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• AbouBenAdhem@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Why would OP’s mother bring up the ultrasound in the first place if she were deliberately trying to conceal anything?

  I could see the twin being stillborn and the doctors thinking it was easier to tell the mother it had “vanished”, though.

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  • SanctimoniousApe@lemmings.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    TBF, subconscious feelings of guilt often come out in seemingly illogical ways such as this. Not saying that’s definitely what happened, but it’s a possibility not to be summarily dismissed, either.

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  • tonyn@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    This is what I was getting at.

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• KuromiGirl04@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  I understand that, but i don’t think the misinformation was coming from my mother if that were the case. She told me exactly what happened and exactly what the doctors told her.

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  • Typhoon@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    How sure are you about that? She would know if she gave birth twice, and a 7 month old fetus doesn’t vanish. There’s something she’s not telling you.

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    • themeatbridge@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      The second fetus may have been terminally underdeveloped, and small enough to be delivered without realizing it was a second baby. They may have told her there was no second baby or that it was part of the afterbirth, or she may have misunderstood what they said.

      Doctors have been known to lie to patients in the past, but the practice is not very common anymore in most cultures.

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    • KuromiGirl04@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      Because my mother has never lied to me. So why would she lie about something like this?

      That’s how im sure about it. So if there’s any misinformation about it, it’s not from my mother. The doctors, maybe, but not my mother

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      • cattywampas@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        It’s possible she’s just wrong, not lying.

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      • null@piefed.nullspace.lol ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        Because my mother has never lied to me

        How do you know that?

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  • Bob_Robertson_IX@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    My mom is what’s known as an ‘unreliable medical historian’… she very often hears something completely different from what her doctor tells her. I don’t want to say that she lies, because I think a ‘lie’ is a conscious choice that people make… but I also don’t think she’s incapable of understanding what her doctor tells her. I think she just has an idea of what the doctor is going to say, and when it is different she has a hard time letting go of her expectation and replacing it with reality.

    I have no idea if this relates to your mother or situation in any way… but if I took everything my mom said her doctor told her then she is the most unique medical specimen ever. Her diabetes is unlike anyone else’s because she can still eat whatever she wants, when she wants… her doctor said that it’s not a problem. And her diabetes has changed from type 2 to type 1. As she was preparing for spine surgery she was convinced that she’d be back home, on her own in 2 weeks (it was closer to 9 months). She swears that the only surgeon that her primary care doctor wants her to see is 2 states over, 6 hours from any of her family (I’ve looked him up, he’s decent, but by no means a unique surgeon). And lots of other strange stuff over the years, including when I was a child.

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