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DanceMomsSavedMe@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

Wouldn’t dyeing your hair a color that stands out and immediately gets noticed be for attention?

I mean, its like saying peacocks have their feathers like that not to get attention. Or colorful birds do it to not be noticed. It doesn’t really make sense.

Maybe like, just want attention on my hair and not the rest of every part of my personality? Idk its weird though because every single thing we do to our outward appearance is for the attention of others around us whether sexually socially or whatever.

I’m a dude so maybe a little different but if I dyed my hair bright blue or pink then you can bet on it getting attention. And when asked whey I did and I’d say “oh man I didn’t want anyone to notice!” People would rightfully call me out on that being bullshit.

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pivot_root@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

Idk its weird though because every single thing we do to our outward appearance is for the attention of others around us whether sexually socially or whatever.

This is where the disconnect is for you.

People can want to alter their appearance for their own reasons that have nothing to do with socialization. Sometimes it’s just because they want to treat themselves, try something new, or just feel good about how they look.

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- Danquebec@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  While I think that caring about how you look is not the same as “attention seeking”, I think that “feeling good about you look” is still related to socialization.
  
  If we didn’t care whatsoever about others, we wouldn’t have any reason to care about how we look. It doesn’t have to be consciously thought like “if I do that, I’ll be more attractive to the other sex” or “if I wear this, my tribe will recognize me like one of theirs”. But feeling good about your appearance is still, in a roundabout way, about socialization, I think.
  
  When I look in the mirror and see myself with my long hair (as a man), my metal band shirt and a wristband with norse symbols, I feel great about myself. But I think it’s not random coincidence that I happen to be really into metal.
  
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FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

Wouldn’t dyeing your hair a color that stands out and immediately gets noticed be for attention?

As a kid I thought about dyeing my hair one day because nair dying and gay culture were big, and i definitely wouldn’t have been doing it “for attention” - rather just to see how it looks, and in case it looks better than my natural hair colour.

I don’t think people like looking better for the sake of more attention, but rather to be perceived better when they do get noticed, which hopefully continues to happen at the same rate.

People tend to think in terms of “how will my current social circle respond to this change”

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Jankatarch@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
I know a muslim woman who fully covers her hair with hijab in public and still colors few strands of her hair red if that introduces a new perspective.

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calcopiritus@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
Yes. Dying your hair crazy colors will get you attention. But it doesn’t mean that you dyed your hair because you wanted attention.

If my dog goes too far away, I will shout its name very loud so it hears me and comes back to me.

Doing this will inevitably draw the attention of most of the people around me. But that was not my intention though, I just wanted the attention of my dog. The attention of the other people is just an unavoidable side effect. It may even be an unwanted side effect.

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gray@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
Besides humans not being peacocks, I think there’s a philosophical difference between being genetically programmed to get attention and actually consciously desiring attention. And wanting to look a certain way is not the same as wanting attention at any given moment from whoever.

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