“Because youre doing it”
Comment on Anon needs a good response
ottieplod@feddit.org 20 hours ago
Ask “Why do you feel that’s what I’m doing?” then reflect on the answer and how your behaviour was perceived this way. Finally, if after reflection you come to the conclusion that indeed you acted poorly, apologise and try to behave differently in the future.
Bluescluestoothpaste@sh.itjust.works 14 hours ago
GreyEyedGhost@piefed.ca 12 hours ago
Now you’ve determined that your partner is a poor communicator, because “because” is never a useful answer. Now your question is whether to try to work with your partner to improve communication, or give up on an adult whose communication skills haven’t advanced beyond those of a child in first grade.
Bluescluestoothpaste@sh.itjust.works 11 hours ago
Because is literally the answer to any question starting with “why”
GreyEyedGhost@piefed.ca 10 hours ago
Because is not an answer. Because can be the first word in an answer, but if nothing is provided afterwards than the answer is essentially, “I believe it to be so, and I choose to provide no evidence whatsoever to support that belief.” And how do you move forward from that? In fact, your specific statement I responded to was
“Because youre doing it”
What kind of response can be made to that? There is no example, merely an assertion. There is nothing specific, merely a general response. What kind of resolution besides complete capitulation or parting ways can be made based on this statement? In fact, if I was given that response in a conversation and was feeling combative, I would be inclined to respond with, “Who’s stonewalling now?” And, given how I put because in quotes, implying a complete statement, I could argue your response to my previous comment was gaslighting.
blarghly@lemmy.world 10 hours ago
You clearly need to improve your communication skills
/s
Voxel@programming.dev 16 hours ago
Trying to start a terapy randomly feeling like the one of the wort advice personally. In theory it is best thing to argue about something but in practice probably it will devolve to something else.
- If you are not know what are you doing probably wont accomplish anything.
- For this to work both side need to be adult in their emotion and thinking but this is a very rare situation.
- There is a chance if other side thinking you are being arrogant, manipulative or blaming other side.
In theory it is a basic and clever method but if you are dont know what are you doing it will be like landing a plane with written insturactions.
IpsumLauren@lemmy.world 17 hours ago
And if it doesn’t?
fushuan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 hours ago
Then they are acting unreasonably. It’s not so hard.