Comment on Why do arranged marriages persist in many cultures?

j4k3@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

• HeartyBeast@kbin.social ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  It’s not clear to my why you draw parallels with slavery. Spending a massive sum on the days is not an intrinsic prerequisite for marriage, neither is a dowry.

  All marriage is, is a formal public oath between two people to spend the rest of their lives together, to look after each other and to share resources.

  As an institution, it has many benefits including to the married people’s health. It also negefurs the state in that the mutual commitment to care it tends to reduce healthcare and social costs. So the state may provide some benefits.

  The main disadvantage is that she stacks the dishwasher wrong.

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  • j4k3@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

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    • trxxruraxvr@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      That is only slavery if the involved parties didn’t willingly commit to it. And it’s not as if divorce is non-existent.

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    • HeartyBeast@kbin.social ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      A relationship is work.

      Absolutely. And it’s an oath is just a commitment to work at it, and not just throw up hands at the earliest opportunity

      There is no right to the rest of someone’s life on either side should they change their mind or evolve in different directions;

      It’s not a “a right to another’s life” it’s a commitment to a shared life. And yes, that commitment can not work out, which is why divorce is now thankfully pretty easy.

      that is slavery

      Not using any common definition of the word, no.

      I have no right to stop them. This is true equality and freedom. It is a fundamental human right.

      See, divorce - above. Some marriages don’t work out, or are abusive. That doesn’t mean there’s no value in marriage.

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    • HatchetHaro@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      im lost as to how you consider it slavery when it’s supposed to be a consensual and mutual legal agreement of partnership. keep in mind that in most cases, either party can exit the legal partnership whenever they want through the process of divorce.

      if either side does not want the marriage, then sure. but having a dedication to a loved one hardly constitutes “slavery”.

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• fine_sandy_bottom@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  This is really narrow minded.

  The term “arranged marriage” does not imply that the participants are not willing and eager. It’s not a disney story.

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