Comment on Anon tries to understand his coworker
erev@lemmy.world 5 weeks agoI don’t disagree with you that anon should’ve asked more questions, but platonic flirting is kinda wacky without a well established rapport beforehand. Otherwise it’s just flirting, and can be confusing.
JackbyDev@programming.dev 5 weeks ago
It’s also confusing being asked somewhere and never being told it’s being treated as a date.
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
Why not ask? If a guy asks a girl (or vice versa) to go somewhere and it’s not abundantly clear it’s not a date (e.g. you’ve done similar things together before, they’re openly gay, or they explicitly said it’s not a date), then it should be assumed to be a date unless clarified otherwise. So if they don’t specify and you’re unsure, then ask.
That said, her leaving is also odd. A misunderstanding shouldn’t be a big deal. Show up the next day and laugh about it, and you’re golden. I wouldn’t be mad if that happened to me, nor should either anon or the girl. It’s just a misunderstanding, it’s really no big deal.
JackbyDev@programming.dev 5 weeks ago
Why do you see a date as the default for men and women hanging out together?
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
That’s just how social expectations are. I recommend you go ask a handful of single men you know (i.e. coworkers) whether they’d consider a 1:1 outing with a woman to be a “date.” I’m guessing most would say yes.
erev@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
thats valid! both people here were kinda shitty to each other