I’m about to have my first child at 48. I wasn’t ready before now.
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A_Union_of_Kobolds@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Sometimes it takes a while. Run your own race, not theirs. I didn’t figure out what I wanted to do till I was 30. Before then I was absolutely anon, living in a room with a mattress, a PC and a pile of empty vodka bottles i sold plasma to pay for. Now I’ve got a career, a family, a home.
Dont compare yourself to others. Everyone has their own course to follow and their own struggles to get through.
Grimtuck@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Eq0@literature.cafe 1 day ago
Pardon me asking (and feel free to ignore): Isn’t that scary to have a child so late in life? I’m worried about the impact my age will have on my relationship with my kids and I’m roughly a decade younger.
Grimtuck@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I just don’t see the point in worrying about it. I haven’t been scared since I found out and Idon’t think I will be now that’s it’s about 4 weeks away. I’ve been too busy buying and planning things and then I’ll be too busy changing nappies.
I’m just going to get on with it and not worry about it. The good news is that I’m already waking up in the middle of the night for a pee so I’m somewhat practiced at that.
ryedaft@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
200 years ago people also had kids quite late.
And we live so much longer than even 40 years ago. Life is so much better and safer now.
Eq0@literature.cafe 23 hours ago
But the nuclear family is much younger, so today’s kids rely much more heavily and directly on their parents with respect to kids 200 years ago. The “village” build around multigenerational housing has disappeared, making the age of parents a much bigger factor than earlier on
rockerface@lemmy.cafe 1 day ago
I’m 29 and definitely nowhere near ready yet. This gives me hope
Tiefa@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I feel the same. I don’t have everything I want in life but I heard somewhere, “Some are late bloomers, but everyone, blooms.”
gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de 22 hours ago
you can compare to some people to a good wine, the longer it matures the more taste it develops …
LadyMeow@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 day ago
I started transition in my early 30s, before that my plan was to kill myself. Now I’m trying to live the life I want, to be who I want.