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PhoenixDog@lemmy.world ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

Love how you not only assumed the reasons I love my partner but also misgendered them at the same time.

Maybe you should sit down and think about how you view others before judging them.

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Tiresia@slrpnk.net ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Sorry for the misgendering, I don’t know how I messed that up.

I thought I was paraphrasing what you said. So if you still have the patience to help me out, could you explain how the things I said were wrong?

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- PhoenixDog@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  They’re autistic. Their disabilities are them. They literally make them who they are as a human. All the negatives and all the positives and all the difficulties and everything, they are who they are because of it. And I love them as a person, not despite or thanks to anything. I’m ADHD with a couple other neurospicy crap and I struggle with a lot of things. One of them is misinterpreting language on top of being dyslexic. They sometimes need to repeat or rephrase something they’re telling me multiple times (and I can see they’re becoming annoyed) because my brain just won’t process the words correctly. But when it clicks not only do I understand but they feel proud they found the right words for me.
  
  Mental disorders are literally part of the person. They make the person that I/You love.
  
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  - Tiresia@slrpnk.net ⁨55⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago
    
    I’m ADHD with a couple other neurospicy crap and I struggle with a lot of things. One of them is misinterpreting language on top of being dyslexic.
    
    Ah, maybe that’s what happened then. Or maybe I suck at writing. What I tried to say was:
    
    I now understand that you love them as a person.
    
    I am happy that you love them as a person.
    
    Your first comment made it sound like you wouldn’t love them as a person.
    
    Your first comment made it sound like you would love them thanks to their disability.
    
    Loving someone thanks to their disability is gross.
    
    I was right to write my first comment the way I did because your first comment made you sound gross.
    
    I’m glad to agree wholeheartedly with you, and I apologise for the confusion and distress. I am also autistic, but that’s no excuse for me writing unclearly or misgendering. Thank you for being patient with me.
    
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    Earthman_Jim@lemmy.zip ⁨38⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago
    What happened is you replied to pheonixdog as if they were the person you were originally talking to named Uwa, which made it seem like assumption was happening, when it was just confusion.
    
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