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sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

That’s just how social expectations are. I recommend you go ask a handful of single men you know (i.e. coworkers) whether they’d consider a 1:1 outing with a woman to be a “date.” I’m guessing most would say yes.

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JackbyDev@programming.dev ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Context matters: they’re coworkers.

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- sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Exactly, they’re coworkers where OP isn’t certain if they were flirting or just being friendly, and other coworkers confirm she’s flirting. To me that means:
  
  they don’t have a good enough relationship to tell the difference, so probably not "friends"
  
  other coworkers don’t seem to experience the same thing
  
  claims to not have other friends (surely she’d mention a BF, no?)
  
  So to me, that sounds very much like she’s flirting, so it’s totally understandable for OP to consider it a date.
  
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  - JackbyDev@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    Facts:
    
    Anon intended for this to be a date.
    
    Anon never said this was a date.
    
    Anon never asked if she was single.
    
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