Comment on Two sides to every story

boonhet@sopuli.xyz ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

• tomiant@piefed.social ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  I try real hard to remind myself when people tell me their sob stories that somewhere out there is someone who would be flabbergasted at the bullshit being spewed in my face.

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  • moistclump@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    It’s not all the time but if someone has sob story after sob story after drama after drama I start to think they’re just telling me stories about their victims.

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    • boonhet@sopuli.xyz ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      That literally is my ex. Me and all her other exes were apparently violent and abusive, cheaters, bad with money and 100 other things. Like she literally tells her friends I was violent but also begs to get me back because her new boyfriend can’t hold down a job and she doesn’t want to go back to work either.

      Everything is protection with her.

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    • MIDItheKID@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      “If it smells like shit everywhere you go, check your shoe” sums it up pretty nice

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    • captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      As someone who fell prey to someone that way, yep. I try not to be callous, but at a certain point it goes from “you’re part of the problem” and into “you’re incapable of coping with a boring normal situation and so you just cause problems to deal with it”

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      • tomiant@piefed.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        People who feel the need to feed drama in their life feel like they don’t matter. They create problems to feel like something actually matters in their life, that they matter, that their problems matter, and they create these problems themselves to involve others to get that social validation of themselves as being people who matter. It’s basically narcissism. Nobody gives a shit about them, so they create problems for everyone so that they have to pay attention.

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  • El_Scapacabra@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    It’s extra fun when they are delusional enough to accidentally tell on themselves.

    For example, if someone tells me unprompted that their nasty family members are falsely accusing them of something and cut off contact over it, I immediately believe whatever “false” accusations they claim to have against them.

    I use this example because I literally had this conversation with a total stranger and he truly had no idea how bad he was making himself look.

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