HeartyBeast
@HeartyBeast@kbin.social
- Comment on This used book that I bought for 12£ on the internet was apparently previously bought from Oxfam for 1.99£ 9 hours ago:
You should definitely spend time trawling through Oxfam shops for books, if this annoys you.
- Comment on Does a VPN used on a smartphone with Wi-Fi disabled (mobile data only enabled) provide any sort of protection? 1 day ago:
Thanks for the smile this morning 🙂
- Comment on Does a VPN used on a smartphone with Wi-Fi disabled (mobile data only enabled) provide any sort of protection? 1 day ago:
Running your own VPN in that situation is a good use-case agreed - assuming you trust yourself :)
- Comment on Does a VPN used on a smartphone with Wi-Fi disabled (mobile data only enabled) provide any sort of protection? 2 days ago:
You’re hiding your traffic route from your mobile operator and giving it instead to your vpn company who swear they are honest
- Comment on Stellaris gets a DLC about AI that features AI-created voices, director insists it's 'ethical' and 'we're pretty good at exploring dystopian sci-fi and don't want to end up there ourselves' 3 days ago:
The technology is magnifying the flaws in capitalism
- Comment on Someone purchased the old domain of a FOSS app, then it's using it to deceive users to download adware 3 days ago:
That sounds as if the register for .ar should be out of a job
- Comment on Euro bottles are so much better now 6 days ago:
Yes, that is mildly infuriating. Someone deliberately going to additional trouble to increase the a kind of microplastics in the environment and make it harder for the poor folks in the recycling plants.
Get over yourself
- Comment on Why do arranged marriages persist in many cultures? 6 days ago:
The way marriage is set up presently, it is made for the needs of a majority, but there are many outliers.
Firstly, of course many people cohabit very happily for a lifetime, there’s no requirement to get married. They settle their affairs with bespoke agreements property contracts and wills. It works fine for them - it’s just a bit more complex than the standard package that marriage presents , but not a real problem.
Don’t want marriage, but quite fancy the tax benefits? In the UK you can opt for a Civil Partnerships which handles most of the outliers https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Civil_partnership_in_the_United_Kingdom
Bottom line -for people who want to get married, there’s marriage. For people who want to formally merge most of their financial affairs and tax obligations, there is civil partnership, for everyone else, there are bespoke legal and financial arrangements and contracts.
No compulsion, no loss of autonomy (other than mutually agreed) an D.C. certainly no slavery.
Good, eh?
- Comment on Why do arranged marriages persist in many cultures? 1 week ago:
So, your actual problem is the legal expense and legal hassles involved in divorce?
Many/most of these are to do with the painful untangling of shared resources and responsibilities that come from sharing a life and resources. Marriage simplifies many things for two people - ‘we own this thing together’ becomes much simpler with marriage. The legal process of negotiating whether 20 or 40 or 50% of the house belongs to partner A is what tends to cause the pain.
- Comment on Why do arranged marriages persist in many cultures? 1 week ago:
How does gay marriage fit into your claims of misogyny? I have at least 3 sets of gay friends who, after decades of waiting were delighted to make formal public promises to each other.
- Comment on Why do arranged marriages persist in many cultures? 1 week ago:
A relationship is work.
Absolutely. And it’s an oath is just a commitment to work at it, and not just throw up hands at the earliest opportunity
There is no right to the rest of someone’s life on either side should they change their mind or evolve in different directions;
It’s not a “a right to another’s life” it’s a commitment to a shared life. And yes, that commitment can not work out, which is why divorce is now thankfully pretty easy.
that is slavery
Not using any common definition of the word, no.
I have no right to stop them. This is true equality and freedom. It is a fundamental human right.
See, divorce - above. Some marriages don’t work out, or are abusive. That doesn’t mean there’s no value in marriage.
- Comment on Why do arranged marriages persist in many cultures? 1 week ago:
I think you are getting downvoted because you framed it in terms of ‘entitled to get a wife’. It it is usually similarly beneficial/problematic for both partners. I have a work colleague from India who is probably going to have a marriage arranged for him in the next year. It’s not something he particularly wants, but it’s traditional so he’ll probably go through with it. It doesn’t really feel like he is benefitting from the patriarchy 🙂
- Comment on Why do arranged marriages persist in many cultures? 1 week ago:
The first scenario is called ‘forced marriage’ in English law and is illegal. Arranged marriage is consensual
- Comment on Why do arranged marriages persist in many cultures? 1 week ago:
It’s not clear to my why you draw parallels with slavery. Spending a massive sum on the days is not an intrinsic prerequisite for marriage, neither is a dowry.
All marriage is, is a formal public oath between two people to spend the rest of their lives together, to look after each other and to share resources.
As an institution, it has many benefits including to the married people’s health. It also negefurs the state in that the mutual commitment to care it tends to reduce healthcare and social costs. So the state may provide some benefits.
The main disadvantage is that she stacks the dishwasher wrong.
- Comment on Five ways to catapult the UK towards solar energy success - Positive News 1 week ago:
If that includes batteries, I suspect the payback is shorter these days if you are using an agile tariff like Octopus. I made a bit of money this winter forecast-charging batteries when the electricity price was negative and force discharging when the export price was high
- Comment on Five ways to catapult the UK towards solar energy success - Positive News 1 week ago:
Green Energy Together? We used them for our panels. Complete nightmare. But they eventually installed and the system is working well.
- Comment on Marc Conway risked his life to stop the London Bridge terror attack. Why did he fear being sent to prison for it? 1 week ago:
Sounds like he made a reasonable call and the probation officer was suitably supportive. I’m finding it hard to feel outraged about this one.
- Comment on So which is it? 1 week ago:
The casing is the ‘more’
- Comment on Has anyone here noticed how reddit has gotten more racist against Indians in the last few months 1 week ago:
If you read back through this thread, you'll see that in no way shape of form have I defended the atrocities carried out by Israel. That doesn't mean that Hamas' actions on Oct 7 weren't also an atrocity. "Yeh, but that was 5 months ago" doesn't feel like suitable rebuttle. No you don't use genocide as a response to attrocity, but that doesn't mean the original massacre wasn't a atrocity.
I think you should should avoid using "lol" in these kinds of discussions.
- Comment on Has anyone here noticed how reddit has gotten more racist against Indians in the last few months 1 week ago:
Fair point to the extent that Palestine isn't a state, Hamas can never commit a war-crime. So that's OK then.
- Comment on Has anyone here noticed how reddit has gotten more racist against Indians in the last few months 1 week ago:
You’re projecting here, I think. I’ve been pretty clear on my position. You haven’t said why you think the Oct 7 attack doesn’t constrain war crime by Hamas.
- Comment on Has anyone here noticed how reddit has gotten more racist against Indians in the last few months 1 week ago:
Yes. My claim wasn’t that Israel isn’t committing war crimes. It clearly is. Possibly genocide too. However, I’m of the opinion that the Hamas attack was too.
You need to learn some basic reading comprehension bud.
- Comment on Has anyone here noticed how reddit has gotten more racist against Indians in the last few months 1 week ago:
I await to see how you justify the apparently indiscriminate massacres of 1,139 people - 695 Israeli civilians (including 36 children), and 71 foreign nationals. Let’s set aside the possibility of rapes and sexual assault as they can’t be absolutely verified
- Comment on Has anyone here noticed how reddit has gotten more racist against Indians in the last few months 1 week ago:
Parties. Pretty sure the Hamas October action constituted a war crime too
- Comment on This shit makes me want to murder, some times 2 weeks ago:
it uses AI to bypass it, way faster than any human can do it
Welp, that’s a fatal flaw
- Comment on Boris Johnson turned away from polling station after forgetting to bring photo ID 2 weeks ago:
The things he'll do to have something to write about in his next newspaper column.
- Comment on Sword-wielding man attacks passersby in London, killing a 14-year-old boy and injuring 4 others 2 weeks ago:
If someone had a car, specifically designed to injure, it would probably be banned. Swords are already banned for the most part.
Legislation here - https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/the-offensive-weapons-act-2019/statutory-guidance-offensive-weapons-act-2019-accessible-version
- Comment on Sword-wielding man attacks passersby in London, killing a 14-year-old boy and injuring 4 others 2 weeks ago:
Broadly already banned unless it is an antique sword. Decent rundown here
- Comment on ONS staff refuse to work two days a week in office 2 weeks ago:
Because it’s a ludicrous assertion. Just because something is useful on a regular basis, that does mean it is required constantly.
“Why are they letting people get out of bed? If people need beds, they clearly should be lying in them all day”
- Comment on Humza Yousaf to resign as Scotland's first minister 2 weeks ago:
It’s a weird one isn’t it.