Comment on Anon tries to understand his coworker

• sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  That’s just how social expectations are. I recommend you go ask a handful of single men you know (i.e. coworkers) whether they’d consider a 1:1 outing with a woman to be a “date.” I’m guessing most would say yes.

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  • JackbyDev@programming.dev ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Context matters: they’re coworkers.

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    • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Exactly, they’re coworkers where OP isn’t certain if they were flirting or just being friendly, and other coworkers confirm she’s flirting. To me that means:

      • they don’t have a good enough relationship to tell the difference, so probably not "friends"
      • other coworkers don’t seem to experience the same thing
      • claims to not have other friends (surely she’d mention a BF, no?)

      So to me, that sounds very much like she’s flirting, so it’s totally understandable for OP to consider it a date.

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      • JackbyDev@programming.dev ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Facts:

        1. Anon intended for this to be a date.
        2. Anon never said this was a date.
        3. Anon never asked if she was single.

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