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Una@europe.pub ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

• Tiresia@slrpnk.net ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Yeah it’s really hot when someone distrusts you no matter how many ways you help them find to get out safely if things were to go wrong. It’s so beautiful when someone can’t shower for a month because there was a spider in there once and the shower still isn’t clean and they smell worse than rotten milk.

  Please don’t fetishize mental disability.

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  • PhoenixDog@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    You literally described a lot of what my partner deals with every day. We’ve been married for over 8 years and they still feel uncertainty that I will leave them, or they’ll go weeks without showering because that requires too many spoons and they’re insomniac and haven’t slept in 5 days and just eating a teacup amount of food when I make dinner for us.

    Doesn’t mean I don’t love them any less. Can it be frustrating? Of course. Can it be annoying? Of course. But I married this person because I love the person, disabilities and all.

    It’s not fetishizing anything. Their disabilities make them 1 of 1. I married an incredibly unique individual and I love them wholeheartedly. And all the positives I get out of the relationship greatly outweigh the negative quirks.

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    • Tiresia@slrpnk.net ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      That’s nice. I’m happy for you both.

      Your comment made it sound like you love her thanks to her disabilities, rather than because of who she is which includes her disabilities. That the disability positively affects your rating of her rather than it being an integral part of her when she is always good enough. I’m glad that isn’t the case, though I stand by my reaction being appropriate to what you wrote.

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      • PhoenixDog@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Love how you not only assumed the reasons I love my partner but also misgendered them at the same time.

        Maybe you should sit down and think about how you view others before judging them.

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      • kungen@feddit.nu ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        My keyboard psychologist also says that person has some kind of codependency issues… but if they’re truly happy, all’s good and I wish them well.

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  • ILikeBoobies@lemmy.ca ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I can fix her.

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    • rumba@lemmy.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      umm this is still a Wendy’s, can i take your order?

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  • tabarnaski@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Don’t kink shame them /s

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  • Mac@mander.xyz ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I personally would consider psychological disorders or mental illnesses to be completely different to a personality disorder, but that’s not a common stance to have. Regardless, i hear you.

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    • zarkanian@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      [This is what a personality disorder is.] (en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Personality_disorder) It includes stuff like paranoia, schizophrenia, depression, and bipolar disorder.

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      • Mac@mander.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Read my comment again.

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• Greddan@feddit.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  You’ll grow out of it

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  • Scubus@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Only when my age overflows

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• Tiresia@slrpnk.net ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Yeah it’s really hot when someone distrusts you no matter how many ways you help them find to get out safely if things were to go wrong. It’s so beautiful when someone can’t shower for a month because there was a spider in there once and the shower still isn’t clean and they smell worse than rotten milk.

  Please don’t fetishize mental disability.

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  • zarkanian@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Yes, I dated somebody who had cluster B (antisocial, borderline, histrionic, narcissistic) which made her abusive. It was not hot and it was not cute, and it ruined our relationship (which was sad).

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