Comment on Why do arranged marriages persist in many cultures?
HeartyBeast@kbin.social 5 months agoIt’s not clear to my why you draw parallels with slavery. Spending a massive sum on the days is not an intrinsic prerequisite for marriage, neither is a dowry.
All marriage is, is a formal public oath between two people to spend the rest of their lives together, to look after each other and to share resources.
As an institution, it has many benefits including to the married people’s health. It also negefurs the state in that the mutual commitment to care it tends to reduce healthcare and social costs. So the state may provide some benefits.
The main disadvantage is that she stacks the dishwasher wrong.
j4k3@lemmy.world 5 months ago
trxxruraxvr@lemmy.world 5 months ago
That is only slavery if the involved parties didn’t willingly commit to it. And it’s not as if divorce is non-existent.
j4k3@lemmy.world 5 months ago
HeartyBeast@kbin.social 5 months ago
How does gay marriage fit into your claims of misogyny? I have at least 3 sets of gay friends who, after decades of waiting were delighted to make formal public promises to each other.
HeartyBeast@kbin.social 5 months ago
Absolutely. And it’s an oath is just a commitment to work at it, and not just throw up hands at the earliest opportunity
It’s not a “a right to another’s life” it’s a commitment to a shared life. And yes, that commitment can not work out, which is why divorce is now thankfully pretty easy.
Not using any common definition of the word, no.
See, divorce - above. Some marriages don’t work out, or are abusive. That doesn’t mean there’s no value in marriage.
HatchetHaro@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 months ago
im lost as to how you consider it slavery when it’s supposed to be a consensual and mutual legal agreement of partnership. keep in mind that in most cases, either party can exit the legal partnership whenever they want through the process of divorce.
if either side does not want the marriage, then sure. but having a dedication to a loved one hardly constitutes “slavery”.
j4k3@lemmy.world 5 months ago
HeartyBeast@kbin.social 5 months ago
So, your actual problem is the legal expense and legal hassles involved in divorce?
Many/most of these are to do with the painful untangling of shared resources and responsibilities that come from sharing a life and resources. Marriage simplifies many things for two people - ‘we own this thing together’ becomes much simpler with marriage. The legal process of negotiating whether 20 or 40 or 50% of the house belongs to partner A is what tends to cause the pain.