yeah I’ve known subs with a “I want to wake up in the middle of sex” or “I want to be drugged” fetish.
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LaunchesKayaks@lemmy.world 13 hours ago
Do people really want the whole “be used as a sex toy any time” thing? I do not understand that at all, tbh. I’m not judging y’all or whatever, it’s just a very confusing concept to me. But sex is also a very complicated thing for me because of some shit I went through in my last relationship.
funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works 10 hours ago
LaunchesKayaks@lemmy.world 10 hours ago
The more this thread teaches me, the more I realize that me wanting a cute girl to pull my hair isn’t so crazy.
funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works 9 hours ago
I once watched someone get chicken feet sewn into their skin at a fetish club. I think hair pulling is fine 🙂
LaunchesKayaks@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
How do you even discover that that’s your fetish. I have so many questions
Machinist@lemmy.world 12 hours ago
Yes, not at all uncommon in the BDSM community. Neither are 24/7 kink relationships. However, reality is different from fantasy and there is a fair amount of nuance in how this works in the context of a LTR and not a fun weekend.
Gonzako@lemmy.world 11 hours ago
Yeah, some people are into that. Terms called free-use. Sometimes its just an overly desire to be available to your significant other but there are many different ways one arrives at such affirmations
Bazell@lemmy.zip 12 hours ago
Can be wrong, but I suppose that here people mean that they are willing to have intercourse without preparations at any time they can if, of course, nothing prevents it(illness, urgent work, emergency, etc.). No need to have each tome a romantic date or a special occasion.
lemmeerefugee@lemmy.zip 1 hour ago
Many people like a bit of subordination/domination. As most things, it’s a spectrum and there are some people tending to either edges.
The two big caveats about subordination fetishes are however that firstly, such fantasies can be a response to trauma and/or abuse and secondly, it puts you in a very vulnerable position and leaves you very open to exploitation.
It’s the “comfy wholesome” part which really holds this together and makes it great: You’re putting an immense amount of trust and responsibility on your partner if you submit yourself like that and it can only work if your partner is fully aware of this, up to the task and really cares about you.