I like to think most of us (at least those of us on !femcelmemes@lemmy.blahaj.zone) simply want to commiserate and get emotional support while we don’t have lovers.
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RightHandOfIkaros@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Any time a group of people is open to anyone joining it’s going to get ruined by the awful people using it as an excuse to be awful. Doubly so when the original group of people is emotionally vulnerable and hurt.
strawberry_enjoyer42@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
RightHandOfIkaros@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I think most people that frequent those type of communities feel the same, and I hope you and all of the emotionally vulnerable, man or woman, are able to get real help that you need to feel better and more self-confident. Pain in the heart is not a fun thing to spend one’s time dealing with.
strawberry_enjoyer42@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
It really isn’t fun. Thanks for the kind words.
the_crotch@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Serious question, has anyone ever tried making a community for both incels and femcels so they can learn about each other and find common ground? I think it could be beneficial to both.
MeowerMisfit817@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Last Incel I met was a child groomer.
the_crotch@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Oof. I can see where that would turn you off to the idea.
BreakerSwitch@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Damn.
Fizz@lemmy.nz 2 weeks ago
Incels and femcels are natural enemies.
RightHandOfIkaros@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
An Incel would say to a femcel “I’ll date you” and the femcels would say no therefore proving the Incels point thats its voluntary celibacy.
I won’t lie, they would kinda have a point with that.
I am not suggesting incels and femcels should date each other, that probably would be a bad idea, but some people who call themselves incel/femcel are just overly picky with unrealistic expectations of the kind of partner they can reasonably expect to draw the attention of. That is not involuntary, that is quite literally voluntary.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
No, they’d just hate each other.
echodot@feddit.uk 2 weeks ago
These people often have other issues too but they don’t want to accept that so instead they try and make it everybody else’s fault.
Doc_Crankenstein@slrpnk.net 2 weeks ago
The real issue is that, most of the time, those who want to do harm are themselves emotionally vulnerable and hurt, which is why they gravitated to those in-groups in the first place. They turn their pain into justification which entitles them to harm others as an act of retribution. “Eye for an eye” type shit.
Every incel/femcel began as a teenager that didn’t know better, who was probably just a little weird or was taught some bullshit by their parents, who got bullied for what they perceived as being nothing more than themselves, and they had no one to help them cope with it in a healthy way.
RightHandOfIkaros@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I wouldn’t say most of the time, but that is true to some extent. I think most of the time that the actual incels just want the emotional support that they desperately need, but when coming into contact with people online naively believe everyone that calls themselves an incel is like them. So its easy for them to be manipulated. That’s where I think much of the bad reputation online for “incel” comes from, from people that were manipulated by others looking for easy targets. Many of the people that might feequent “incel communities” genuinely need help and are unknowingly drinking from a contaminated well.
As to your second remark, not every person who has trouble with emotional connection started as a teenager that was bullied. Perhaps you are talking exclusively about the people that manipulate the vulnerable ones, in that case I can say it is probably mostly true, but there are certainly exceptions.