learning to put in contacts was kinda similar to learning to deepthroat.
I’m 💀.
I think contacts are harder though cause I still can’t put them in.
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rumschlumpel@feddit.org 2 days agoI bet optometrists have opinions about people who have less-than-ideal vision but don’t want to wear glasses for vanity reasons
contacts exist, but y'know ...
understandably many people don’t want to use them either - as someone who wore contacts daily for a couple of years, learning to put in contacts was kinda similar to learning to deepthroat.
ickplant@lemmy.world 2 days ago
tja@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
Not a contact lense wearer myself, but I think there are also soft contact lenses which might not be as hard.
ickplant@lemmy.world 2 days ago
I think I tried the soft ones but I am not 100% sure? Basically, one eye was fine and the other would NOT go in.
TL;DR: Would rather deepthroat.
Furbag@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Got any deepthroating tips? Asking for a friend…
Buddahriffic@lemmy.world 2 days ago
I think one way to avoid the gag reflex is to “swallow” that cock. Like do the swallow motion but hold it mid-swallow (this trick works to make your Adam’s apple easier to shave, too, as it kinda recedes under your skin).
Never put this theory to practice on a dick, but the gag reflex is about avoiding inhaling stuff, and we (usually) have no problem swallowing food.
rumschlumpel@feddit.org 2 days ago
When you practice with a dildo, pick one of moderate size that has an as-smooth-as-possible surface and that doesn’t have an overly big knob at the end. Don’t use dildos made from PVC or TPE, the material is porous and thus unsanitary, use silicone dildos instead (do clean those). And then I guess, try to relax, take it slow (really, really slow - for the beginning, try to put it in and just leave it there for a couple of seconds, instead of going straight to fucking your face) and don’t overdo it. Try to practice often for a short time, rather than rarely but for a long time.
AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net 2 days ago
You can start practicing just with your fingers — I find it easiest with two. Put your fingers in your mouth as far back as you can without gagging, and leave them there for a few moments, breathing through your nose. It’s important that you don’t go so far as to make yourself gag — I’ve heard that this can actually strengthen your gag reflex, so go slowly.
I found the breathing the most challenging part of it, so practicing with my fingers in this way helped a lot with that. Doing this every day made a huge difference after only a week or two. A big tip that I’d give is that you shouldn’t take a big breath in before trying to deep throat — in hindsight, that’s something that I would often do, and it made things harder. What actually got me started practicing this was that I saw someone who could go all the way down and basically hold a large cock in their throat for an extended time — far longer than one could do in one breath. That made me realise that I needed to focus on being able to calmly breathe through my nose at a regular rate.
If you want to move to something larger, a softer jelly dildo can be useful to practice on, I’ve heard, but I found that practicing with fingers was sufficient.
When you’re actually going down on someone, note whether their penis has a curve to it, as many does. When I had a partner who had an upwards curve, I found that I needed to approach it from the direction of their stomach (so either lounging on the bed beside them, or straddling their chest). A downward curve makes it much easier to approach from below, which is convenient if you’re kneeling and your partner is standing.
I also found it useful to actively try to relax my throat muscles. It was hard for me to know what a relaxed throat felt like at first, which meant that I found exercises like this helpful. I also found that when I was being too ambitious when practicing with a partner, my throat muscles becamenless relaxed. That’s why I found it useful to practice with fingers: I had as much time as I needed to practice until things became automatic, rather than having to worry about putting on a titillating performance for a partner.
An auxiliary tip that’s useful in general for blowjobs is that you can use your hands to sort of simulate deep throating by stimulating the base of the penis at the same rhythm as what your head is moving at. This also makes it easier to gradually working up to taking more of the penis in your throat, in your own time (the last thing most people want is to end up puking on their partner, after all)
wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
Will say from experience that beyond the general yuck, and logistics of having to clean puke off your junk and the surroundings, getting puke on the head of your penis is not pleasant. The acidity of it stings/burns. Do not reccomend.
janja@lemmy.world 2 days ago
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rumschlumpel@feddit.org 2 days ago
Honestly I wonder how many people tried both and agree that it’s kinda similar :D It’s the part where you train yourself to ignore your instinctual reluctance and reflexes to “touch” a part of your body that’s not supposed to be touched like that.
AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net 2 days ago
I would never have made the connection without reading your comment, but once I read it, I almost spat out my coffee.
Something that especially resonates with my experience is that my optometrist advised practicing holding my eye open for contacts without trying to put anything near my eye, because even before I tried putting in the contacts, my upper lid kept trying to close , and that made it harder to hold my lids in the correct position.
Man, this made me laugh. I feel like I’ve mentally saved away your original comment, because some day, there will be an opportunity to make this comparison to someone else who will find it as hilarious as I did.