don’t blame being fat and boring on kids.
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Arrandee@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Kids are little disease vectors that drain your life-force and murder your dreams.
If you enjoy being broke, fat, tired, and boring, you should totally have kids. Come on, do it! Your friends and family just assume you’ll squeeze out one or two, you don’t want to disappoint them , do you?
Boppel@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
explodicle@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
They might have a baby. Once they get older, it’s a lot easier to involve the kid in your favorite sports. (For me it’s cycling)
frostedtrailblazer@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
I’m personally in the boat of seeing kids as adding to one’s life rather than draining it and making dreams rather than taking them away. But having kids is something my partner and I want. My only other dream is to ever own the roof over my head, but that’s not totally likely.
I feel that having kids would not seem as daunting for more people if we had real safety nets to support people that would even consider being parents. Such as free daycare, a basic income, universal healthcare, and stipends specifically to pay for costs associated with kids like for diapers, bottles, books, ever changing clothes sizes, etc.
teslekova@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
If I’m already all those things, but don’t enjoy it, kids can only make it better, right??!?
gurty@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Tbf, people who talk like this shouldn’t really have kids anyway so it’s an issue that resolves itself.
backalleycoyote@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
No it doesn’t. People fuck, kids happen. Recognizing people have human compulsions but don’t want to deal with the consequences requires forethought, whether that’s a condom, birth control, or sterilization. Fuck off with you “an issue that resolves itself” bullshit. Responsibility and self-awareness prevents it.
gurty@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I have no idea what you are saying, did you reply to the wrong comment?
backalleycoyote@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
No. The implication that people who don’t want kids somehow don’t end up in situations where kids are produced is ludicrous. People don’t fuck just to make babies, but since that is a possibility, avoiding that outcome is a responsibility. Not everyone who doesn’t want kids automatically becomes a bad parent when they do occur, and not everyone who intentionally creates kids is a good parent.
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Hasn’t been a serious issue since contraception became mainstream in the 70s.
I fuck all the time and have never had a kid naturally. I’ve got two adopted kids who are the loves of my life, though.
backalleycoyote@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
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Source: www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/series/sr_02/sr02-201.pdf
While there’s been a steady reduction in unwanted pregnancies since contraception and abortion were legalized, in the US alone around 35-40% of pregnancies are still unintended. That means in 2019 approximately 943,000 people came into this world as an “oops”.
I’m actually the result of an unplanned teen pregnancy and was adopted out (not the love of their lives however, more of an object upon which to heap their violence and rage). When I finally met my bio mom, who’s rad, after we’d gotten to know each other a bit she admitted she tried to abort me but was past the cutoff date by the time she realized. Some people don’t create children but become wonderful parents, some people don’t want kids but end up with them and make the choice to be good parents, some people desperately want to be parents but have selfish purposes.