The problem here might be taking greentext screenshots as facts.
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rekabis@lemmy.ca 4 days ago
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There’s the problem, right there. Women marinate in so much attention they just cannot understand how men can want relationships and sex, yet not be able to get it. Their brains melt down when you demonstrate how fundamentally different the male experience is.
Men: if you want true understanding, you have a much better chance of achieving that with a male therapist.
Icytrees@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
rekabis@lemmy.ca 4 days ago
Those aren’t the facts I go after. You should examine the stats that come out of things like dating apps and papers published by actual sociologists examining intergender relationships. It’s absolutely wild how it runs completely counter to what most women say.
Icytrees@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
Could you show me some of those facts?
rekabis@lemmy.ca 4 days ago
Could you show me some of those facts?
On mobile, no direct access to sources. But:
Compare the average man with the average woman. In general,
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the man will swipe right about 100 times before he can arrange a single coffee date.
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out of five coffee dates, four will ghost him or otherwise fail to show up, leading to one successful date per thousand attempts.
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the average woman who asks can get the same buy-in by men for every ≈5 swipes right
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she will see only one ghosting or otherwise failing to follow through for every ≈25 such coffee dates.
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just managing to leverage a date is a 20:1 advantage in the woman’s favour.
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actually going on a date and not getting ghosted is about a 100:1 advantage in the woman’s favour.
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when men were presented with a scenario where a woman met 80% of his desired attributes, about ¾ said they would gladly entertain a relationship with her.
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when a woman was presented with the flip proposition, where a man met 80% of her desired attributes, a similar ¾ of them said the exact opposite… that they would absolutely refuse to entertain a relationship with such a man due to his glaring inadequacies.
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when gauging women, men invariably graded them on an almost perfect bell curve, with half being above average in physical attractiveness, and half below.
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when gauging men, women skewed the bell curve severely towards the bottom end, with slightly over 80% of men being “below average attractiveness”.
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men’s bell curve of women shifted objectively based on how attractive the cohort of women were. A more beautiful group was shifted higher, no different than if they were just a part of a larger group.
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women rated a more attractive group of men equally as harshly as a more random group, with 80% of them still being “below average attractiveness” regardless of how highly attractive they might be among the general population.
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individual exceptions exist, but in general women are still very loathe to marry a man that makes less than they do, or has a less socially prestigious job than she does. Women who make more than $100k almost never marry men who make less than they do, even when that difference is almost negligible.
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In fact, early retirement by the man (and sometimes, even just retirement at the appropriate age) precipitates 100% of all retirement-triggered divorces… which are invariably woman-initiated.
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mojofrododojo@lemmy.world 4 days ago
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There’s the problem, right there.
uhh
Women marinate in so much attention
lol what?
bro seek help
rekabis@lemmy.ca 4 days ago
bro seek help
For what? Being obsessed with reality? Putting evidence above ideology?
Sorry, no. I know how things are like out there, I’ve seen the data.
mojofrododojo@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Sorry, no. I know how things are like out there, I’ve seen the data.
bwahaha… never thought to go out and experience life, no, you’re convinced you have it all figured out.
you’ve seen the data? the data?
GO OUT AND MEET PEOPLE AND FORM RELATIONSHIPS YOU FUCKING TWATS, THERE ARE NO SHORT CUTS
rekabis@lemmy.ca 4 days ago
GO OUT AND MEET PEOPLE AND FORM RELATIONSHIPS
Inapplicable, already married for the last 20 years, together for 30 years.
I’m taken, not blind or ignorant. I have eyes to see what is happening out there, and a functional mind with which to examine and critically analyze recorded statistics.
BanMe@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Yeah, as usual she’s the problem. lmao
rekabis@lemmy.ca 4 days ago
Yeah, as usual she’s the problem. lmao
The therapist, who is utterly unwilling to consider that a man’s reality is wildly different from her own experiences?
Yes, absolutely.
deathbird@mander.xyz 4 days ago
I think the most women are smart enough to understand the differences between how men and women experience and express sexual desire, but maybe it sometimes grad school beats it out of people.
Like it’s truly bizarre that her first response was “Oh you’re asexual”, just immediately slapping an identity label on the experience rather than asking a simple probing question in the vein of “Why?”
(Of course all green texts are fake and gay etc)
rekabis@lemmy.ca 4 days ago
I think the most women are smart enough to understand the differences between how men and women experience and express sexual desire, but maybe it sometimes grad school beats it out of people.
You are so far out in left field it isn’t even funny.
deathbird@mander.xyz 3 days ago
It’s just not the kind of response I’ve heard from women who aren’t super libed out, much less therapists, but I suspect there is trend away from listening and understanding and towards quick diagnosis and categorization in therapy.
fodor@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
Oh my friend, stereotyping is kinda ridiculous. You have no idea what other people know unless you talk to them.
stevedice@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
Yet another one for the “Lemmy isn’t sexist” collection.
Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
While your underlying point isn’t a bad one, you’ve done a remarkably poor job of expressing it.
rekabis@lemmy.ca 4 days ago
And I am astounded at the levels of cultivated ignorance needed to not have the point leap out and bodily slap people across the face.
Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
Swing and a miss.