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As long as they don’t mistake making a new friend with expectations of having a girlfriend. I’ve had plenty of guy “friendships” which I genuinely thought would last for years, but the moment they noticed I wasn’t having sex with them they pulled away to never be heard of. It breaks your heart in a different way.

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teslekova@lemmy.ml ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
This is such a self-destructive act. Being friends with women gives you more chances of a) meeting women, and b) actually knowing how to interact with them when you do.

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- captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  Also the fact that many of us make for great friends
  
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  - teslekova@lemmy.ml ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Yes, I wasn’t even mentioning the whole “hanging with your peeps is awesome” bit, just the infuriating low-hanging incel fruit.
    
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Mandarbmax@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Speaking from the guy perspective (and not at all to minimize your pain) sometimes pulling away is necessary for managing feelings of rejection and longing; better to pull away than to have a crash out in a year about how her boyfriend isn’t you but also still bad. It just sucks all around.

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- swelter_spark@reddthat.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  I’ve never done this to a friend or had a female friend do this to me, but so many guys seem incapable of dealing with feelings of disappointment without destroying a relationship.
  
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  - TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    staying in a relationship that disappoints you is far less healthy than just ending it entirely.
    
    that’s true of any friendship or romantic relationship.
    
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- TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  I pull away because i don’t want to deal with other people’s endlessly negative expectations.
  
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  - AdolfSchmitler@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    I’m glad you compulsively responded to every positive comment to tell them how wrong they are and how bad volunteering is.
    
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