Comment on Why does “come here” bother me so much?

• Tuss@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  How is it obnoxious to say “hey. Come here”?

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  • sanguinepar@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Because she’s not a dog, and he doesn’t get to issue commands to her.

    Even if it was “Hey, can I show you something?” that would be a bit better - it’s asking for her attention and presence rather than demanding it.

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    • Tuss@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      She still has the right to say “no”.

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      • bleistift2@feddit.de ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

        People have a tendency to “want to be nice”. If it’s not too demanding, we usually follow requests. You may be different (I say this without judgement), but most people don’t like to not follow request. Hence the “come here” feels like an order, even though, on the surface it isn’t.

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  • sorebuttfromsitting@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    because we have an unreliable narrator. that is no smudge on the OP, just a frustration with some of this

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    • Saraphim@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      I’ve actually been completely transparent and honest. He and I have talked about it many times. I guess I’m here to hear other perspectives so that maybe I can verbalize the situation better in a way he can understand. He doesn’t know why he does it and I have a hard time been putting into words why it’s so bothersome to me. And if you don’t have a cohesive point, do you really have a point? And with no point there is theoretically no problem.

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