I’m not comfortable with people hanging out naked around me and no amount of your “feeling sorry” is going to change that
Comment on i wonder what goes through men's minds in this situation
vantablack@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 day ago
feeling sorry for lots of the people in this thread and their prudish mindsets
i’m queer and in seattle so casual nudity is pretty normal here, we even have a whole beach for it! i go tits out at bridge raves and pride and other stuff all the time and nobody cares. and half the time i’m wearing see-through tops with no bra! like… sometimes you’ll be hanging out and some people will just be naked and it’s fine. most of my friends have seen my nudes i post on mastodon! it’s good and fine and okay. it’s only weird if you make it weird
UntimedDiffusion@piefed.zip 1 day ago
Paddzr@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Especially since I’d wager most of it IS sexual and their fantasy. No one just casually decides it doesn’t bother them and then actively goes out of social norms unless they really want to prove a point or it’s their kink… ergo, they very much do care.
wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 1 day ago
And the wrong glance or stray word and they might fly off the handle accusing you of sexual violence when it was their choice to be casually naked into front of you in the first place.
Looking isn’t violence, of course, but that won’t stop them from accusing you of victim blaming with a sarcastic “wHaT wAs ShE wEaRiNg?”
I’d be uncomfortable in the same way I’d be uncomfortable if someone were to force me to play russian roulette.
edible_funk@lemmy.world 11 hours ago
Buddy like half the world bathes together normally. Imagine being so porn brained that you can’t conceive of casual non sexual nudity.
Paddzr@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
Yet these people aren’t in ‘that’ half of the world nor are they coming from it, are they?
edible_funk@lemmy.world 11 hours ago
You likely wouldn’t be hanging out in groups where casual nudity is a thing then huh?
UntimedDiffusion@piefed.zip 5 hours ago
No, I don’t, which is why I would be uncomfortable if I was hanging out at my friend’s house and his “fling” was just chilling out naked. Especially if she was enjoying making me and anyone else around uncomfortable
edible_funk@lemmy.world 5 hours ago
Y’all have dick for media literacy. Nowhere does the meme imply that op was getting a kick out of making everyone uncomfortable. If anything the meme implies she was oblivious to it, not intentionally doing it to get a reaction. Y’all are so out of touch you genuinely can’t imagine someone just preferring to be naked in a safe comfortable space. No wonder none of y’all are having kids, you’re afraid of fuckin nudity.
edible_funk@lemmy.world 5 hours ago
Jesus context is fuckin difficult with this lot. Lemme break this down for you here; if op is naked around fling and fling’s friend, fling is the kind of person who clearly doesn’t have issues with casual nudity, therefore would not likely freely have friends over if those friends weren’t ok with casual nudity. Like, it’s fuckin implicit by virtue of having tits out. Apparently none of you have ever seen public nudity. It’s not a big deal. Nobody cares except for perverts and porn-brained internet shut ins.
horn_e4_beaver@discuss.tchncs.de 1 day ago
feeling sorry for lots of the people in this thread and their prudish mindsets
Well why try and shame them for their culture?
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world 1 day ago
See, there’s a difference between “Yeah I’d rather keep my clothes on” rather than telling other people “You should keep your clothes on in your own house with friends who are also comfortable being naked”.
wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 1 day ago
This isn’t at her own house though. Her fling’s friends are around, so chances are it’s at her fling’s house.
I mean what if I as a man were to decide to hang out naked at “a fling’s” house when her friends are over and I didn’t ask any of them if they’d be comfortable with me taking my clothes off? Suddenly the situation seems different, right?
This is just the same old casual minimization of men’s concerns when their boundaries or consent is being violated, because “You’re a man so you should just shut up and enjoy this. Consider yourself lucky to bask in the presence of my feminine nakedness.”
edible_funk@lemmy.world 11 hours ago
Not really, I’ve been in that situation. Her buddy said nice dick, people laughed, that was that. When I got across the room to where my clothes were I got dressed. You might just be a prude.
horn_e4_beaver@discuss.tchncs.de 1 day ago
So in the same vain you think it would be acceptable for the protagonist of this meme to start cutting themselves as an act of self-harm infront of other people? No matter if it made them uncomfortable?
mpramann@discuss.tchncs.de 13 hours ago
That is an insane comparison. It does not help your argument one bit.
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Imagine trying to equate comfortable nudity and accepting one’s body to “YEAH BUT WHAT IF THEY STARTED CUTTING THEMSELVES NOW WHAT!?”
What a weird reach. Just admit you hyper sexualize nudity and get it over with.
Magnum@infosec.pub 1 day ago
No, its kinda weird to casually hang out naked, like what’s the motivation behind it?
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world 1 day ago
When you’re all comfortable being naked together, and pan/poly while being open with sharing partners… Why casually hang out with clothes on when everyone would rather be naked? Like, what’s the motivation behind it?
wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 1 day ago
That’s not what this post is about, this is obviously about doing it in front of someone who hasn’t been consulted about it and is visibly uncomfortable.
did_you_find_violets@lemmy.world 1 day ago
oh, i’ve always found it kind of funny, actually.
the fediverse/lemmy have a very progressive demographic, but they can also be surprisingly prudish when it comes to anything sex-related, especially when it’s coming from a female perspective.
after being on here for months, i’ve somehow been branded as “the horny poster,” even though most of my posts aren’t explicitly horny or freaky. they’re more observational, almost diaristic, in the way they approach these kinds of topics. for example, i don’t find this post horny or freaky at all.
Noobnarski@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I’ve never seen you post something that is not related to sex in some way, so yeah you are definetly a horny poster for me.
I don’t mind though.
mpramann@discuss.tchncs.de 13 hours ago
This post is not about sex though? It’s about nudity.
Noobnarski@lemmy.world 13 hours ago
Which is related to sex in some way.
did_you_find_violets@lemmy.world 1 day ago
and don’t even get me started on the “mark this as NSFW, please” police patrolling around here, lmao. (the tamest post you can imagine.)
Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Ehhhh, I can understand people might hold a pretty large safety margin for “will my boss be OK with this”.