Comment on Daily Discussion Thread: đđĄđđ¤ November 26, 2024
Duenan@aussie.zone â¨3⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
So I opened up at work to some people how bad things have been with some higher ups, part of my stress is coming from work and how powerless I am to control a situation that was related to yesterday afternoon.
There was agreement in place to mitigate and manage the situation but that didnât work yesterday and I was subjected to a lot of stress even with the aid of someone with me.
I had to make it clear that I need to be supported at work because inevitably the root cause of the problem is coming from work and they need to support me better because itâs coming from work, I donât believe that I should be seeking external help when the problem is actually coming from work.
I really do feel for you. Honestly I have been there. I know this is hard but you have to consider the potential to get another job.
I know change is frightening and painful and you might think trying to make it work where you are is the answer. It most likely isnât unless management have a tangible plan to fix the problem.
I just donât want you to end up in the situation Iâve been in where you end up a target.
Iâm doing everything I can to protect myself legally as I do have concerns for that.
Counting down, 15 more days left and I wonât have to deal with it anymore.
It sucks to hear what youâre going through and itâs good to hear youâre trying to do something about it. I hope things get better, either by resolving things at work or finding somewhere better
Just wanted to chime in and say Iâm proud of your for advocating for yourself. â¨
I was talking about it and then I guess it sort of fell out of my brain and mouth and I starting just saying things and was getting emotional about it all.
I felt strongly that I needed to be looked after better.
It sounds like work is uninterested in being proactive or doing much after youâve told the what you need. Given that itâs just 15 work days til this problem goes away, any chance of a drs cert to cover off at least a few of those days so you can reduce the stress load? I totally understand how draining and stressful it is when you are at the mercy of an unreasonable, nasty person at work. I ultimately ended up leaving and from what I hear that person has simply gotten worse and nastierâŚ
Iâve already burnt and used my allocated days off over the last couple of weeks without having to produce a certificate.
I donât know what I could take off with what reasons. In a lot of ways I feel like Iâm fighting a losing battle but if I go missing as well that would signal that I probably lost it and gave up.
Itâs 3 weeks left then the problem goes away so I probably have to summon the strength to endure it however nasty and unpleasant it may be.
The worst thing it happens in the last 5-10 mins of each day. Itâs not the way I want or like to end the day.
Work is doing what it can but I think at the same time theyâre only half measures. Iâve only just realised today that this person has no concept of ownership over their own actions and responsibilities or accountability. Theyâre perception is so warped that they canât even comprehend that the last month of their behaviour has been bad.
Iâm hoping something happens or changes soon but thatâs like hoping for a miracle.
Gosh this person seriously sounds abusive. Any way you can maybe try and go for a bathroom break or disappear early? Just to limit contact with this person as much as possible. Iâm getting the sense work canât move this person on and theyâre clearly not receptive to change either.
The perception of having lost or given up doesnât matter as much as your ongoing mental health, you need to be able to power through the remainder of the year and be well enough for next year, and if that means getting a Dr to just write up a mental health sickie for 3 days (they never need to put the reason why on the cert) I would personally go for it. Life is too short and precious to be worried about perception IMO when youâre as seriously affected as youâve been describing
Seagoon_@aussie.zone â¨3⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Asking mean people to not be mean
and getting help from within a system that enables mean people
usually does not work.
But asking politely for it to stop and for help is a very important psychological step, this is so you can tell yourself you went through all the right steps, you tried and you are not to blame for the abuse.
Next step is getting outside help and planning to leave, leave to another job in your own time. You donât get a medal for having no income.
Duenan@aussie.zone â¨3⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Iâm counting down the days till I can be free, 15 more work days.
For context Iâm not dealing with an adult.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone â¨3⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
so many hugs
and while a hug might sound a little trite a hug means you have internets people who understand and care and want to ease your stress and situation and this is one the ways we can help đđđ