Comment on Daily discussion thread: 🐑 Monday, June 3, 2024

PeelerSheila@aussie.zone ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

• TinyBreak@aussie.zone ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Good call on not forcing him to go. Just keep working with his mental health team, figuring this stuff out takes time as an adult I imagine its nearly impossible as kid.

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  • PeelerSheila@aussie.zone ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Thanks Tiny.

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• Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  so many hugs

  if possible throw as many household jobs Mr P’s way, even if it’s just organising the kids

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  • PeelerSheila@aussie.zone ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Thanks Seagoon 💜

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• StudChud@aussie.zone ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Mini will be okay, school is school and it isn’t the be all end all for his life. It sucks so bad that you’re holding them all together, and barely have time for yourself. You are amazing, kind, strong, and overall beautiful. You are doing great! You’re being an awesome mum! I’m sorry it’s all crazy at the moment, but your kids love you, and so do we!

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  • mysticgreg@aussie.zone ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Completely agree. You give a shit about your kids and your family, and from your posts here it sounds like you’re doing a bloody amazing job at keeping the show on the road in some trying circumstances.

    I don’t have advice on how to make things better or easier, I’m still working out this parenting gig for myself and my son is only four-and-a-half going-on-thirty, but I know that you’ve got this, you rock.

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    • PeelerSheila@aussie.zone ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Thanks mystic, I really appreciate the kind words. I read everyone’s responses quickly whilst shoveling my lunch down and it made me feel so positive and optimistic. Parenting is so hard, as you know, but when you manage to navigate through some choppy seas you feel like a king!

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  • PeelerSheila@aussie.zone ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Aww thanks Spud! I think the mornings especially get to me sometimes, and feeling overwhelmed turns into feeling flat and defeated 😔 not a great way to bounce into the day!

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• Eagle@aussie.zone ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  It’s so hard when you just want to make it better for your kids and you can’t. It’s hard too when you don’t feel like you have consistent support from the people around you. But you’re more than doing your bit, and someone does have to bring home the bacon and keep a roof over heads but I get it, its the hardest job on earth and I see you.

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  • PeelerSheila@aussie.zone ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Thanks Eagle, it’s nice to feel seen 😌

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• melbaboutown@aussie.zone ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  It sounds like Mr P is volunteering for impromptu homeschooling duties

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  • PeelerSheila@aussie.zone ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    That’s a great idea, thanks Melba. I have seen those NAPLAN books around in the past but haven’t connected their presence to our current situation in a useful way 💡🙆🏼‍♀️

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    • melbaboutown@aussie.zone ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      No worries, I hope it helps him keep his hand in without overwhelming him. They look expensive at Officeworks but a bit cheaper on Thrift Books. Perhaps you can find some old ones on Ebay, or free legal PDFs? Perhaps by getting past papers from tutoring sites or some such. I googled ‘naplan books pdf free legal’ and saw stuff like that but I’m not sure which are legit. There’s also ‘free study material for homeschooling australia’ to try.

      If all else fails there used to be Educational™️ computer games. When I was little they used to be things like Math Blaster or Lost Secret Of The Rainforest but surely there’s something more modern.

      Also seriously work together with the school and see if you can get some leeway on this (if you haven’t already) because unless he’s attending or being homeschooled there could be strife. Even if Mr P is feeling really unwell he could rest on the couch while Eldest works his way through something, and Eldest can get a reward for each completed page. (The reward heavily depends on his age.)

      But even if Mr P can do that much definitely access social workers and/or respite care in any way you can, whether it be through the council, Human Services, or Peter Mac. You’re going through some heavy stuff and nobody is meant to do this much alone.

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      • PeelerSheila@aussie.zone ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Thanks Melba! I love how you do your research on a response. I’m lucky in that the school aren’t concerned about the academic side of things at all. Their focus is just to get him to the school at this stage. The student welfare person and his therapist came up with a plan where he’s just coming to school, having a chat with the wellbeing team member and then going home. They’re aiming for 3 days a week where he does this, at the moment. The goal is to successfully have him do this at least once before the school holidays, so they’re really prepared to take “baby steps” with it.

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