Marriage isn’t a surprise but the engagement can be.
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PunnyName@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Don’t buy a ring for engagement unless you know for sure that they a) want an engagement ring, and b) are 100% gonna say yes.
Marriage shouldn’t be a surprise.
Maalus@lemmy.world 2 months ago
SARGE@startrek.website 2 months ago
Neither the question nor the answer should ever be a surprise.
The time, and location of proposal are the surprise.
When I asked my now wife, I knew for sure she was going to say yes, and I knew she would want a simple ring with her birth stone instead of a diamond.
She had no idea I was going to ask her in the manner I did while we were out camping. that was the surprise for her. Not the question itself.
Waraugh@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
The engagement can be a surprise didn’t read any differently to me than what you laid out. The only surprise for my wife was that I got her dad’s blessing since that was important to her and when/how I went about it. Was in our home, I’m not someone that feels anyone else needs to be involved. To me our engagement was all a surprise but she had already participated in ring shopping with me and we had obviously discussed thoroughly before hand.
Maggoty@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Nope. If the question was a surprise then your communication skills as a couple aren’t there yet.
NABDad@lemmy.world 2 months ago
The timing can be a surprise, but if you don’t know the answer, don’t ask the question.
PhlubbaDubba@lemm.ee 2 months ago
The moment it becomes official is the surprise, ths actual context of it cannot ever be one.
PunnyName@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Engagement is the initiation of marriage, they are the same. So your sentence doesn’t make sense
FlihpFlorp@lemm.ee 2 months ago
Me and my my girlfriend are of the mind where (once our relationship is that far) there’s gonna be a long talk about marriage, like if we’re ready, what changes are being made once that happens, a lot of discussion. We also agree once that discussion has been settled there can still be the romantic gesture of popping the question
I just never understood how people are able to go
“I’m putting you on the spot would you make a life changing decision that will alter both our lives or will you break my heart, go ahead infront of all these people”