financially compatible with buying things like that, I’d cheat or pirate if it’s that important to you. $10 USD is not much for DLC, and while I strongly dislike purchasable gameplay mechanics in games, it’s supporting the continued development and it isn’t egregious. $10 is a burger, or a coffee, and I’m saying this as someone well below the poverty line.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Inspired by a friends current vacation⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
Which camper hurt you? You’re through the entire comments with a massive chip on your shoulder lol
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Inspired by a friends current vacation⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
Yeah, but if someone says “I hate sounding, stabbing myself in the balls sucks!” you’d have a pretty good idea that they are doing it wrong. There’s a difference between “I hate activity, it’s not for me” and “I hate activity, I actively participate in it in a way that is easily avoidable and will make me miserable.” It’s just a meme, let people discuss it lmao
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Inspired by a friends current vacation⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
How dare anyone engage in conversation about the topic of the post! I might accidentally SEE an opinion I disagree with!
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:
If you could look at a 6 year old and call them “born bad” for any level of mistake, it would make you an asshole. Why would you treat your child self like that?

No action a 6 year old takes is indicative of anything but their immediate environment. If you did something “terrible” when you were 6, maybe think about what that says about who was raising you, and why you’ve been made to think that it’s “terrible.” You desperately need to work through your childhood trauma with a professional.

Would you treat a random 6 year old how you’re treating yourself? Why or why not?
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨doctors⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:
Excellent question, but I have no idea. She tears the medicine labels off for some reason so I’ll ask her when she gets home and edit with more info. It’s a capsule and a tiny pill, taken morning and night respectively, if that means anything to you.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨doctors⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:
My parents and my fiancee have gotten on an equivalent of Ozempic specifically for weight loss and covered by insurance. It seems to be easier now than it was, because if my fiancee wasn’t covered we absolutely couldn’t afford it.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Catholic dating culture often mistaken for incel-style pessimistic desperation?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:
I wouldn’t say either. Sex is way more intimate than just hugging. I’d say it’s like “making out” but better. It’s lots of fun, and I don’t care about the societal norms restricting it between romantic partners. Pregnancy isn’t a risk for me, and I’m very careful to avoid STDs. I haven’t had sex with someone without a recent STD panel, and I use protection when necessary. My fiancee feels the same way, so I have sex with my friends all the time
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Catholic dating culture often mistaken for incel-style pessimistic desperation?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:
For context I guess, here’s my views on the list you posted, as someone who is very much not religious and dated plenty before finding my fiancee:
- Marriage might be awesome for some, but it’s also not for everyone, and there are far too many bad marriages that could’ve been good casual relationships
- Standards are definitely good to have, but I guarantee mine are very different than the average Catholic
- No shame in being single. Better to be single than in a toxic relationship just for the sake of a relationship.
- I probably couldn’t see myself marrying a religious person, but if their beliefs don’t infringe on other’s rights then I guess they can do them.
- Sex is just sex, cohabitation is convenient, cheaper, and pleasant. I’ve never been married and I’ve lived more of my adult life with a roommate or partner than not. I also don’t believe sex needs to be confined within the boundaries of a relationship either, and I have sex with people that aren’t my fiancee, both with and without her, though that’s definitely uncommon and always done with the full consent of all parties.
- Dating could be for finding a future spouse. It could also just be for fun, or for a casual relationship, or a long term relationship with no intent to marry.
- Relatively wide variety in how long people date before marriage, if ever. I never planned on it for years, but I met my fiancee and changed my mind. We dated for a year before getting engaged.
- Normal to date in highschool.
Obviously this is only my perspective. No judgement, to each their own. Other than the views on polyamory (though more accurately, just sex. Open relationship? I don’t have a label for it), these opinions seem very common among the average dating population. My sample may be skewed since I’m bisexual and over half my relationships have been gay.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon has regrets⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:
The vast majority of people I know in the queer community around me get tested regularly and don’t use condoms, since pregnancy isn’t a risk.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Caption this.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:
Fig 53: Risk of Rain’s “Huntress” has eyes perfectly positioned to gauge the velocity of arrows she fires.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Influencers people are finding their way to the Fediverse⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
This doesn’t pass the smell test, as someone that has followed the Greens for years. If you thought his actions were “tone policing” then I’m immediately questioning your actions, since all I’ve seen is a standup guy and educator. I’m happy to be corrected with a link, but I’m not seeing what you’re talking about.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨are "brush" and "blush" really pronounced differently? i pronounce them the same.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
My tongue is exactly the same with the “D” in “dentist” and “dog.”
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's easier to shoot, a bow or a firearm?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
Low draw means low power and penetration. For speed shooting or distracting/stunning a target, that would be helpful, but you’re not gonna kill someone unless it’s a very lucky shot. There’s a reason war bows were such high draw weight, and it wasn’t for piercing plate. More power means more energy retained over distance and more energy delivered to the target. If you’re needing to speed shoot in close quarters in a self defense scenario, you’re probably better off using the bow as a club or stabbing them with an arrow directly. Archers usually carried other weapons for that reason.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The indian and white uniting as one with a $500 Billion budget⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
That’s what I was referring to from the loss of knowledge due to genocide. Unfortunately, we’ll never know.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The indian and white uniting as one with a $500 Billion budget⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
That may be the case, but they made significant progress on rockets, nuclear, and discoveries in physics. Whether or not they were war effective, the scientific progress was there. Fascism isn’t incompatible with technological progress, but resistance to higher education and anti-science sentiments are. In the long run, the loss of knowledge due to book burning and genocide may have caught up to them, but we thankfully don’t know. The government could have continued to fund and focus on science.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The indian and white uniting as one with a $500 Billion budget⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
I don’t know if I agree with this statement. If one of the main goals of the fascist state is technological superiority, they’ll prioritize it. Nazi Germany was on the cutting edge of science, to the point that the US hired a bunch of their scientists. They made technology a priority at the expense of other sectors. Luckily, being incapable of trade or producing the resources they needed, they didn’t outstrip the rest of the world, but the same likely can’t be said for the US. I think other factors will get in the way of tech research in the US far more than fascism, like moronic trade wars and disincentives for higher education, which while being enacted by fascists, aren’t necessarily fascist tenets, as proven by history.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨This is the life I dream of from my cubicle⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
Oh, true. He also wrote the first known usage of the popular phrase “lick my ass” though. Fun fact.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨When leftists say "landlord are parasites" or similar dislike of landlords, do they also mean the people that own like a couple of houses as an investment, or only the big landlords?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
Whatever man. I tried, but you’re not interested in listening. I commented for your benefit, not mine, and it makes no difference to me.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨When leftists say "landlord are parasites" or similar dislike of landlords, do they also mean the people that own like a couple of houses as an investment, or only the big landlords?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
When they said, “I don’t care about your parents,” it was an expression of apathy, not animosity. It was them telling you that they agree, and that their point is about the greater system, not that guy’s aunt or your parents. You took it personally and got more defensive. Their absolute does hold, because it’s in regard to a system. The point isn’t that your parents are individually bad people, like you seem to think it is, it’s that they’re part of a bad system, and regardless of their individual actions, the system is still bad. Fundamentally, you, the other commenters, and me agree. They aren’t trying to argue that you’re defending landlords in general, the argument is that your defense of your parents excuses them from the system.

A fair and kind cop is still responsible for participating in an evil system, just as your parents are. They may be good people, with good intentions, and treat people well. No one is denying that. It’s just entirely besides the point. They’re still hoarding property that should be possessed by those that live in them, and housing should be cheaper. Without landlords and real estate conglomerates driving prices high, there should be a surplus of housing. Again, your parents might be good people, but they are participating in an immortal system. Even the best landlord is still a landlord, and while they are nowhere near anyone’s first target to fix the system, they’re still participating.

The best cop is still a cop, the best billionaire is still a billionaire, and the best landlord is still a landlord. It’s nothing personal against them specifically.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨When leftists say "landlord are parasites" or similar dislike of landlords, do they also mean the people that own like a couple of houses as an investment, or only the big landlords?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
As a neutral outside reader, this person does not sound like they are hating on your parents specifically, and you come across as extremely defensive (understandably). Their point seems to be that the existence of a good cop doesn’t make the police state tolerable, nor does the existence of a good landlord make the system of people owning other’s homes tolerable.

Regardless of how good any landlord is, it would be better for homes to be affordable and owned by those that live in them. In the current system, some areas are unaffordable without renting, but that doesn’t make the landlords morally good categorically, it means they’re part of the problem that drives prices too high in an area. Owning property to rent artificially drives the price of real estate up. Ideally, renting should be far, far more limited or entirely phased out depending on the specific situation. No one is saying that your parents specifically are evil, but they are part of a larger system that is.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Not everything needs to be Art⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
Yikes. A world without artists would be a dark, dark place. What an incredibly terrible take, unless you’re implying that the only art that counts as labor is when it’s for a corporation, which, even worse take, yikes again.