Comment on Find what you like and stick with it

ordnance_qf_17_pounder@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

• plm00@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  For my cousin it’s day old Caesar’s pizza, literally nothing else. For someone my SO grew up with, it was noodles with ketchup, also nothing else. It’s wrecked havoc on their bodies.

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  • wabasso@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Any tips? You’re freaking me out with regards to my little dude.

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    • captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Finding nutritious safe foods is vital. People super into weights often eat a pre portioned amount of rice and chicken and all the spinach they want, and my autistic wife enjoyed doing that when she did it. Texture is huge but so is familiarity. For western autistic people safe foods tend to be heavily processed “kid foods”, make sure your kid’s idea of comfort foods isn’t that.

      Also encourage him to be brave and try new things with the safety of it not being commitment to the food, and as he’s older talk to him about what he likes and doesn’t about things and check in before trying something new when he’s old enough to. My wife has days where she has the mental energy to try something new, and days where she doesn’t. Additionally if I can describe what it’s like it takes less energy for her to try. And don’t pull the “it’s just like chicken” thing, go more “these fried mushrooms are tender and slimy with a strong umami taste, kind of like soy sauce but not as salty or fermented tasting”

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      • wabasso@lemmy.ca ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Thank you! Good highlight on “without commitment”.

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    • plm00@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      I have a daughter on the spectrum. It took many hours each week and many weeks in a year of ABA (RBT, hopefully getting my acronyms right) therapy to get her to accept a variety of foods. Fast forward to a few years later, she’ll eat anything including spicy food (by her own choice). It was definitely a texture thing, as well as her wanting a constant she could reliably predict. As part of her therapy we always included something she liked alongside the things she didn’t. We were firm she had to try everything every time, even if she couldn’t finish.

      You got this!

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      • wabasso@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        Thank you so much for your tips and encouragement.

        Since I had to look it up, here it is for others’ benefit:

        • ABA
        • RBT

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    • JoeBigelow@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Don’t take no for an answer. What’s for dinner is what you get or you can go to bed hungry. My mom just didn’t put up with my bullshit and let me not eat my food if I didn’t want it but absolutely refused to let me have anything else until dinner was eaten. If I ate my dinner I could have whatever I wanted (in the house, which was pretty much all healthy food).

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      • lightnsfw@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        My mom used this strategy. The problem was there was and still are a lot of foods I just straight don’t like. Not “I’d just rather have spaghetti-os” but, “I cannot stomach this because of the taste or texture or whatever”. She also was not a very good cook so even if it was something I liked usually I sometimes wouldn’t like it. This led to a lot of nights of us sitting at the table with me getting yelled at and not allowed to leave the table until my plate was cleared .

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      • wabasso@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        I’m willing to try this if I can introduce it gradually.

        I’ve heard talk of this causing “disordered eating” but haven’t done the reading myself on that. Do you think it caused any negative outcomes for yourself?

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• yermaw@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Could they sneak vitamin stuff into his food/drink or does that only help so much?

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  • ordnance_qf_17_pounder@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    I think they tried something like that but it didn’t work out. Very difficult situation sadly.

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• HEXN3T@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I have a less severe version of the same thing. ARFID. Turns out I’m not that crazy.

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• jade52@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Dude I used to know a guy in his 30s that ate this way his whole life. Breaded chicken + fried potatoes of some sort + vanilla ice cream. No idea how he’s doing now but he’s gotta be feeling the effects his 40s.

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