You’ve got it backwards. Read the post again.
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blunderworld@lemmy.ca 2 days ago
Imagine caring if someone texts you back immediately. Real maturity is recognizing that most adults have other things going on and can’t/won’t be glued to their phone all day long.
dogdeanafternoon@lemmy.ca 2 days ago
blunderworld@lemmy.ca 2 days ago
My comment mostly has to do with the ‘mature’ part, implying that the mature thing to do is to text someone back immediately. And conversely, not texting back immediately is immature.
That said, reading comprehension is not always my strong suit, so fair play. Me brain no work so good.
yermaw@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
Yeah but like instantly instantly is weird. You kind of expect there to be a period where they free their hands, then check the message, then weigh up whether it warrants a conversation right now, then think what to say, then type it. Could take 30 seconds, could take 3 hours if they’re fully busy and you get sidelined.
A reaponse in 2 seconds from cold open always sets me off balance.
Sanguine@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
You’re thinking too much. Instant responses are not weird. Am I supposed to just wait for a bit so that youre wheels don’t start turning in the most un charitable direction.
revelrous@sopuli.xyz 1 day ago
There’s a weird sort of etiquette with introverts. With some people I am replying instantly, but scheduling the send on a bit of delay so they don’t feel pressured to essentially start a real time chat. Is everyone too in their head in this exchange? Probably. Still think it works best for some.
Sanguine@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day ago
Hey if thats something you all came up with thats just being courteous / conscientious of your friends needs / preferences.
yermaw@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
Nobody owes anybody anything man do what you want. Its still weird though. Like when you knock a door and they answer it immediately because they were stood right there. You dont expect it.
Sanguine@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
I agree that would be weird. Difference is a person is holding their phone throughout the day. Its not a good comparison cause the behavior of standing by the front door waiting for it to knock is unusual behavior.
technohacker@programming.dev 2 days ago
I mean, personally it’s because I don’t get a lot of messages in the first place, and most of the time I’m just lost in my thoughts and not actively busy so it’s a nice change of pace. Now, even I’ll admit 2 seconds is a little short, but I’m often ready with a response within 10
Donkter@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Also, I’m happy to text asap if we’re planning something. If you’re shooting me texts to small talk, I’m happy to chat, but you have to understand that I’ll probably only start chatting when I’m really free if it’s not important.