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• janewaydidnothingwrong@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  That is definitely not the impression I got, I think it’s just your SO is showing off the goods?

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  • orioler25@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I think that’s how men are reading it, yeah, but it reads to me like, “oh boy, I sure want to fuck my hot sleeping gf rn, but I gotta do workies :(” I know the demos on this site means most people are going to read it as “I don’t want to work, and my hot sleeping gf is comforting,” and even that is honestly fucked up and objectifying.

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    • Zensate@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Please tell me this is a joke

      Have you woke-ified wanting to sleep with your partner?

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      • orioler25@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        While they’re unconscious and not in a sexual situation? Yeah, I’m gonna wokeify a meme making light of the assumptions men make about this situation. Lemmites respond very negatively when I point out rape culture on here, and as I said, that isn’t surprising given the userbase.

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    • joelectron@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      This is not inherently rape-y, and it seems weird to me that you immediately assumed it was.

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      • orioler25@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Oh wow, that’s genuinely funny to use a gaslighting thing right below this (“you’re weird if you ‘assume’ dangerous behaviour”). This form of sexual violence is still super common, and most men still don’t challenge the assumed consent of a relationship; all of that of course besides the fact that they’re sexualizing her body in a non-sexual situation, which is just a bit of a problem on its own (but not necessarily depending on the relationship).

        So, yeah, it’s a bit rapey, and as I said, since this site is mostly youngish to middle-aged STEM men, that isn’t what these people are going to read from it even though it is present.

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• protist@retrofed.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Have you ever had a partner who enjoys sex with you

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• NepGinger@lemy.nl ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  It’s not. Looking at my handsome man sleeping naked would make me sad to leave. I like it if my boyfriend doesn’t want to go because he thinks I’m too sexy to leave. It has happened that a partner called in sick because I was in his bed.

  He woke me up for sexy times. In each of these situations, the other has been woken up for sexy times. All of this is normal within a relationship. Instantly thinking of rape within a relationship is weird, to say the least.

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• anon_8675309@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Definitely rapey vibes

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• Return_of_Chippy@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  What’s your opinion on the consensual “free use” kink?

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• BeerStainedBunny@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  People in loving relationships don’t think a partner admiring them is rapey just because they’re asleep. This is one of the saddest comments I’ve read especially because you don’t realize how sad it is

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• Saapas@piefed.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Gotta say, I love your edit

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