This is an old throwback now: Does anyone remember me complaining about some âMatesâ Who had kids and made some really distasteful âJokesâ back when we were still struggling ourselves? Something about throwing their baby in the bin or something cause he was frustrating them? Well, got a bit of an update on them.
Drama
They are struggling. Hard. Her mental health is in the bin, and he is pushed for time having taken a job that seems him out of the house from 5am till 6 or 7 pm. Add another kid to the mix and its not going well. he made a joke about âNeeding more supportâ. I laughed cause we also donât have family around us. But I think it was kind of a hint and I just⊠fucking no chance. I didnât say anything, but there is NO way weâre stepping into that mess.
Almost everything thatâs going wrong was visible from a mile away before they made the decision. Her mental health is crap cause her family fucking suck, but she does running back to them every time. They threw a dog and another baby on top of the first one who I think has some development issues. The whole thing is a mess and i know it sounds cruel, but thereâs no way to help them without them trying to suck you into the vortex of their drama. Iâve made that mistake 2 or 3 times before, Iâm not making it a 4th time. If you could just drop off a meal or babysit for a bit to help without hearing how horrible everything is and leaving feeling worse for having done a nice thingâŠ
I feel sorry for them, but at what point do you go âYouâve kind of shot yourself in the foot there, can you please not bleed on my kitchen floor?â
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
It starts off a couple of hours of babysitting, ends up the whole day because of unforeseeable circumstances. I know a couple who drop their kid off at the in-laws for 4 hours so they can do the âshoppingâ. Shopping right, yeah sure.
TinyBreak@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
from what I understand getting her out of the house would be an achievement. But man Iâd happily take the kids if it meant they could clean the house or something! Iâm not one for judging, iâve got a toddler I know its hard and our place is frequently a mess too. But theirs looks like the start of a hoarders episode. Trouble is their kid doesnt listen to them, so theres no chance Iâm looking after a kid that cant/wont listen to me.
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Thatâs incredibly sad. I hope she gets the help she needs because thatâs no way to live.
TinyBreak@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
yeah I hope so. But I dont think theres a diplomatic way to say âHey I see you guys are struggling, I think maybe applying X Y and Z might help a bitâ without being sucked in.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
oh god, thatâs because the kid is hearing disrespectful talk and seeing disrespectful behaviour between his parents . đ
TinyBreak@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Possibly, or its part of his development issue. its hard to tell. They keep saying they are seeking help with them, but ever time I ask they seem to be waiting for something.