Damn. You’re a strong person. I’m sorry you had to go through that, but I’m sure you staying by her side made those years more beareble for her. I’d like to think I’d do the same, but I hope I never have to find out…
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YtA4QCam2A9j7EfTgHrH@infosec.pub 3 weeks agoI literally was a caregiver for ten years (full time six of those years). My wife recently died. I was astonished by the number of people who told me to leave her. wtf is wrong with people. You don’t abandon people who are suffering.
NikkiDimes@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
YtA4QCam2A9j7EfTgHrH@infosec.pub 2 weeks ago
Eh, I was just doing what I had to do for the person I loved. But thank you. I hope you don’t have to find out either. It is really cursed knowledge
InputZero@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I mean depending on your situation that could be the best option. Option one, stay with your partner, watch them die and experience that trauma, then when they are dead you’re on the hook for all their medical debt, and you may have lost your job for taking so many days off. Option two, leave your partner, live with the guilt of that, avoid the trauma and inescapable life long debt. Neither option is good. It would be nice to have the time off and not be burdened with an enormous amount of debt but that’s just not the world we live in.
YtA4QCam2A9j7EfTgHrH@infosec.pub 2 weeks ago
It would have been objective the better idea for me to abandon my wife with this logic. Because caring for her was hard and definitely shortened my life and left me heartbroken.
But the logic is vile. You do not abandon your loved ones when they are in need
Bo7a@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
Love and respect are not like columns in a fucking spreadsheet.
prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
That’s pretty gross, dude.
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
That, Idfk. One thing to collapse under the pressure. Another thing to get up in someone’s business and say something so vile.