Comment on How to stop a parent from jumping into the nearest religious rabbit-hole to cope with a divorce?
Skullgrid@lemmy.world 13 hours ago
Divorce is a sin, so if they are trying to get hardcore religious and lecturing people, they need to handle their hypocrisy first.
Some religious cults will pressure divorced people to remarry their original spouse, regardless of the reason for the divorce.
Would depend on their organisation, some wacky organisations do exist. It’s best to get involved in a mainline established Church - heck, even conservative offshoots in the USA such as the ACNA or the PCA would still try and level their head more.
Yes, divorce is often considered a sin. And….?
The great thing about Christianity is that sin is expected, anticipated and in some ways, even celebrated.
The forgiveness of sin is a foundational Christianity principle. IMHO, it’s also why that religions is so popular, especially evangelical Christianity.
Here’s the gist: Humans are evil beings, filled with sin, each and every one of us. You WILL end up sinning and at that point, you can ask forgiveness. If you are sincere, God will forgive you. YAY! The burden of guilt is now lifted and you can go about your day.
This is why Christians can do horrible things and then walk away unphased. They have a get of jail free card. When/if they start to feel guilty about their deeds, they just ask forgiveness.
I’m not being flippant - this process satisfies a deep psychological need that many people seem to have. They want to be a good, empathetic person - but they are greedy and selfish and jealous, just like the rest of us. The Christian religion taps into this common trait and leverages it to the absolute max.
compostgoblin@piefed.blahaj.zone 11 hours ago
Isn’t divorce only a sin for Catholics who don’t get it annulled? I thought divorce was more acceptable among Protestants
ZombieChicken@reddthat.com 8 minutes ago
So, technically, divorce isn’t the sin. Getting involved with another person, however, is adultery. You can divorce, and, if the other person isn’t Christian and divorces you, you can even remarry (Pauline Privlidge). Generally speaking, the Church advocates for seperation instead of divorce in cases such as abuse.
Skullgrid@lemmy.world 11 hours ago
I’m assuming the more hardline you go, the harder the rules get.
nickiwest@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
My parents got divorced in 1981. My mom was raised Pentecostal (the Tammy Faye Bakker kind, not the long skirts kind), and she was intermittently ultra-involved in the church.
During one of those times (in the mid-'90s), she came to the understanding that she could never remarry because the only “biblically acceptable” reason for divorce was unfaithfulness. Since that wasn’t why she and my dad got divorced, dating anyone else would be considered adultery. So she swore off dating.
To be fair, I don’t know if this is something that came from the church or something she came up with on her own. I just remember thinking it was pretty ridiculous.
So whether it’s official church doctrine or not, I do think that the more extreme the church, the more extreme the rules are.
compostgoblin@piefed.blahaj.zone 11 hours ago
Yeah, that’s probably a fair assumption